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RELATIONSHIPS

EVERYTHING IS BETTER WITH LOVE

February 23, 2009
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“That is so true, darling! Everything is better when you are in love,” says Ivanka, my bi Russian friend. It is a cool Sunday in Hollywood and we have met for a late breakfast in my favorite vegetarian cafe. “That is why I cannot be in an open relationship. I love my husband and am in love with him. He would let me sleep with another man or woman if I wanted, but my heart knows that I wouldn’t enjoy it. I am too in love with him.”

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WHEN YOUR GUY FRIENDS FIND OUT

September 15, 2008
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Last November, I posted a blog entitled, “When Your Straight Friends Find Out” which discussed the four most common reactions girls have when you come out as bisexual.  But your male friends also react in all sorts of ways when they find out you are bi.   Here’s a list of the seven most common male [...]

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CAN A THREESOME HELP YOU FIND YOUR TRUE LOVE?

September 8, 2008
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Talk to some couples, and they might just tell you that there is no such thing as the single bi-girl who enjoys threesomes. In fact, many couples call these girls “unicorns” because they are magical creatures that are impossible to find. Or are they? In my travels across the country brunching with bi-women, I have [...]

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SHARING THE SAME SPERM: A LOVE STORY

February 6, 2008
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“Darling, girl,” I said to her, “I cannot wait for your book to come out.” While my husband and I were in Miami, we had the pleasure of dining with our good friend, Andrea Askowitz and her beautiful new girlfriend, Victoria. We first met Andrea in Los Angeles while she was pregnant, single, and writing [...]

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BISEXUALS ARE NO LONGER CONFUSED

January 23, 2008
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Last week, the American Psychological Association announced the findings that bisexual women are not “confused”, or in a transitional phase to become lesbian. According to Lisa Diamond, an associate professor of psychology and gender studies at the University of Utah, the bisexual identity is a stable sexual preference and bi women continue to be attracted [...]

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CAN FRIENDS BE LOVERS AND FRIENDS AGAIN?

December 7, 2007
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I light her cigarette and George inhales. She looks incredible in the silver metallic dress I made and as she smokes in front of the mirror, she twists and turns and admires herself. “Why isn’t this shit in a store,” she says, and I take a moment to realize I am having a marvelous time [...]

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THANK GOODNESS FOR GIRLS WHO PLAY DRESS UP

November 26, 2007
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Arriving after work and bundled up in a sleek black coat, Caroline is pale and breathtakingly gorgeous. “I’ve missed you so much,” I say, and I have. Trapped in Los Angeles for months, it is delightful to be back in New York with friends. She kisses my cheek and says, “It’s been too long.” Caroline [...]

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IS YOUR MAN A DEAL-BREAKER?

September 18, 2007
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Like many bigirls, Melissa wants to share a girl with her man. Recently, she met a girl online who was intrigued enough by her posting to meet Melissa and her husband for a date. Melissa adored the girl and felt the date went well. When she got home that night, she sent an enthusiastic thank-you [...]

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ADVICE FOR BABY BIGIRLS – FINDING A FEMALE LOVER

September 13, 2007
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Last night I sat outside at the Duplex with my gorgeous friend, Rosanna. After years of dreaming and fantasizing about being with a woman, it finally happened. At happy hour after work one Friday, Rosanna and a group of coworkers went out for drinks. After a few rounds of some frothy drinks, Rosanna and her [...]

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BOYFRIENDS WHO CAN’T HANDLE BIGIRLS

September 13, 2007
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Beautiful, dynamic Isis sits across from me at the cafe, holding one of my hands in hers, and says, “I can’t believe what you are saying. Everything you’ve experienced, I’ve experienced, but I’ve never met anyone I could talk about it with.” Bi since birth, Isis is a sensual powerhouse. Like many bigirls today, (and [...]

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