by Miss Bliss

Darling girls around the globe…

When some young woman or man comes up to you and says, “Your hair is beautiful,” take a moment, and say, “Thank you.”

This may seem a simple thing, but you would be surprised how hard it is for some women to accept a complement. Just the other day, I watched a friend of mine perform in a crowded black box theatre. Her piece was wonderful-funny, smart, charming- and the audience loved her. After the show, I came up to her and said, “You were amazing. It was the best performance I’ve ever seen you give!”

She turned her eyes away from me, and started grumbling that she forgot a line, she messed up the sequence of the second act, on and on she went, determined to prove to me how wrong my complement was.

“Stop!” I took her hands into mine. “I am going to say my complement once more and this time you are only allowed to say thank you, okay?” She nodded. I said again, “You were amazing. The best performance I’ve seen you give.”

Quietly, she looked into my eyes and sincerely said, “Thank you.” Her face glowed. I knew she heard me.

Saying thank you is telling your friend that you heard their kindness and have taken it in. You’ve let their love be felt. When you deny the complement for the sake of being humble, it feels like you are digging for more complements, or that the original complement wasn’t enough to convince you. When you refuse a complement, you reject the love your friend, lover, relative, boyfriend, wife is giving you.

Say thank you, it’s what all the foxy girls do.

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Vandalay Industries December 3, 2007 at 10:20 am

Hey. Thank you.

The world we be a better place if we all just said thank you when someone does something nice.


bliss warrior December 3, 2007 at 10:20 am

Thank you, for your kind response! You made my morning.


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