THERE IS NO “ONE TYPE” OF BI-GIRL

by Miss Bliss

“I don’t get the whole threesome thing.” Meg’s light red curls peek out of a crocheted cap. It is a cool, sunny Sunday in December and eight biGirls have come together in San Diego for brunch and conversation. Meg looks at me and says, “Is your site just for married girls into group sex? Because I am not one of those. I am truly bi. I either want a boyfriend or a girlfriend, but I don’t get why you have to have both at the same time.”

The table is quiet and uncomfortable for a moment. “Bliss Warrior is for all types of biGirls… Some girls are like you, only into monogamous relationships, some are married and enjoy sharing lovemaking, some identify as lesbian. There are many straight girls who’ve never been with a woman before but are curious.”

“But you’re married, right?” I nod and she says, “I just don’t get why a girl would want to be with a couple. It seems like they’re using her.”

BLISS TOP COMING OFF

For a second, I feel defensive, but I quickly let it go. “Well, there are creepy couples that exploit bigirls to breathe life into a dead relationship, and there are couples who really adore each other and want to share that joy with another. Some single bigirls like being with couples because they can explore a sexual fantasy without drama. If the couple is really in love, the lover gets to share their passion without worrying that the girlfriend will freak out or that the guy will try to hook up with her behind his girlfriend’s back. Plus, if the couple is doing it right, they are spoiling their lover, taking her out, buying her gifts, and making her feel like a goddess.”

Allison, the stunning asian girl across from me, smiles and says, “I am married, too, and feel like sharing lovers has really brought me and my husband closer together.”

“I am the single girl who loves being with couples,” Marta says and all of us turn to gaze at the girl with long curls framing her almond eyes. “It’s true. When the couple is really in love, I get to be a part of their love without having to worry that anyone is going to get jealous. It’s really amazing to be the ‘guest star’.”

“I’m polyamorous,” says Gwendolyn to my left. She giggles and says, “We love everybody! Boy, girl, whatever, we love you! Polyamory people are the best because they have no rules, no boundaries, just love for everybody!”

The table laughs with her and I look at our hostess, Dana, a lovely girl with short cropped hair and a sensuous smile. She is laughing with our new San Diegan friends, brought together from Craigslist and Myspace, and I am grateful to her. The eight of us are true individuals, living and loving in our unique way, but we are no longer alone.

 

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

Bliss

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At this brunch, we will welcome all the new ladies that couldn’t make it last time, and talk about putting together an afternoon or nighttime event. Happy Hour or Barhopping anyone?

PLEASE RSVP SO WE KNOW HOW MANY SEXY BI LADIES TO EXPECT.

 

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{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Blue January 2, 2008 at 7:56 am

Dang Blast It! That sounds like all the things I love in one place, and there’s no way I’ll make it out to San Diego. . .

I am a happily committed bigirl who just has nothing but love to shower on the whole world. . .and I consider myself blessed to have found a man who accepts and loves every little inch of me. . .there are times when we share lovers and times when we just share stories after the fact. . .but we both agree that when we invite a woman to our bed, she is a most honored guest. . .and we both have so much fun making sure she is happy and feeling just how wonderful our love is. . .it is, after all, all about love. . .

warm New Years kisses to you and yours. . .

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Danika January 2, 2008 at 7:56 am

Ohhh i cant wait!!! I missed the last one due to work. But this time I get to go!! :) No drinking for me, I hope you all dont mind a newly preggers bi girl. :)

I hope you had an awesome New years!!

Love
Danika

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Miss Bliss January 2, 2008 at 9:10 am

Darling Danika,

What wonderful news!
Nothing is hotter than a foxy pregnant girl.
Congratulations to you and your man!

xooxoxoxoox
Bliss

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MISS ANTHROPY January 2, 2008 at 2:00 pm

As s married bi girl I am always afraid of being viewed as “using” someone if a girl is brought into our bed. I think it would be inconceivable to someone who has yet to be in a loving and long term relationship ( I’ve been happily married for 10 years) to see the world from a perspective of someone married. It’s a wonderful thing when games, jelousy,insecurities,etc. are not included in the package!

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SARAH January 2, 2008 at 2:01 pm

Hahaha, I know exactly how Meg feels. I’ve been in so many different combinations it makes my head spin (I know, what a slag! ;-) . And truly, one of the saddest, most creepy experiences in sexuality besides being raped, is being the “target” of an unhealthy swinging couple. I was in a bar in Bath, England, once, with my wonderful gorgeous sister, chatting to lovely folks, when it slowly dawned on me that the people I was talking to were literally plying me with alcohol, food, compliments, cigarettes, offering drugs, all to take me home with them! Yuck! Fun just isn’t fun if you don’t agree beforehand!

However, it is lovely that there are so many different types of bigirls out there, and so many different fun options to choose from.

The only one in the group who got it wrong is Gwendolyn, who is falling into the trap that most plys fall into — judging other people!

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Molly January 2, 2008 at 11:36 pm

An easy way around the “being viewed as using someone” is to give them your full sincere attention. So many times in these arrangements there are too many “hang-ups” which is exactly what everyone is trying to get beyond!
As an often “third” who has been married, as well as been in a long term commited relationship before,..I would only feel used if I was not shown proper and SINCERE attention (and I’m sure that you are not like that). I also like what Bliss Warrior mentions about “spoiling” the other. Definitely! If they are not being spoiled at least somewhat..then they are being taken for granted. Not fun..and they won’t be back.

Interesting post Bliss! Hope your luncheon goes beautifully!

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Indie Chic January 3, 2008 at 7:16 pm

You got it right, Bliss! I love sharing my husband, whom I adore, with my girlfriend. And I love spoiling my girl rotten! We love each other equally. To me, there is no greater love.
bravo!

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Christian Holmes January 3, 2008 at 9:13 pm

I was just in Hillcrest a couple of weeks ago!
Was this brunch at a rester aunt or in someone’s home?

I know I’m a guy, and therefore can’t go to the girl’s only luncheon, but it is cool hearing about it afterwards! I think this online medium is a great way to bring the feeling of community and “not aloneness” of the BlissWarrior clan to the world.

Thanks Miss Bliss for all you’re doing!

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lady H January 14, 2008 at 2:30 pm

hey there,

I just started reading yoru blog and just wanted to let you know how fantastic it is. It’s so wonderful to find a resource that really seems to speak to the type of BiGirl that I identify as. Also, your description of why/how couples who really in love have threesomes is beautiful, and describes my sex life probably better than I myself could.

so thank you so much for the fabulous blogging!

xoxo
H

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lady H January 14, 2008 at 2:32 pm

oh dear, I’m deeply embarrassed by the typos in this comment. Anyway, it should have read “couples who ARE really in love.” And I do actually know how to spell “your.”

*sigh*

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michelle January 14, 2008 at 4:58 pm

oh fcku spelling errors. We don’t care!

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