Scientists claim there’s a gene that determines if you are gay or straight. Does that mean bigirls got two genes for the price of one?
Years ago, over vodka and soda, Sara said to me, “I was never with a girl until I met Matt. When we first met, he was shocked I hadn’t been with a girl. He said the minute he saw me, he said to himself, she’s bi.”
Drunk and in my twenties, I was so thrilled to finally have another open, pretty, sane, smart, in a seemingly-healthy-good-relationship, bigirl to talk to. Talking with my straight friends just ended up with them hitting on me, or worse, asking why I’ve never hit on them. Talking with my gay friends ended up with a talk about how soon I’d realize I’m done with the bi stage and can join them in the “purely” gay stage. But here we were. Two bigirls, both in relationships, so we could be just friends. How magical and new!
I turned to her, “When I was growing up, being bisexual wasn’t really an option. You were just beginning to be able to be gay… And I knew I loved men, and I knew I loved being a really feminine woman, so being with girls sexually didn’t really cross my mind.”
“I went down on my best friend in second grade,” Sara says with a luscious glazed smile.
“I thought you said you didn’t do anything until Matt…”
“I forgot about it until I was going down on this blonde. Right when she was about to come, this memory flashed through my head, and I remembered everything. My dad caught us.” She shakes her head. “Opps.” She is utterly charming.
“I was madly in love with my best friends.” I tell her, aware of her toned arms. “I took baths with one, we slept in the same bed, took naps. You should have seen what went on when we played with our Barbies.”
“What?”
“I didn’t have any Ken dolls. I couldn’t be bothered with a toy with no hair and nothing in his pants. Why buy that? So I only had girl dolls, which were prettier and had hair to brush….”
“Or cut! I cut all my Barbie’s hair!”
“But she’d come over to play and we would make our Barbie’s rape each other, tie each other up, force them into strange sex rituals. My Barbie’s were into some really messed-up role-plays.”
Sara moves her hair behind her ear. “My Barbie’s were total sluts. They did the dirtiest stuff and, you know what else is a weird coincidence, I never had a Ken doll! My mom even bought one for me and I brought it back to the store and exchanged it for that Barbie in the wheelchair.”
So, darling Bliss Warriors out there, I pose this question:
Were your Barbie’s sexually deviant?
Write back and let me know. Maybe it’s a sign you were BI FROM BIRTH.
xoxoxoxox
BW
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i wasnt allowed to have barbies at all
but when i played with my friends barbies we
made them into prostitutes and to the best of my poor recollection
there might have been one ken doll but he was a slave and we always wondered
why he didnt have a dick
and i used to take off his head bc i didnt like it
my sister is addicted to barbies now-i did, when i was little have
a skipper doll that i made her boobs grow which i was so into
and i had another doll which only was a face and would make her up with
garish makeup
so not sure what this says about me though i am sure my therapist thought i was deeply deranged
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so the question is, are you deranged or just really hot?
xoxoxo BW
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haha
i just wrote a piece on barbies will send it to you now….
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Hmm…my Barbies were pretty boring as I recall. Nothing to deviant. But I was already getting huge crushes on girls when I was 8 so I am pretty sure I was bi since birth anyway!
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did you have intense best friend relationships with girls? i didn’t know i was attracted to my best friends, per se, but i was VERY possessive about my friendships. when my best friend of six years “left me” to be the new girl’s best friend, i was devastated. oh, the never-ending journal entries! it was only years later that i realized that i was acting like it was a romantic relationship, without the sex.
xoxoxoxo bliss
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oh yeah! absolutely, always. and when i first finally admitted to myself(and started admitting it to others i.e “coming out”) that i was attracted to girls i realized i was in love w. my best friend at the time. we had always been insanely close, to the point where i had a boyfriend who was convinced that we were sleeping together. we weren’t and in fact we never even kissed though we came very close a few times. but i had a hard time dealing w/ it(she is straight also of course) and for that and other reasons ended up pulling away from her. now we are friends again but not like we were and i never told her. i don’t know if i ever will, she is getting married now. but anyway…oh and i am not in love w/ her anymore btw lol. but yup, that’s my story. well one of my stories
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my senior year of high school, i used to hang out with this group of guys, and soon our little group was expanded to add another girl, allie. one day, i went over to her house, and she showed me all of these love letters from an older lesbian she had been involved with. I thought the letters were amazing, (the romantic in me dreamed of having someone – boy or girl – write passionate letters to me) but she shrugged and said, “it would be better if they came from a guy.”
a few weeks later, she hooked up with the guy i was seeing in a hot tub, right after i got out and went inside. fine. i thought, i didn’t like that guy that much anyway.
another couple of weeks pass, and we’re friends again, and allie asks if she can spend the night at my place. at the time, i had two beds in my room.. one high bunk-like bed and one low bed on the other side of the room. allie was in the high bed and leaned out. “It’s so cold in this bed. Come up here and help me get warm.”
so i climbed into bed with her, i’d slept platonically with girls for forever… no big deal. and, out of nowhere, allie kisses me.
and i freak out.
i pull away. then put distance between us until we aren’t friends anymore.
later, i wondered, why didn’t i just kiss her? i thought she was gorgeous in a christina ricci goth kinda way. why didn’t i just go with the flow?
because she made out with my ex. at the time, this meant she didn’t really want to kiss ME, she made out with everyone. so i demonized her.
i hope to somehow run into allie again. i’d like to make amends for being such a straight.
peace and love, inspiring gigi,
xoxoxoxo
bw
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The first time I learned what a stripper was, my Barbies had a new occupation. I had Ken’s. Somebody had to tip, Barbie’s not shaking her booty for free. My and the girl down the street helped Miko and Barbie put on some great girl-on-girl shows. Later we started a lucrative business charging neighborhood boys a dollar to watch us kiss.
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This is my favorite blog for so many reasons!
“Barbie’s not shaking her booty for free!” I laughed so hard.
Kids are hilarious, extremely complex, and endlessly fascinating to me. They are little thinkers. Brilliant and insightful (for the most part!). And whether we all want to admit it or not…children are sexual beings too and its time we start giving them more credit for it and start being honest and open with them. There is not enough sex ed in this country or world for that matter. I understand its a delicate subject, but an extremely important subject that needs to be evolved and fast.
I would play in the bathtub for hours w/ barbies and whatever other doll i wanted to be my victim, i mean, toy. I would play their little dramas out aloud and with such passion. My mom would sit outside the door and listen to the stories. Every now and then she would bust in on me w/ an addition to the story, just to see my shocked little face. She got a real kick out of it all. As did I! Good fun!
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As for my Barbies they were sexually promiscuous.Theyd do each other,I didnt have any Ken Dolls,either,I was taught about things early(age 5) by my foster sister. So early on I had a fine understanding on things I shouldnt have known till much older!!
As to my best friends,I always asked if I could hold them at night,sleepovers were spent sleeping in my friends bed with them being afraid to touch them,oooh I wanted to so bad!! But I was so afraid Id loose a friend.
One day after school I got to enjoy a lovely bath with my best friend in her claw foot bath tub!!! Nothing happened but it was so exciting!! I thought I was so naughty,but now its good to be a little naughty!! lol!!
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