ASK MISS BLISS - HOW DO I KNOW IF A GIRL LIKES ME?
Written by Miss Bliss on July 9, 2008 – 9:33 am -Dear Miss Bliss,
I have known I was bisexual since I was 9 years old and realized I had a crush on my best friend. I am now 22 and really want to have my first experience with a girl, but I just don’t know how to make it happen. If a girl was interested in me, how would I know? What are the signs that a girl likes you? I know when a man wants me, but can never tell when a girl does. And, if a girl does like me, how do I take it to the next level?
Thanks,
Needing Help With Girls
Dear Needing Help,
Last week I was in New York, lunching with the stunning and smart, guest blogger, V., and we were just talking about this. Her long, blonde curls draped around her slim shoulders as she said, “I don’t get these girls who are never hit on by women. I don’t do anything and girls come on to me all the time.”
“Well, you are (1) incredibly gorgeous,” I say, “and (2) you only hang with lesbians.”
“That’s true,” she says with a deep, sexy laugh. “I guess that would make the odds of girls hitting on me a bit higher than the average girl.”
“I think it’s hard for some girls to find female lovers because they aren’t comfortable being the aggressor in the relationship. Many bi-girls are used to men making the moves and feel incredibly awkward hitting on another girl. I think once they have dated one girl, it becomes much easier to find other lovers.”
“Why do you think that is?”
“For some, it’s just knowing that they can find a girl they like and this gives them confidence to find other lovers or girlfriends. For others, they can ‘read’ girls better after having had a successful connection. Once they were with a girl, it’s like they can suddenly see the vibes bi-girls give off and instinctively know who is approachable.”
“It’s sad that it’s so hard for so many girls to find lovers.”
“Well, that’s why we write, love. To share some of the secrets that we’ve learned to help those sweet curious bi-girls.”
WAYS TO FIND THAT FEMALE LOVER
1. THROW A PARTY AND SEE WHO LINGERS AT THE END OF THE NIGHT
My fabulous blue-eyed, blonde vixen friend, Nikita is in a relationship and has no trouble finding girls to bring into their thing. She swears that one of the best ways to figure out who is interested in her and her man is to throw a party. “I always make sure my friends know I am bi. I don’t hide it. So, I’ve noticed that whenever I throw a party, if a girl is interested in us, she will hang out until the very end, when everyone else has left. Sometimes, we are shocked because it’s the straightest-seeming girl who’s game at the end of the night! If she wants one more drink after everyone else has gone, you can pretty much bet she’s asking you to seduce her.”
2. INVITE CUTE GIRLS OVER FOR A SWIM
Another beautiful brunette bi friend of mine says her swimming pool does all of the seducing for her. “When I am into a girl, I invite her over to my place. After a drink or two, I smile at her and say, ‘Want to go for a swim?’ Naturally, she says, ‘I would, but I don’t have a swim suit.’ That’s when I say, ‘Why do you need a suit? I’m not wearing one.’ Once we’re in the pool, she’s all mine!”
3. IF YOU AREN’T AFRAID OF REJECTION, MAKE THE FIRST MOVE AT A BAR
A couple of years ago, I met a bi-girl who was studying to get her M.A. in Education. Sporting long, muscular legs and a sweet light brown bob, she says it’s easy to find bi lovers – as long as you don’t mind rejection. “I just go up to cute girls in bars and tell them I think they are beautiful. If that doesn’t scare them, I order us both drinks, chat awhile, then ask her straight up if she’d like to go home with me. Once I got over the fear that I might be turned down, I was shocked by how many girls said, yes.”
4. PLACE SOME SEXY GIRL-GIRL PICTURES IN KEY PLACES IN YOUR APARTMENT
A couple of hot girl-girl pictures or pictures of pin-ups placed in your bedroom, or the bathroom, can give girls the signal that you are open to being approached. Let them figure out your sexuality through your art and see if they don’t end up lingering later, waiting for you to kiss them.
5. ALCOHOL CAN STILL HELP YOU WITH CONFIDENCE ISSUES
Many first kisses and sexual experiences happen with the assistance of alcohol. A few good drinks can knock out inhibitions and help you feel more confident. But be careful not to overindulge. It would be horrible to finally find a female lover only to end up sick in the bathroom most of the night.
6. WATCH SEXY MOVIES LIKE GIA, THE HUNGER, ETC.
Invite a friend you have a crush on to watch a movie with you that has some hot girl-girl scenes. Gia is a great one, because Angelina Jolie is stunningly naked throughout the movie, and the sex scenes are truly hot. (For other hot Sapphic films, CLICK HERE) See how your friend reacts. If she gets really, really quiet, know that she may be really, really turned on. If she doesn’t like it, I am sure she will let you know. Either way, it will help you gauge if there is connection there.
7. POST AN AD ON CRAIGSLIST
I still highly recommend posting on Craigslist. For one, it gives you an opportunity to describe exactly what you are seeking and why. Second, it allows you a chance to get to know a potential lover through e-mail before meeting. And, three, no matter what you might think, bi-girls read CL and do answer ads. CL has brought so many magical bi-girls into my life that I will always recommend it.
8. LOOK FOR KEY SIGNS: EYE CONTACT, TOUCHING YOU, WANTING TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOU, JOKING ABOUT HOOKING UP
Remember that girls are not used to being the aggressors in relationships. They will give you signals letting you know they want you to flirt with them. Watch for direct eye contact or little touches from her. Is she touching you a lot? Chances are, she wants you to touch her more. When you go out and it’s time to go home, does she try to make plans with you for the next day? If she wants to see you 2 or more days in a row, she’s probably interested, too. And, finally, if she jokes about you two kissing or hooking up, she’s also testing the waters. Take a joke as a sign that she is interested, and wants you to confirm that you are attracted to her, as well.
9. REMEMBER TO LOVE YOURSELF AND THE RIGHT GIRL WILL FIND YOU
It’s simple advice, but the most important in the end. The more you love yourself, the sexier you will be and the more likely she will find you.
XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ALSO ENJOY:
ASK MISS BLISS - WHY WON’T SHE MEET ME FOR A DATE?
ASK MISS BLISS - A GIRL’S FIRST THREESOME
ASK MISS BLISS - THE ART OF FLIRTATION
ASK MISS BLISS - HE DOESN’T BELIEVE I’M COMMITTED
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She Danced Into My Fairytale - Part Two - A Baby Bi-Girl Shares Her First Time
Written by Jungle Jane on July 8, 2008 – 9:45 am -Dearest Readers, Jungle Jane returns with Part Two of her first bisexual experience, She Danced Into My Fairytale. Missed Part One? CLICK HERE to catch up. XOXOXOXO BLISS WARRIOR
I woke up leisurely, made a breakfast, and got some work done. I took a long hot shower later in the day. I shampooed twice, used a little extra conditioner, shaved those sexy legs and delicate underarms and sensitive bikini line. I soaped up my body with my olive soap bar, rinsed, and dried. I combed my long hair out straight and tied up a couple strands to keep it out of my face. I lotioned up my body and painted my toes bright pink. I slipped on my skirt and a shirt that matched, but just didn’t quite feel like the right shirt. None of the other shirts seemed any better, so I settled. You know how clothes can be sometimes.
I got to the party a little early. The ballerina was there. Danya showed up with a little number she got at Savers for one of us. It was an evocative blue lingerie top with a fancy fitting zip back and classy sequence lining the seams. She grabbed the ballerina and me by the hand and led us into her office space to try it on and model it for her.
I was not wearing any panties under my skirt and Miss D. yanked my skirt right off my tiny hips! “Try it on, baby!,” she said in a vodka tone of voice with fierce excitement for this top that she just knew would fit us perfectly. The ballerina and I have the same body shape . The shy coldness of the air on my bare ass quickly melted away with warmth as I threw my boring shirt onto the floor. I slipped into the top and the ballerina zipped up the back and admired me from behind while Danya checked me out in the front. This top barely hid my yoni and only half of my ass. Feeling fully exposed, I was a little nervous to look in the mirror. I took a deep breath and turned to check myself out with two adoring women by my side that made me feel like a goddess.
“My turn,” the ballerina said and spun her clothes off in the most gracious of ballerina ways. Her smile is bright white and ear to ear. Her eyes are brown like her curly hair and her skin is golden. I helped her slip into the top and zipped it up making sure to feel her softness. She spins for us. She pirouettes, points her toes, arches and bends and laughs.
She made me feel drunk.
I picked up her silk sarong and had to try on its softness. She saw me and said, “Yes,” and grabbed my skirt and put it on. The skirt was perfect on her. She loved how it felt as on her as much as I enjoyed her silk on me. She grabbed a gold, shimmery piece of fabric and tied it around her chest with a bow over the shoulder. Stunning. She was a model. I put her top on me and we traded clothes for the night. I was now covered in her smell
and the party just started. We flashed smiles at each other from across the room all night. Made sure to touch each other each time we passed while mingling. Finally, when it was proper to get comfortable and listen to the music we took our seats next to each other.
Her fire burned next to mine while we sat next to the flaming bon fire. Encircled by gardenia bushes wrapped in Passion Fruit, the smell in the air was intoxicating. The music played. Our breathing was tantric and our bodies magnets. The energy flowed out of my mouth and into hers. Out of hers and into mine. The circulation stirred the nerves around my navel and began to swirl in my belly. We leaned on each other. Our fingers danced on each other’s skin. We whispered sweet sounds into our ears and necks. I kissed her shoulder. She kissed my cheek. I squeezed her leg. She squeezed my foot. She moaned. This girl is made of nerve endings. She knows how to moan. She looks at me in amazement. She has a charge coming off of her. I thought I felt her body orgasm or something to the equivalent as my body did the same. If there is such a thing as being on the same wavelength, we were.
When the party was ending I asked her to walk me to the drive. I wanted to say goodbye in private. We held hands on our short walk and hugged with our faces buried in our necks. I pull back to see that her top had come down. What can I say, it was loose fitting. Her breasts are perfect.
I had to kiss one of them. I didn’t have to nibble, I suppose, but I did.
Then I kissed her cheek one more time and floated home in her clothes.
TO BE CONTINUED…
XOXOXOX
JUNGLE JANE
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IF YOU ENJOYED JUNGLE JANE’S WORK, YOU MAY ENJOY READING HER OTHER TRUE STORIES:
CRUSHING ON THE TAKEN GIRL: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A GIRL’S FIRST VIBRATOR: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
GETTING HER NUMBER: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
FROM OUR OTHER GUEST BLOGGERS:
V.:
AND THEN THERE WERE TWO - A SERIALIZED TRUE STORY OF A GIRL, HER MAN, AND THE LOVER HE INTRODUCED HER TO.
CHAPTER ONE
CHAPTER TWO
CHAPTER THREE - A LITTLE PATIENCE FOR SPANKING THE INTELLECT
DAPHNE:
PLAYING WITH GENDER: DAPHNE STRAPS IT ON FOR HER MAN
TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN: A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
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UPCOMING EVENTS FOR BI-GIRLS IN ALBUQUERQUE, NEW YORK, TORONTO & SAN DIEGO
Written by Miss Bliss on July 4, 2008 – 10:10 am -
ALBUQUERQUE:
TOMORROW, Saturday July 5 - Celebrate your bi-independence!
(1) Bi-Freedom Day beginning with a Bliss Brunch 12 noon Flying Star on Silver ave downtown.
(2) Dancing at Exhale Bar & Grill 10 pm
6132 4th St NW / Los Ranchos de Albuquerque / (505) 342-0049
Visit http://www.myspace.com/lacivia for more information.
NEW YORK:
Sunday July 6, 2pm - Central Park Picnic
Bi Women Of All Colors is having a picnic on Sunday and are already taking RSVP’s. The raindate is Sunday July 13, just in case.
Relax in Central Park on a Sunday afternoon with your bi & bi-friendly sisters. Bring food, drinks, musical instruments, poems, sunblock, beach blanket. Last year was a blast, let’s do it again!
Date/Time: Sunday July 6, 2pm (Raindate Sun July 13)
Location: Central Park on grass across road from Boathouse Express Café.
Enter Park: 72 St & 5th Ave
Admission: Free, just bring or buy your own food or food to share. Picnic food & drinks can be purchased at Boathouse Express Café: http://www.thecentralparkboathouse.com/sections/food/menu-quick.htmDirections from East Side: Take 6 train to 68 St. Enter park at 72nd St & 5th Ave, make a R, walk left around the sailboat pond (official name: Conservatory Water), pass the Hans Christian Anderson statue, take path up towards Boathouse Café. We will be on grass before you cross the road to the café, several yards back from the road, under shade trees if it’s hot.
Directions from West Side: Take C train to 72 St. Walk E. across park to Boathouse Café. (Unless you know the way and the forks in the road, we advise starting from 72nd & 5th Ave.)
TO RSVP, PLEASE VISIT BI WOMEN OF ALL COLORS ON YAHOO GROUPS AT : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BiWomenofAllColors/
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Sunday July 20, 6:30pm Grape Arbor Italian Dinner
Hey Ladies, want to hang out with a cool bunch of bi women of all colors, ages and diversities? Join us for a delicious Italian dinner in a lovely backyard garden with grape arbor and make new friends!
LOCATION: Backyard garden at Bello Giardino
ADDRESS: 71 W. 71 St, corner Columbus Ave
ADMISSION: Free, just buy your own dinner.
SUBWAYS: C or 1, 2, 3 to 72 St.
TO RSVP, PLEASE VISIT BI WOMEN OF ALL COLORS ON YAHOO GROUPS AT : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BiWomenofAllColors/
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SAN DIEGO:
Saturday, July 19th at 8:00pm - PRIDE GIRL DANCE AT THE ABBEY
Location:
The Abbey
2825 Fifth Ave
San Diego, CA 92103….an incredible atmosphere, wall to wall women, VIP service and top-notch entertainment, plus celebrity appearances, including Danielle Egnew. Entertainment includes tight mixes on the turntables, and of course MILK is best known for is the sexy Lipstik Inc. dancers. These girls are the hottest go-go dancers on the West Coast. Be sure to bring plenty of ones for their seductive bar show every half hour. There will be a surprise midnight show. Celebrity appearances to be dropped at thelavenderlens.com on Tuesday before Pride.
For more info and to RSVP visit The San Diego Bisexual Women’s Group at http://lgbtfriends.meetup.com/200/
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Saturday, July 26th at 12 noon - BLISS WARRIOR RETURNS TO BRUNCH WITH THE SD BI WOMEN
- Location : Hash House a Go Go
3628 5th Ave
San Diego, CA 92103
(619) 298-4646- An inclusive, diverse and fun group where bi women can meet, socialize and network with other bi women in San Diego County and beyond. We’ve organized several brunches, a happy hour, and art events, and have more events in the works. You can attend an event on our calendar or organize your own event. When you request to join the group ladies, please include a photo of yourself (or yourself and your partner) or your request will be denied–this is the only mandatory requirement for membership. Also, please note that a bi girl’s male partner cannot join independently–the bi girl must join on behalf of the couple and her photo or a photo of the couple must be posted in the member profile. Please join us for conversation, friendship and fun!
- For more information and to RSVP, visit The San Diego Bisexual Women’s Group at http://lgbtfriends.meetup.com/200/
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TORONTO:
Saturday, August 2, 12 noon: Back Alley Sexy Book Swap and Lunch!
Toronto Bi-Girls are invited to meet in a back alley restaurant for lunch.
Bring your favorite sexy books to share and swap!
Please RSVP to Waterlily on Hotel Bliss for what promises to be a scintillating experience or e-mail me at bliss@blisswarrior.com for more information…
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HAVE AN EVENT FOR BI-WOMEN YOU WOULD LIKE ME TO PROMOTE? E-MAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM.
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WHY INVITING BI-GIRLS TO BRUNCH IS THE BEST
Written by Miss Bliss on July 1, 2008 – 8:59 am -Lovely and luminous readers,
In the last year, as you know, I have sponsored or attended brunches in Los Angeles, San Diego, New York, Albuquerque, Miami, and most recently, Toronto. At these meetings, bi-women come together to share stories, meet others like them, and build community. But what you may not know, is after those initial brunches, amazing bi-girls emerge to organize and coordinate future events.
In San Diego, we originally met with 8 women and now, thanks to the diligent hard work of our dear “Do It In the Dirt” (her Hotel Bliss handle) that group has 87 members and is growing. Each month they host events in S.D. and are amazing, wonderful, sweet and sexy girls. If you are interested in joining them, please CLICK HERE to be added to their mailing list, or visit Do It In the Dirt at Hotel Bliss.
On Saturday the 26th of July at noon, I will be joining the group for brunch and truly hope all S.D. girls reading this will join us for community and flirtatious fun.
Last month, I met the marvelous Water Lily (her Hotel Bliss handle) when the gorgeous Gryphon co-hosted my first brunch in Canada. Water Lily had such a good time, she immediately planned the group’s second brunch which happened this past weekend. Yesterday, she posted a blog about the brunch on the Hotel Bliss Guest Blog and I realized it would be a great idea to repost the blog here, so you could read about it, and perhaps, be inspired to have a brunch in your hometown.
Toronto Brunch Reflections (June 28, 2008)
by Water Lily
10 brilliant and brave bi-women met in Toronto today for brunch. There were no shy ladies in this gathering of open-mindedness. Within a short span of 2 hours our conversations covered all things sexual. What is it with straight friends? we wonder. Why can’t we talk like this all the time? Why are straight women so boxed in? we ask. Having already established that we are bi-friendly, bi-curious, and bi-sexual just by showing up allowed us to open up the floodgates of our thoughts and feelings…
10 minutes into our brunch we were sharing body art, lifting up skirts and pulling off sleeves to gaze at each others’ tattoos. Each adornment had a story to share, offering a window to look into each others’ memories. What about childhood? we asked each other. It was plain to see that we were all highly sexual beings from the very start. One woman shared a story about playing ‘Man and Lady’ when she was a youngster…she always wanted to be the lady, of course. Masturbation was a most popular memory. Stories about playing, in an era of innocence, long before we were made to feel that masturbating should be kept secret.
Then we shared our ‘Top Drawer’ stories. Common, ladies, you know what the ‘Top Drawer’ is…….that special place where you stash your sex toys! And how it all goes to waste just sitting there, when we all wish that we could play dress-up and have a play-date with another like-minded woman. Mmmmmm.
Suddenly, we discover that one of the ladies has a $150 gift certificate for ‘Seductions’, a sex shop on Yonge Street. Woah! We want to help her spend it…
The Brunch sadly ends, with hugs and kisses, and excitement for the upcoming Ladies Nite Out.
But, wait! A smaller group of us branches off and we head down to Seductions. We want to spend that gift certificate on something very special, of course. My fantasy suddenly becomes a reality. One of our gorgeous ladies is trying on corsets, and I get to go in the changing room with her and pull in her strings! Another beautiful babe finds a great book on bisexual erotica for women. One other luscious lady purchases a mini-vibrator, for keeping herself charged when she’s on the go! I buy a sexy pair of black high heels, and a glass cock.
This brunch went from hot, to hotter, to super-hot! I can’t wait to meet these gorgeous babes again…
Thank you Bliss Warrior for starting something super sexy in Canada. We adore you, honey!
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And thank you, Water Lily, for being a bi-leader and for taking the time out of your busy schedule to organize such wonderful events. I cannot wait until life brings me back to Toronto!
See all of you gorgeous ladies in San Diego in just a few short weeks! Need more information about the San Diego brunch? E-mail me at bliss@blisswarrior.com.
XOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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CURIOUS ABOUT PAST BLISS WARRIOR BRUNCHES AND EVENTS? READ MORE ABOUT IT IN THESE BLOGS:
FROM TOMBOYS TO FAB FEMME GIRLS - TALES FROM TORONTO, PART 1
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
AN ODD PLACE TO MEET A BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN AND SHE’S PACKIN’
I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE
MY MOM OUTED ME OVER THANKSGIVING DINNER
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SHALL WE PLAY A GAME? - ROUND 2
Written by Miss Bliss on June 26, 2008 – 11:26 am -
Darling Bliss Warriors,
Hotel Bliss is almost ready for its public launch. After months of hard work and tireless dedication from the Hotel Bliss Team, we are weeks away from the site being completed.
I wanted to take a moment to appreciate the amazing, beautiful, sweet girls who have taken time out of their busy lives to help test, use, develop, and create the first private community for bi and bi-friendly girls.
In the last month, I have been traveling a great deal, which is bad for consistent blog writing, but great for meeting the lovely women who have joined Hotel Bliss. In Toronto, I hosted a brunch with the marvelous, Gryphon (her Hotel Bliss alias). We posted ads on Craigslist, and many bi women came out to dine with us for community and conversation who were not familiar with the Bliss Warrior blog or Hotel Bliss. One of the highlights of the meal, was hearing Gryphon describe her experience using the blossoming site.
“One of the things I love,” she said, “is the diversity of women. There’s everyone from the young goth chick who’s super sweet to the joyful woman in her 40s bouncing on a ball topless. Everyone is super sweet. In fact, what is surprising about the site is how kind and friendly all the girls are to one another.”
Shortly after the brunch, I was delighted to see how many of the girls I met joined the site and became active members. One lovely blonde with the alias, Water Lily, has already organized two more events for bi-girls to meet in Toronto and is using the site to organize, plan, and keep the community growing.
In Los Angeles last week, the luminous Beverly Fairfax and I hosted a brunch where half the women were Hotel Bliss users and the other half were girls new to Bliss Warrior who found us through Craigslist or Myspace. This was the first time where women who had met online at the Hotel, got to meet one another in person. There is something funny when girls only know each other through aliases. When one gorgeous curly-haired fox was sharing a hysterically funny story, Beverly turned to her and said, “Are you Double Entendre?”
She said, “Yes, I am. You’re Beverly Fairfax, right? Hi!” Already online acquaintances, now they were becoming real life friends.
Later, when the brunch was ending and we were paying the bill, one of our new friends asked how we would all connect or stay in touch and I promoted the site. Right away, Beverly said, “One of the nicest aspects about the Hotel is how intelligent the girls are on the site. It is not just a kind community, but a thoughtful one, too.”
IF YOU HAVEN’T JOINED YET DUE TO SHYNESS OR CONCERNS OVER THE SITE BEING IN ITS BETA-TESTING PHASE, NOW IS A GREAT TIME TO JOIN HOTEL BLISS AND MEET OTHER BI-GIRLS
1. Next Monday, we are starting Round Two of Bliss Warrior’s Slumber Party Game (CLICK HERE to read more about the game). Round One helped many bi-girls to become new friends when they each answered the question, “What is the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done?” Each day, I posted a naughty answer on the Hotel Bliss site with three names of girls who may have written the answer. Users had 24 hours to guess who they thought wrote the answer and why. When I posted the winner of the last game, I posted a new naughty answer with three new naughty girls. As one user wrote me during the game, “Hotel Bliss is changing my life - I’m not kidding!” I think she was delighted by the many girls who got to know and adore her gorgeous self after reading her naughty answer.
2. Round Two is a little different from Round One because you can choose to answer one of two questions. The first is, “Describe a first time.” A first time can be with a boy or a girl, it can be sexual or not. As long as it is a first time, it qualifies you for the game. The second question you can choose to answer is, “Describe a fantasy you have masturbated to.” Already, many girls have have written to me with their answers and are excited for Monday when the game begins.
DON’T MISS OUT AND JOIN THE SLUMBER PARTY GAME!
1. If you are not a member of Hotel Bliss yet, CLICK HERE to fill out a membership application or email me on myspace at www.myspace.com/theblisswarrior with your e-mail address and I will send you an invitation to join. [PLEASE NOTE: HOTEL BLISS DOES NOT WORK ON INTERNET EXPLORER. PLEASE USE SAFARI OR FIREFOX TO ACCESS THE HOTEL.]
2. Once you are a member, e-mail me your (1) first time story OR (2) a fantasy you’ve masturbated to through the Hotel Bliss site.
3. On Monday, join in the fun by trying each day to guess who wrote which story.
THERE IS NO REASON FOR BI-GIRLS TO FEEL ALONE WHEN THERE ARE SO MANY OF US MAGICAL CREATURES OUT THERE. JOIN THE HOTEL AND JOIN THE SLUMBER PARTY. YOU WILL NOT REGRET THE DECISION.
XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY WANT TO READ MORE ABOUT HOTEL BLISS:
SHALL WE PLAY A GAME?
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS?
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS? PART TWO
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BLISS IS ATTENDING THE NYC PRIDE PARADE. WHO ELSE WILL BE IN THE VILLAGE SHOWING THEIR BI-PRIDE???
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FROM TOMBOYS TO FAB FEMME GIRLS - TALES FROM TORONTO, PART 1
Written by Miss Bliss on June 9, 2008 – 10:20 am -“Growing up, I always felt more comfortable with the boys. I guess it’s no surprise I ended up being the only girl working with the tech guys in IT. They were so surprised I never said, ‘I can’t lift that - I’m a girl.’ I would just lift the box or the couch or whatever - do all the work the guys did - while still being the gorgeous girl you see here.” The lovely girl with a ponytail of long dark hair floating down her back smiles. She obviously knows the power many bi-girls have discovered: it is even easier to run with the boys when you are a confident, femme, brilliant girl who loves being a woman as much as she loves being equal to the men.
Seven women have come together for brunch on a bright, hot day in Toronto, Canada. A lovely girl named Harper, with short cropped ringlets and porcelain skin, has helped me organize the first International Bliss Brunch, and seven bi and bi-friendly women have come together for friendship, community and fun flirtation. “I definitely was a tomboy growing up. I always wanted to play with the boys and only had 1 or 2 really good girlfriends.”
“As I have gone around the US meeting bi-girls for brunch,” I say, “it’s been fascinating to see how many bi-women were tomboys growing up and felt that when they came into their bisexuality they also learned to enjoy being feminine for the first time.”
“I definitely was a tomboy growing up,” says a luminous auburn haired girl with blunt bangs that highlight her almond shaped eyes. “I mostly had guy friends growing up. But I may still be a tomboy. You’re lucky I put on mascara! That’s a lot of effort for me.”
“Oh my gosh,” says the fetching blonde next to me, decked out in an animal print dress trimmed with black lace, “I was such a tomboy! Always out playing sports with the boys. Then I went through a granola stage where I never shaved or anything. Can you imagine?” And it is hard to imagine, seeing her in a sharp fitted black jacket and sexy heels. “When I knew I loved women, everything changed. I suddenly loved being a girly-girl and all the things that come with being femme. Waxing, jewelry, lingerie, make-up - I love all of it now.”
The brunette sitting to my left has large, pretty eyes and a sharp, sexy presence. She muses, “I think that’s because girls can be so mean to each other. It made it easier to just play with the boys.”
Harper looks up brightly. “Absolutely. During college I decided to live with four other women in a house and at first, I thought, this is just going to be a house full of drama. But it ended up being great. All of the girls got along (well, except for two and that fight only started when I was about to move out.) The girls came up with quote boards that we hung on our own kitchen cabinet doors. You couldn’t write on your own quote board, but you could write on the all the other girls’ boards. To this day, I still have my quote board. It makes me so happy to read it and remember that women really can get along without being catty or mean to each other.”
The conversation moves away from the tomboy topic, but I quietly wonder about this pattern among bi-girls. So many of us felt growing up that we were the outsider to girls and chose to spend more time with boys because they were “easier”. Sometime later, each of us learned to embrace our femininity and our sexual desire for both men and women. Is the desire to have a female lover tied to these early feelings of separateness from girls? Does loving women help us to love ourselves? Does celebrating the beauty of the female form encourage us to celebrate our own girly beauty? Or, had we been accepted by the girls early on, would we desire female love in adulthood?
Let me know what you think. Were you a tomboy who grew up into a fab, femme, girly-girl? Share your story here.
XOXOXOXOXOOX
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ARE (WERE) A TOMBOY, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
ASK MISS BLISS - A TOMBOY HANDLES JEALOUSY
IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MIGHT ENJOY READING STORIES FROM OTHER BLISS BRUNCHES:
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
AN ODD PLACE TO MEET A BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN AND SHE’S PACKIN’
I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE
MY MOM OUTED ME OVER THANKSGIVING DINNER
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COMING UP THIS WEEK ON BLISS WARRIOR:
TUESDAY - AND THEN THERE WERE TWO, PART III - Our guest blogger, V. returns with this true, serialized story of her, her man, and the female lover he introduced her to.
WEDNESDAY - TALES FROM TORONTO, PART 2 - More stories from the first fantastic international Bliss Brunch
THURSDAY - THE BEST FROM THE HOTEL BLISS GUEST BLOG - Read what other bi-girls are writing!
FRIDAY - SPIN THE BOTTLE, PART 2 - Bliss brings you the second part of this Friday Night Bedtime Story.
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NEW FEATURES ON HOTEL BLISS:
Thanks to the hard work of the Hotel Bliss Team, you can now chat live in the Laundry Room!
Also, the Hotel Bliss Boutique will OPEN for sales and flirtation with artists this week!
The Penthouse has been upgraded. Now you will be notified when your pictures receive comments AND you can organize your photos into albums.
COMING SOON - The Basement. The place for your naughtier photos is almost done. Share that devilish side of yourself with your friends.
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UPCOMING EVENTS FOR BI-GIRLS IN TORONTO, NY, ALBUQUERQUE, SAN DIEGO & LA
Written by Miss Bliss on May 29, 2008 – 1:21 pm -Dearest Bliss Warriors,
As many of you know, I have been working hard to get Hotel Bliss - the first community site for bi-girls - ready for its public launch next month. Thanks to the contribution of our amazing beta-testers, our team has been able to work out the bugs and create the features you want to develop friendships and flirtations with other bi-girls near you.
What makes the site different from other online communities is not just that it is private and for women-only, it is also meant to get you out of your house and meeting bi-girls in your area. In the last year, I have traveled around the country, meeting other brilliant, beautiful bisexual women for brunch. Many of the girls I have met have created vibrant bi-girl groups and meet regularly for conversation, fun, flirtation and support. Here is a quick overview of the many activities for bi-girls happening in America and Canada in the next few weeks:
BLISS IS COMING TO TORONTO, CANADA FOR BRUNCH!
A gorgeous Canadian friend and I are hosting the first Bliss Brunch in Toronto on Saturday, June 7th at noon. Downtown and on the water, we are dining outside with a menu full of fabulous brunch items - including healthy vegetarian food. Interested in joining other beautiful, bright bi-girls for friendship and conversation? CLICK HERE to RSVP and I will send you the location.
THE NYC BI-WOMEN OF ALL COLORS ARE DINING FOR PRIDE
RSVP’s are open for our Bi Pride Dinner on Sunday, June 1st at 6:30pm. Celebrate Bi Pride! Join a group of bi and bi-friendly women in a lovely backyard garden. Make new friends! Please also let us know if you’re interested in going to Sex and the City at the movie theater next door right after. To RSVP, visit http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BiWomenofAllColors/
Location: East of Eighth Restaurant, 23 St. 8-7 Ave
Admission: No fee, just buy your own dinner
Menu: www.eastofeighth.com
Subway: E,C,1,F to 23 St.
BLISS BRUNCH IN ALBUQUERQUE ON SATURDAY, JUNE 7TH
I was lucky enough to have work bring me to Albuquerque this winter, and brunched with this fabulous girls. Since that time, they have organized monthly brunches for bi-girls and been incredibly active at Hotel Bliss. Feeling alone in Albuquerque? Come out and meet other magical bi-girls. Visit http://www.myspace.com/durtygurrl for more information or JOIN Hotel Bliss and visit http://hotel.blisswarrior.com/lacivia. And, you can always RSVP through e-mail by CLICKING HERE.
MEET OTHER BI-GIRLS IN SAN DIEGO AND SUPPORT EQUALITY
Announcing a new meeting for The San Diego Bisexual Women Meetup!
What: HRC-San Diego June CONNECT!
When: Tuesday, June 3, 7:00 PM
Where: Click the link below to find out!
Who should come: Everyone plus guests! Membership is not required, so bring your friends!
Why: HRC CONNECT is a great way for the San Diego GLBT community and our straight allies to come together in a social environment for a worthy cause: equality.
Meeting Description: Get to know San Diego’s Emerging Community and learn more about the HRC, the largest national civil rights organization working for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender equality.
Learn more here: http://lgbtfriends.meetup.com/200/calendar/8033457/
TONIGHT IN LOS ANGELES! MISERY LOVES COMPANY
Come to a reading of my dear friend Andrea Askowitz’s new memoir, My Miserable, Lonely, Lesbian Pregnancy, and hear 5 other talented writers perform. You will get a FREE copy of her book with the low admission price. I am going! JOIN ME AND ANDREA ON THURSDAY, MAY 29TH AT 8PM, WHEN THE MISERY LOVES COMPANY WORLD TOUR PRESENTS READINGS FROM ANDREA AND THESE QUIRKY, HILARIOUS, AND POIGNANT STORYTELLERS: JOHN FUGELSANG, SUSAN ISAACS, MAGGIE ROWE and TERRIE SILVERMAN, plus special guest dancer Michael Arbizo. CLICK HERE for tickets. Under Upcoming Shows, click MISERY LOVES COMPANY. Hurry, only 99 seats. It will sell out fast! Want to know more about Andrea’s book? CLICK HERE to read an excerpt.
ALSO - COMING IN LATE JUNE IN LOS ANGELES -
Bliss is hosting the first High Tea for Bi and Bi-friendly girls on Saturday, June 28th. Want to join us for tea, champagne, sandwiches and cakes? We will be having High Tea at a fabulous Hotel in Beverly Hills. Trust me, you do not want to miss this. For more information, e-mail me at bliss@blisswarrior.com.
HAVE AN EVENT FOR BISEXUAL WOMEN YOU WOULD LIKE ME TO PROMOTE? E-MAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM!
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IF YOU ARE CURIOUS ABOUT PAST BLISS BRUNCHES, PLEASE READ THESE BLOGS:
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
AN ODD PLACE TO MEET A BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN AND SHE’S PACKIN’
I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE
MY MOM OUTED ME OVER THANKSGIVING DINNER
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ASK MISS BLISS - MY GIRLFRIEND’S UNHAPPY WITHOUT A FEMALE LOVER
Written by Miss Bliss on May 20, 2008 – 1:46 pm -Dear Miss Bliss,
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now, but we have been friends for nine. Until we got together, she had only dated a few guys, the last of which, really hurt her. Not only in the sense of a broken heart, but he broke her jaw. Since him, she was only in female relationships.
I was away at college for most of this. When I moved back, I couldn’t find her. It wasn’t until about a year later that I found her on Myspace. We started talking again, and it turned out she was in the process of ending another relationship. After a few weeks of hanging out, she told me she had a crush on me and for quite some time. I wanted to cry I was so happy. I had a crush on her since I first met her. She had been coming to me for advice for years, and I just sat back and helped her the best I could. It was killing me the whole time, but I wanted to see her happy.
When we first started dating, everything was great. We spent all the time we could together. One night while we were talking, she told me that she missed being with other girls a little bit. Not the relationship part, but sexually. So we talked about it a bit, and she asked if it was okay if she had another girl join us from time to time. I told her that was fine with me, but I actually had some concerns about it. What if she found out she liked being with girls more than me? Or fell for someone else? But we had a few experiences and all went good. I felt a little left out at times, but not too much for me to handle. I still got to participate fully.
Now, here is the problem. The last time we had “company” was 6 months ago. She can find plenty of girls that want to play with her, just not with us. I told her that she could play without me around, just as long as I knew about it. She said that is cheating and she wouldn’t do it. So I asked her, what if I just sat in the room with them? Not to join, but just to make her feel like it wasn’t cheating. She’s not going for that idea either. This has been dragging on for months. And I’m really starting to feel like I’m inadvertently keeping her from a part of her life that is a part of her.
At first when she started mentioning the idea of having a girl join us again, it didn’t seem urgent at all. She put up one post on Craigslist, checked a few posts, and nothing really came from it. It was no big deal. But now she posts one or more things a week and checks Craigslist twice daily. I really think she is getting irritated that she can find several absolutely stunning women that want to be with her, just not me. I don’t believe our relationship is in danger, but I do think she is going through some kind of withdrawal. I know she won’t cheat, but I need to find a way to help her be happier.
Sincerely,
Boyfriend Battling her Blues
Dear Boyfriend,
First, let me say how lucky your girl is to have found a guy who is so supportive, caring and loving. She is truly blessed to have a boyfriend who understands her sexuality and trusts her enough to encourage her to continue exploring it.
Second, she seems like a really committed, loving and honest partner and friend. It is really good that she does not want to have lovers without you and wants to include you in all sexual adventures. This is a sign that your connection is her number one priority and that your relationship is strong and loving.
1. IF SHE CHOOSES TO HAVE A “CLOSED” RELATIONSHIP, DO NOT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE KEEPING HER FROM HAPPINESS
It is very normal for her to be uncomfortable with the idea of you watching her while not being allowed to participate. You are her primary partner and even though she still loves girls, the sexual tryst may feel “empty” if you are not fully involved because you have her heart. There are some bi-girls who like to play on their own, but many would not enjoy or even consider play without their primary partner. As your girl so clearly tells you, that would feel like cheating. Since you have offered to let her play outside of the relationship or just watch and she has said no, she decided your relationship will be “closed”. If she is unhappy when she cannot find a lover to share with you, this is not your fault. Instead of making this into a problem by worrying about it, be the man that is proud that his girl loves him so much, she cannot make love without him.
2. DO BI-GIRLS NEED TO HAVE FEMALE LOVERS TO BE CONTENT IN A HETEROSEXUAL RELATIONSHIP?
There is a common misconception that once a girl is bisexual, she cannot be sexually fulfilled unless she is dating both a man and a woman. The truth is a little more complicated. Even for girls who have open relationships, they do not always want two lovers. Sometimes a bi-girl can be in a gay or straight relationship for years, or even a lifetime, without “missing” sex with the other gender. Even couples who play a lot sometimes need time to just be together, one-on-one. Since your girlfriend is not interested in playing without you and is still openly and honestly searching for the right lover for you both, don’t worry that the search is making her unhappy. Instead, focus on loving her right now and be proud that she is so true and dedicated to you.
3. SOMETIMES FINDING A THIRD IS HARD AND MAYBE THAT IS A GOOD THING
I know that you are concerned that you are inadvertently keeping her from being happy if she does not have female sexual companionship. It can be very hard to meet the right person to bring into your relationship, at times. You are both very lucky to have already had such nice connections with female lovers. For some couples, this is a shared fantasy that never becomes a reality, so, already, you are ahead of the pack. Remember that it is okay to have a period of time where you two are monogamous. Sometimes, the universe makes it hard to find a third because you both need time to be together and work on your core relationship. If you are concerned for her happiness, do not create drama and worry that she cannot be fulfilled in a relationship that is just with you. Instead, focus on loving her, being her sexual champion, and keeping her happy in your bed.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
ASK MISS BLISS - HOW DOES A “GOOD GUY” MEET A BI-GIRL?
ASK MISS BLISS - MY BOYFRIEND’S PUSHING HARD FOR A THREESOME
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS, PT I?
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS, PT II?
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SHALL WE PLAY A GAME?
Written by Miss Bliss on May 7, 2008 – 9:40 am -For my 33rd birthday, I decided to have a slumber party. I invited my six sexiest bi-girl friends and told them they had to come in lingerie. These friends did not know one another, but they trusted me to invite girls like them: smart, sexy, savvy bi-girls.
My man and I spent an entire week getting the apartment ready for the big fest. I covered the floor in red and purple satin cushions and balloons draped ribbons from the ceiling. Candles were everywhere and the music playlist was just right - setting the stage for a sensational event. It was the slumber party I couldn’t have imagined as a little girl, but always wished could happen as an adult.
But before the girls could come to the party, I asked them to help me plan for the main event: THE GAME.
Even when girls know each other are bi, it is tricky to feel comfortable enough to be their open, flirtatious selves until they feel they KNOW the other girls. Many bi-girls are not used to being the aggressor, so they can be shy even when they are with other open girls. With my man’s assistance, we created a game to help my friends get to know one another while ensuring the conversation did not revolve around boring small talk.
A few days before the party, I e-mailed each of the girls three questions and asked them to e-mail me their answers before the day of the party.
The questions were:
1. WHAT IS THE NAUGHTIEST THING YOU’VE EVER DONE?
2. WHAT IS A FANTASY THAT YOU HAVE MASTURBATED TO?
3. HOW DO YOU COME? (OR, WHAT MAKES YOU CLIMAX?)
Each girl sent me their answers, and I printed them out in the same font onto individual index cards. When the girls arrived, we began to play the game.
The first round was, “What is the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done?”
We sat on the satin cushions in a circle, and the first girl picked one of the index cards and read the answer printed on it. She then had to guess who had written the answer. If she guessed right, she got to dare the girl to do something. If she guessed incorrectly, the girl who wrote the answer got to dare her to do something.
It was incredibly fun and interesting to contrast first impressions with the daring, sexy and hot answers on the cards. Did the shy blonde have sex with a coworker on the conference table during lunch? Did the vivacious, bubbly brunette cut school to make out with her best friend?
Soon, the girls felt like they knew each other very well. And, the dares became more and more daring.
Let’s just say… we never got to round 3.
1. WANT TO PLAY THE GAME?
Starting next Monday, we are playing the game at Hotel Bliss. If you are already a member, log in and e-mail me with your answer to the first question, “What is the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done?” If you aren’t a member yet, click here and sign up to be a beta tester at the Hotel Bliss slumber party. Membership is completely and totally free to all fabulous females.
Obviously, we cannot dare each other to do things in the cyber-world, but this is an excellent way to get to know other bi and bi-friendly girls in a new and fun way. Besides, you may just learn how naughty you and the girls around you, really are!
2. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO JOIN THE GAME
We already have a bunch of Hotel Bliss guests who are game to play. You can help encourage others to play by commenting here saying you are in the game, too.
3. DO NOT POST YOUR ANSWER HERE AS IT WILL GIVE THE ANSWER AWAY.
E-mail me your answer to the first question through the hotel or directly to bliss@blisswarrior.com ASAP. The sooner I receive your answer, the faster you will be in the game.
4. THE GAME STARTS MONDAY, MAY 12th.
Starting next Monday, I will post one answer a day along with five of the participant names. By checking out the five girls hotel rooms can you figure out which girl wrote the answer? The first girl to guess who wrote the answer will be highlighted as a Hotel Bliss Goddess and, if they desire, they can ask a “truth” question to the author of the answer. Each day a new answer will be posted, along with five new participants, until we’ve posted them all and are ready for question number two.
Don’t be shy, girls. We all want to answer the question, “How do I meet a bi-girl?” The Hotel Bliss Party Game is the best way to get to know other bi-girls and make new fabulous friends.
Comment here to show you are game and encourage your friends to do the same.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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BEEN WONDERING WHERE BLISS HAS BEEN THIS LAST WEEK? I’VE BEEN MOVING TO A LOVELY 1920′S HOLLYWOOD COTTAGE, WITH A SWEET YARD FULL OF JASMINE AND HUMMINGBIRDS. MY MAN, MY CATS AND I HAVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER, BUT I AM GLAD TO BE BACK AT WORK!
XOXOXOXOX BW
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TOMORROW: JUNGLE JANE RETURNS WITH A NEW POST ON BEING A BABY BI-GIRL
FRIDAY: FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORIES RETURN WITH FOLLOW MY RULES, PART II
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CANADIAN GIRLS GET READY - BLISS IS COMING TO TORONTO THE FIRST WEEK OF JUNE. WANT TO BRUNCH? E-MAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM.
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AND THEN THERE WERE TWO - CHAPTER ONE
Written by Miss Bliss on April 15, 2008 – 10:31 am -Dearest Readers -
Please welcome our newest guest blogger from New York City, Violet. V. is a Ph.D. candidate, performer, writer and all-around fabulous bi-girl. In a serialized blog, V. will share the true and powerful tale of her relationship with her man and the female lover she met through him. Every other week, V. will return with a new installment of this passionate, true tale.
XOXOXOXOXOXO - BLISS WARRIOR
AND THEN THERE WERE TWO
There is a moment, we all have them, just a moment maybe only long enough to breath in and out and blink a couple of times but you know something compelling and immediate has passed, a contract, a promise has been made with another person. Sometimes you aren’t even sure what it is you have signed on for but are acutely aware a silent pact has been made. A promise which you know somewhere in your heart you will honor. In my opinion, desire works in just this way and in my experience it always wins; it stems from an ethereal inarticulate place and waits to be manifested.
I was sitting with my man, my love, at a Moroccan restaurant in London. Months before, our silent contract began. I was conducting an interview in his office and without warning, in a split second, the air shifted and his gaze suddenly became intently steady and my once direct look dissolved into a series of sideways glances. After I concluded the interview and the tape recorder had been turned off we shared a passionate kiss and with spinning heads we handed each other our hearts. Anyhow, here we were many months later, and he was quietly eating some hummus. As he ate, his fingertips occasionally found the inside of my left thigh and he listened as I became immersed in a passionate discussion with the vivid but slightly nervous creature to his left. She and I were nonstop with words, laughter, and the occasional gentle verbal poking at this man whom we both knew from entirely different vantage points. He was my lover and she was his colleague, well employee to be more precise.
After our dinner plates had been cleared from the table, there was that moment again. As the moment passed between she and I, the tone in our voices changed. I unwittingly began to bite my lower lip and look at her from under my now slightly-lowered lids. While not being remotely predatory, I could feel her eyes taking in my collarbone, hands, neck, and I did nothing to dissuade or disconnect the silent exchange. Just as quickly as it arrived, the moment vanished, and the tempo of the conversation picked itself up and we ordered a round of coffee.
As she had a two-hour drive home, our goodbyes were rushed and hasty but with the promise of connecting again when she was back in the city. I took that extra second to kiss each cheek allowing the spicy scent of her perfume and the lovely smell of her freshly shampooed hair to mingle and flood my senses. She hopped in her car and was gone. Louis wrapped his arm around my waist and the light summer night guided us back to his flat.
I am no withering flower nor am I an innocent, far from it, but my heart still races when faced with these moments. I never expect them and suddenly I am nervous. A person can never fully know where this unspoken promise will lead until the journey has already begun and had it begun or had I imagined it? These instances thoroughly disrupt my sense of order and control. Attempts at effective or productive analyzing are utterly futile. I am forced to surrender into a familiar territory, but a territory made disarmingly new again by an unfamiliar person. Initial surrender has never been my strong point.
The next morning, I opened my eyes for a second time to find Louis but instead of feeling him moving inside me, gently fucking me out of slumber as he had earlier, he was now packing for a week away on business. The soft white cotton of the sheets caressed my bare skin and he came over to deliver one last deep kiss before leaving for the airport. He looked into my eyes, his finger lovingly traced my tummy and my breasts as he lightly kissed each of my eyelids.
“I love you, every cell of me will miss you, and I will call you when I land.” He started for the door, but then stopped and turned. “Oh, and while you were sleeping, upon request, I sent Gemma your mobile number.” I blinked at him. He regarded me for a moment and finished with, ‘”I only ask that you tell me if anything happens while I am away.”
In all honesty and genuine seriousness I asked him what he meant. My answer came as a sideways glance as he headed out the door.
As the front door closed behind him, I looked at my phone and there she was…
XOXO
V.
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ALSO ENJOY READING THESE TRUE TALES WRITTEN BY OUR FABULOUS GUEST BLOGGERS:
FROM JUNGLE JANE:
A GIRL’S FIRST VIBRATOR: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
GETTING HER NUMBER: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
FROM DAPHNE:
TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN: A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
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BRUNCH WITH BLISS THIS SATURDAY IN WEST HOLLYWOOD!
WE HAVE OVER 15 BI-GIRLS COMING OUT TO BRUNCH THIS WEEKEND.
SOME ARE BRINGING PARTNERS, SOME ARE COMING WITH FRIENDS.
WOULD YOU LIKE TO JOIN US?
E-MAIL CAMMIE ON MY TOP FRIENDS ON MYSPACE.COM/THEBLISSWARRIOR OR E-MAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM FOR THE TIME AND LOCATION.
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