Bliss Warrior

NOT SEEKING BARBIE - Tales from the San Diego Brunch

Written by Miss Bliss on August 5, 2008 – 3:08 pm -

“You know why they flag your posts on Craigslist,” says a fetching brunette wearing dark sunglasses. “Because you are a real girl. Craigslist will post the most outrageous fake stuff from some creepy guy pretending to be a girl - but if you actually are a woman? Flagged right away!”

Twenty-two bi and bi-friendly women came together for brunch in San Diego on a warm Saturday in July. Unfortunately for me, I got stuck in four hours of Comic-Con traffic on Interstate 5 and arrived right when the bill was being passed around. Luckily for me, half of the girls offered to extend the afternoon by having a drink a block and a half away in a dive bar. We are out back on the patio, musing on why our ads keep getting flagged on Craigslist.

“I think it’s unhappy lesbians,” I say. “They have so much hostility towards bi-girls and don’t think we should be posting on w4w. I wish Craig would make a section for just bi personals.”

“It’s not lesbians,” says the brunette emphatically. “It’s Craigslist’s aversion to REAL ads from REAL girls that is the problem.”

“I think the second anyone sees ‘bi’ in an ad, it gets flagged. I could not keep an ad about this brunch up for more than five minutes without it being taken down, no matter how much I begged for it not to be flagged.”

“But I didn’t have bi or bisexual anywhere in my ad,” the brunette says. “I wrote the sweetest, most normal ad ever. Seriously! I titled it ‘Not Seeking Barbie’, and wrote that I was a girl looking for a non-plastic real girl. The sweetest most genuine ad ever! Not seeking Barbie! I described myself and what I was looking for - followed all the rules for a w4w post and NEVER mentioned I was bi. Five seconds later, it’s flagged!”

“And the creepiest, grossest, obviously fake ads where some guy is seeking three women to stick live animals up his behind never get flagged,” laughs a tall gorgeous redhead.

“Oh, you saw my ad,” jokes the brunette and the two of them laugh.

“Have you written to Craigslist and asked them why your post was flagged,” asks our sweet hostess with cropped hair.

“I have tried,” I say, “but they send you to this completely unhelpful page where a ‘flagging’ expert is supposed to write you back, but they make it so cryptic it’s like you are just supposed to get frustrated and give up.”

“So what do we do if we can’t post on Craigslist,” asks another pretty girl in polka dots.

The conversation moves again to various topics: pride, lesbian-bi tension, dating girls, turning straight girls… We laugh and talk and once again, I am amazed and delighted by the magical openness of bi women. Their sexual power, friendliness, joy and exuberance.

I turn to our hostess and event organizer and say, “Isn’t it amazing how far your group has come in less than a year?”

She smiles and says, “We are up to 100 members now. It is truly amazing! And look at what you’ve accomplished this year, too - the blog, the hotel, the cities you’ve visited…”

I smile at her and thank her for being the leader she is. Even with the frustrations we experience with Craigslist, we are slowly finding each other and for the first time, organizing.

“Next year,” the redhead announces, “we are going to have a Bliss Warrior float in San Diego Pride. It’s time to bring the real party to pride!”

I hug her and the many new friends I have made and slowly prepare myself for the drive back to LA.

HAVE YOU HAD A CRAIGSLIST POSTING FLAGGED? TELL ME ABOUT IT!

WHY DO YOU THINK IT WAS FLAGGED?

XOXOXOXOOX
BLISS WARRIOR

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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING ABOUT OTHER BLISS BRUNCHES:
WHY INVITING BI-GIRLS TO BRUNCH IS THE BEST
FROM TOMBOYS TO FAB FEMME GIRLS - TALES FROM TORONTO, PART 1
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
AN ODD PLACE TO MEET A BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN AND SHE’S PACKIN’
I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE
MY MOM OUTED ME OVER THANKSGIVING DINNER
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TOMORROW ON BLISS WARRIOR -
ASK MISS BLISS RETURNS WITH MY GIRLFRIEND’S USING COKE AND LYING ABOUT IT
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INTERESTED IN JOINING THE SAN DIEGO BISEXUAL WOMEN’S GROUP? VISIT http://lgbtfriends.meetup.com/200/
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SHALL WE PLAY A GAME? - ROUND 2

Written by Miss Bliss on June 26, 2008 – 11:26 am -

Darling Bliss Warriors,

Hotel Bliss is almost ready for its public launch. After months of hard work and tireless dedication from the Hotel Bliss Team, we are weeks away from the site being completed.

I wanted to take a moment to appreciate the amazing, beautiful, sweet girls who have taken time out of their busy lives to help test, use, develop, and create the first private community for bi and bi-friendly girls.

In the last month, I have been traveling a great deal, which is bad for consistent blog writing, but great for meeting the lovely women who have joined Hotel Bliss. In Toronto, I hosted a brunch with the marvelous, Gryphon (her Hotel Bliss alias). We posted ads on Craigslist, and many bi women came out to dine with us for community and conversation who were not familiar with the Bliss Warrior blog or Hotel Bliss. One of the highlights of the meal, was hearing Gryphon describe her experience using the blossoming site.

“One of the things I love,” she said, “is the diversity of women. There’s everyone from the young goth chick who’s super sweet to the joyful woman in her 40s bouncing on a ball topless. Everyone is super sweet. In fact, what is surprising about the site is how kind and friendly all the girls are to one another.”

Shortly after the brunch, I was delighted to see how many of the girls I met joined the site and became active members. One lovely blonde with the alias, Water Lily, has already organized two more events for bi-girls to meet in Toronto and is using the site to organize, plan, and keep the community growing.

In Los Angeles last week, the luminous Beverly Fairfax and I hosted a brunch where half the women were Hotel Bliss users and the other half were girls new to Bliss Warrior who found us through Craigslist or Myspace. This was the first time where women who had met online at the Hotel, got to meet one another in person. There is something funny when girls only know each other through aliases. When one gorgeous curly-haired fox was sharing a hysterically funny story, Beverly turned to her and said, “Are you Double Entendre?”

She said, “Yes, I am. You’re Beverly Fairfax, right? Hi!” Already online acquaintances, now they were becoming real life friends.

Later, when the brunch was ending and we were paying the bill, one of our new friends asked how we would all connect or stay in touch and I promoted the site. Right away, Beverly said, “One of the nicest aspects about the Hotel is how intelligent the girls are on the site. It is not just a kind community, but a thoughtful one, too.”

IF YOU HAVEN’T JOINED YET DUE TO SHYNESS OR CONCERNS OVER THE SITE BEING IN ITS BETA-TESTING PHASE, NOW IS A GREAT TIME TO JOIN HOTEL BLISS AND MEET OTHER BI-GIRLS

1. Next Monday, we are starting Round Two of Bliss Warrior’s Slumber Party Game (CLICK HERE to read more about the game). Round One helped many bi-girls to become new friends when they each answered the question, “What is the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done?” Each day, I posted a naughty answer on the Hotel Bliss site with three names of girls who may have written the answer. Users had 24 hours to guess who they thought wrote the answer and why. When I posted the winner of the last game, I posted a new naughty answer with three new naughty girls. As one user wrote me during the game, “Hotel Bliss is changing my life - I’m not kidding!” I think she was delighted by the many girls who got to know and adore her gorgeous self after reading her naughty answer.

2. Round Two is a little different from Round One because you can choose to answer one of two questions. The first is, “Describe a first time.” A first time can be with a boy or a girl, it can be sexual or not. As long as it is a first time, it qualifies you for the game. The second question you can choose to answer is, “Describe a fantasy you have masturbated to.” Already, many girls have have written to me with their answers and are excited for Monday when the game begins.

DON’T MISS OUT AND JOIN THE SLUMBER PARTY GAME!

1. If you are not a member of Hotel Bliss yet, CLICK HERE to fill out a membership application or email me on myspace at www.myspace.com/theblisswarrior with your e-mail address and I will send you an invitation to join. [PLEASE NOTE: HOTEL BLISS DOES NOT WORK ON INTERNET EXPLORER. PLEASE USE SAFARI OR FIREFOX TO ACCESS THE HOTEL.]

2. Once you are a member, e-mail me your (1) first time story OR (2) a fantasy you’ve masturbated to through the Hotel Bliss site.

3. On Monday, join in the fun by trying each day to guess who wrote which story.

THERE IS NO REASON FOR BI-GIRLS TO FEEL ALONE WHEN THERE ARE SO MANY OF US MAGICAL CREATURES OUT THERE. JOIN THE HOTEL AND JOIN THE SLUMBER PARTY. YOU WILL NOT REGRET THE DECISION.

XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY WANT TO READ MORE ABOUT HOTEL BLISS:
SHALL WE PLAY A GAME?
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS?
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS? PART TWO
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BLISS IS ATTENDING THE NYC PRIDE PARADE. WHO ELSE WILL BE IN THE VILLAGE SHOWING THEIR BI-PRIDE???
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ASK MISS BLISS - MY GIRLFRIEND’S UNHAPPY WITHOUT A FEMALE LOVER

Written by Miss Bliss on May 20, 2008 – 1:46 pm -

Dear Miss Bliss,

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now, but we have been friends for nine. Until we got together, she had only dated a few guys, the last of which, really hurt her. Not only in the sense of a broken heart, but he broke her jaw. Since him, she was only in female relationships.

I was away at college for most of this. When I moved back, I couldn’t find her. It wasn’t until about a year later that I found her on Myspace. We started talking again, and it turned out she was in the process of ending another relationship. After a few weeks of hanging out, she told me she had a crush on me and for quite some time. I wanted to cry I was so happy. I had a crush on her since I first met her. She had been coming to me for advice for years, and I just sat back and helped her the best I could. It was killing me the whole time, but I wanted to see her happy.

When we first started dating, everything was great. We spent all the time we could together. One night while we were talking, she told me that she missed being with other girls a little bit. Not the relationship part, but sexually. So we talked about it a bit, and she asked if it was okay if she had another girl join us from time to time. I told her that was fine with me, but I actually had some concerns about it. What if she found out she liked being with girls more than me? Or fell for someone else? But we had a few experiences and all went good. I felt a little left out at times, but not too much for me to handle. I still got to participate fully.

Now, here is the problem. The last time we had “company” was 6 months ago. She can find plenty of girls that want to play with her, just not with us. I told her that she could play without me around, just as long as I knew about it. She said that is cheating and she wouldn’t do it. So I asked her, what if I just sat in the room with them? Not to join, but just to make her feel like it wasn’t cheating. She’s not going for that idea either. This has been dragging on for months. And I’m really starting to feel like I’m inadvertently keeping her from a part of her life that is a part of her.

At first when she started mentioning the idea of having a girl join us again, it didn’t seem urgent at all. She put up one post on Craigslist, checked a few posts, and nothing really came from it. It was no big deal. But now she posts one or more things a week and checks Craigslist twice daily. I really think she is getting irritated that she can find several absolutely stunning women that want to be with her, just not me. I don’t believe our relationship is in danger, but I do think she is going through some kind of withdrawal. I know she won’t cheat, but I need to find a way to help her be happier.

Sincerely,
Boyfriend Battling her Blues

Dear Boyfriend,

First, let me say how lucky your girl is to have found a guy who is so supportive, caring and loving. She is truly blessed to have a boyfriend who understands her sexuality and trusts her enough to encourage her to continue exploring it.

Second, she seems like a really committed, loving and honest partner and friend. It is really good that she does not want to have lovers without you and wants to include you in all sexual adventures. This is a sign that your connection is her number one priority and that your relationship is strong and loving.

1. IF SHE CHOOSES TO HAVE A “CLOSED” RELATIONSHIP, DO NOT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE KEEPING HER FROM HAPPINESS

It is very normal for her to be uncomfortable with the idea of you watching her while not being allowed to participate. You are her primary partner and even though she still loves girls, the sexual tryst may feel “empty” if you are not fully involved because you have her heart. There are some bi-girls who like to play on their own, but many would not enjoy or even consider play without their primary partner. As your girl so clearly tells you, that would feel like cheating. Since you have offered to let her play outside of the relationship or just watch and she has said no, she decided your relationship will be “closed”. If she is unhappy when she cannot find a lover to share with you, this is not your fault. Instead of making this into a problem by worrying about it, be the man that is proud that his girl loves him so much, she cannot make love without him.

2. DO BI-GIRLS NEED TO HAVE FEMALE LOVERS TO BE CONTENT IN A HETEROSEXUAL RELATIONSHIP?

There is a common misconception that once a girl is bisexual, she cannot be sexually fulfilled unless she is dating both a man and a woman. The truth is a little more complicated. Even for girls who have open relationships, they do not always want two lovers. Sometimes a bi-girl can be in a gay or straight relationship for years, or even a lifetime, without “missing” sex with the other gender. Even couples who play a lot sometimes need time to just be together, one-on-one. Since your girlfriend is not interested in playing without you and is still openly and honestly searching for the right lover for you both, don’t worry that the search is making her unhappy. Instead, focus on loving her right now and be proud that she is so true and dedicated to you.

3. SOMETIMES FINDING A THIRD IS HARD AND MAYBE THAT IS A GOOD THING

I know that you are concerned that you are inadvertently keeping her from being happy if she does not have female sexual companionship. It can be very hard to meet the right person to bring into your relationship, at times. You are both very lucky to have already had such nice connections with female lovers. For some couples, this is a shared fantasy that never becomes a reality, so, already, you are ahead of the pack. Remember that it is okay to have a period of time where you two are monogamous. Sometimes, the universe makes it hard to find a third because you both need time to be together and work on your core relationship. If you are concerned for her happiness, do not create drama and worry that she cannot be fulfilled in a relationship that is just with you. Instead, focus on loving her, being her sexual champion, and keeping her happy in your bed.

XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
ASK MISS BLISS - HOW DOES A “GOOD GUY” MEET A BI-GIRL?
ASK MISS BLISS - MY BOYFRIEND’S PUSHING HARD FOR A THREESOME
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS, PT I?
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS, PT II?
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GOT A QUESTION FOR ASK MISS BLISS? E-MAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM
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THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS PT. 2

Written by Miss Bliss on March 21, 2008 – 11:23 am -

Darling Bliss Warriors,

In the last week, many of you have written to me asking when Hotel Bliss will launch for beta testing. For those of you new to my blog, I am in the process of building the first community site for bi-girls and their bi-friendly girlfriends. So many bi-girls have written to me in the last year asking the question, “How do I meet a bi-girl?” Hotel Bliss will be the site for bi-women to come together for fun, flirtation, friendship, empowerment, and much, much more. Even better, it will be a completely private space where a bi-girl can be her magical self and show a side of herself that she cannot show on sites like myspace and facebook. No need to worry about parents or coworkers finding your profile - we will maintain a strict membership policy to ensure it is a community of bi and bi-friendly women only.

HOTEL BLISS WILL HAVE THE FOLLOWING:

• Bi-girls!
• Individual profile pages where you can post pictures, upload video, and share your beauty with other bi-girls.
• Post and find that bi-girl you are seeking. At Hotel Bliss, you will be able to post and search postings to find bi-women in your area. Searchable by state and by city, you will easily be able to find girls like you in your area.
• Blogging - tell your bi stories, concerns, questions, accomplishments with girls who get it.
• The Penthouse - a sensual room to share your pictures and writings and receive comments.
• Private E-mail - contact other bi-girls in a safe, anonymous way.
• The first ever Bi Group Blog - any blogs that you would like to share with the community, you can post in the first group blog made. Read blogs by bi-girls and help the first ever bi community blog to grow and show how amazing our culture really is.
• Send Bulletins - let your new bi-friends hear about events, activities, and get girls out of their house, meeting new friends.
• Boutique at Hotel Bliss - support your bi sisters and buy American! Many bi-girls are creative, talented artists. Buy handmade sex toys, candelabras, lingerie, masks, and more… then meet the artists and read their profiles! Support artists and support talented bi-girls. Buy bi!
• MEMBERSHIP IS COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY FREE OF CHARGE!
• And, there will be much, much more!

HOW CAN YOU HELP?

In the next few weeks, we will be launching Hotel Bliss for testing only.

1. We need passionate bi-girls to join, set up profile pages and begin using Hotel Bliss to make sure there are no bugs or technical problems. You shall be Bi-Pioneers, building the first ever community site for bi-women and their girlfriends. Want to be a tester? Please CLICK HERE and sign up with your e-mail address. (If you have offered to help before, please go to the official page and sign up anyway, just to make sure I don’t miss you!)
2. Tell your bi-friends about Hotel Bliss. If you have bi-friends on myspace, or in your day-to-day life, encourage them to check out blisswarrior.com or myspace.com/theblisswarrior and, if they like the blog, become testers for Hotel Bliss, too. The only way bi-girls won’t feel alone is if we work to bring the community together. If you are not on myspace, posting on craigslist is another way to encourage other bi-girls to join us.
3. Are you a writer? We also need passionate writers and bloggers to begin sharing their stories. Already on Bliss Warrior, we have two guest bloggers and more have offered to join the party. At Hotel Bliss, you can have your own private blog, and/or choose to share your blogs on the community blog. If you want bi-girls to read your work, please email me at bliss@blisswarrior.com with the e-mail heading “I want to write for Hotel Bliss.”
4. Are you a creative soul with something beautiful or sexy to sell? We are also seeking bi-artists, designers, craftswomen, jewelers, knitters, etc… anyone who makes something another girl would want to buy. If you are interested, please e-mail me at bliss@blisswarrior.com with the e-mail heading, “Boutique Sales”. You do not need to have large numbers of your product. Even if you have just one necklace to sell, we will make it easy for you to do so.
5. Host a brunch in your hometown and invite bi-girls to meet for community and friendship. During the brunch, invite them to join Hotel Bliss as a tester.

Thanks to all the incredible, brilliant, beautiful bi-girls who have supported Bliss Warrior this year. Your e-mails, comments, and general support make all of the work so very worthwhile. Here’s to 2008 - the year when bi-girls stopped feeling alone and started feeling magical and proud!

XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR

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WANT TO READ MORE ABOUT HOTEL BLISS? YOU MAY WANT TO READ:
THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS, PT 1

IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ALSO ENJOY READING:
BE THE BI-GIRL YOU WANT TO MEET
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
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coming up next week on BLISS WARRIOR….

• THE FIRST EVER BLISS BRUNCH FOR BI-GIRLS AND THEIR PARTNERS
• CAPTIVATING THE COLLEGE GIRL PART II - A FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY
• and, of course, a couple of surprises I cannot reveal quite yet….

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FIVE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES ABOUT BISEXUALS

Written by Miss Bliss on February 18, 2008 – 11:26 am -

Dear Miss Bliss,

I don’t know if I would classify myself as bi. I don’t really know what my sexuality is. I am only 22 years old and have been in a serious relationship for the past three years. I knew I was attracted to girls before I met my current boyfriend. I’ve been lucky in the sense that I can talk to my man openly about my bisexual feelings and he understands. His only rule is that he be allowed to participate.

The only problem is I don’t want him to be there when I have my first experience with a girl. A lot of it is my own insecurity and the other part is I want to experience my first time without an audience.

A year ago, I set out to find a girl to explore my curiosity with and - unbelievably - met someone through Craigslist and we really hit it off. When we finally met in person, I couldn’t believe my luck! Not only was she beautiful, we had so much in common, and there was never an awkward silence between the two of us. We knew right away that we could be great friends.

Towards the end of the date, things got very physical. Needless to say, there was a lot of alcohol involved and we weren’t very careful about what we were doing. We were hooking up in her car outside of my apartment and my boyfriend caught us in the act - naked and everything.

Before I continue, you should know that my boyfriend is a very stereotypical Latin man who is jealous, possessive, immature, but also loving and passionate, and he worships the ground I walk on. He was very hurt that I went out with a girl behind his back and it took a long time and a lot of apologizing to get him to forgive me. In the end, he told me that I could no longer see this girl or even talk to her. He even went as far as calling her and telling her to stay away from me. Of course, she got freaked out and we decided to cool it.

It’s been a year and I have not been able to forget her. The whole incident was devastating to me. Ever since then it’s been hard for me go out without my boyfriend without being grilled about the night extensively when I get home.

A lot of time has passed and my desire to be with a woman is overwhelming. I am constantly asking myself if I even want to be with a man at all. When we’re having sex I find myself fantasizing about being with a woman and that’s how I get off! I’ve tried to convince him to let me have a special “friend” on the side but he’s afraid I will leave him for her, so the same first rule applies: only if he’s involved. And I’m still not comfortable with that.

In a few weeks, I will be moving out of our apartment and I am hoping to use that new freedom to explore what it’s like to really be with a woman. I don’t know that it’s fair to stay in a relationship with him knowing that what I really want is a woman’s touch. However - and I know this sounds selfish - I am afraid to break up with him only to realize I can’t find a decent girl.

Can you give me some advice? Also, do you think what I’m doing is wrong?

xoxox
CAUGHT CHEATING IN THE CAR

Darling Caught Cheating,

It’s not often that I feel sorry for the jealous possessive boyfriend, but your letter has made it happen. It is also very rare that an Ask Miss Bliss letter makes me wonder if all of those negative stereotypes about bisexuals may just be true and accurate. Sweet girl, I know you are young, and I am so glad you wrote to me because you may never be a happy bisexual girl unless you make some changes in your behavior.

FIVE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES ABOUT BISEXUALS THAT YOUR LETTER IS REINFORCING:

1. BISEXUALS ARE CONFUSED
It is fine to be unsure if the labels bi, straight or gay are right for you. However, if you are calling yourself “curious” (and therefore, implying you are bisexual) when you are behaving badly (i.e., lying and cheating on your man) you are teaching him and your lover that bisexuals are liars and cheaters. Stop reinforcing the negative stereotypes we are trying to dismantle and get honest and open in your sexual behavior. There is no need to lie or cheat but you have to be strong to be ethical and honest. Know that the enemy is not your partner wanting to be involved - it is you for not being able to stick to the terms of your relationship!

2. BISEXUALS CANNOT COMMIT
Even though you know that your man is jealous and the two of you have agreed that you will not do anything with a girl “unless he is involved”, you still lie to him. You are not brave enough to break off the relationship to explore your “curiosity” on your own. Instead, you go behind his back on the Internet searching for girls, and even go on a date with a girl and get naked right in front of the apartment you share, and are still mad at him when he can no longer trust you. Do you see how you are reinforcing the negative stereotype that bisexuals cannot be trusted?

3. BISEXUALS THINK BEING WITH A GIRL BEHIND THEIR MAN’S BACK IS NOT CHEATING
Lesbians have a right to be angry and/or suspicious when bisexual woman come on to them in bars because of “curious” girls like you, darling reader. Bi-women who are in serious relationships with men often believe that their man has no right to be jealous when they are with girls because “they wouldn’t leave him for a girl.” Many sincere, kind, sexy lesbians have been toyed around with lying curious-and-not-sure-if-they-are-bi girls who are cheating on men. I am sure your perfect girlfriend was “freaked out” when you’re man called her to tell her to stay away from you - but she was not just freaked out by him. She learned that you were lying to him and to her, and what girl would want to date someone like that? No wonder some lesbians want nothing to do with bi-girls; they have been burned by behavior similar to yours.

4. BI-GIRLS SHOULDN’T HAVE TO INCLUDE THEIR PRIMARY PARTNER
Darling girl, many bi-curious girls say that they want their first time with a girl NOT to involve their partner for two reasons: (1) it is much easier to hook up with a girl when no man is involved, and (2) they do not trust their man enough to share the experience with him. But here, again, is why this type of behavior reinforces negative stereotypes about bisexuals. First, it demonstrates that you do not want to enjoy a lover to DEEPEN your connection with your primary relationship. Second, if your man does not approve of you being alone with a girl for the first time, then anything behind his back is cheating. Just because she is a girl and you think you will not fall in love with her does not make it fair to lie and cheat. What you need to be working on is your relationship with your man. If he will not let you have lovers on the side and you will not include him, then you need to get a therapist and start couples therapy immediately. Or, it may be time to end the relationship because it is obvious you do not respect his needs or his feelings. Don’t reinforce the stereotype that bisexuals cannot have healthy long-term relationships; just get honest.

5. BISEXUALS WANT THEIR CAKE AND TO EAT IT, TOO
According to your letter, you have already had a “first time” with a girl in a car but you now want a second “first time” without your man’s involvement even though you KNOW it will hurt him terribly. In order to do this, you are going to move out of the apartment you share so you will have “easier access” to girls. Well, this is fine except for the fact that you are STILL planning on lying to him because you do not want to end the relationship out of fear of being alone. Darling, this reinforces the stereotype that bisexuals are selfish and only care about their own sexual desires and pleasures. By lying to your man, you are also setting up relationships with women that are based on lies. You WON’T find a healthy relationship with a woman until you are ready to date in an honest and respectful manner.

Darling Reader, there are so many amazing bisexual woman who are honest with themselves, their partners and their lovers. Their lives become happy and drama-free just by being ethical and responsible to the people they love. Be the Bi-Girl You Want to Meet and get honest. It just makes life better and easier.

OXOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR

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ONE FRENCH AFTERNOON - A FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY

Written by Miss Bliss on January 18, 2008 – 12:09 am -

Selma knocks on the door and you let her in. “Don’t you just love French afternoons,” she purrs with dramatic flair. She kisses you on the lips and kisses your man on the cheek. She wanders slowly into the apartment, studying the room while filling it with her ginger and grapefruit scent. She is older than you, more aggressive, and today, she wants to be your lover.Wine is poured and music plays, but there isn’t much time for small talk. Selma came over for a reason and only has an hour or two before she goes. “Dance for me,” she says to you. “Let us watch you and salivate.”

“Let me finish my drink,” you say, unnaturally shy and unexpectedly nervous.

“Take your time,” Selma says with a playful wink. “But don’t take too long.” She pats the sofa, inviting him to sit next to her, and he does. Her arm loops around his neck and you see the delight in her eyes that she gets to have him. She’s waited for him, too, but she can’t show that yet. Since the day you met in a dark candle-lit cafe, the three of you have talked about this moment, and here it is.

The first time with anyone is a little awkward, but something about the light in the afternoon makes you feel more exposed than usual. Normally you are the aggressive one, but Selma has thrown off your game by taking over control. “Dance for us,” she says again.

Downing the glass of Pinot, you slowly step out in front of them. Her eyes on you make you shy. Wearing a lace dress, with promises of good things to come underneath, you begin to move. You try to look at her and are surprised when you can’t maintain eye contact. Closing your eyes, you focus on the bass line and let your hips move back and forth in time. The music envelops you and you forget your audience. You let your hands caress the curves of your body, showing her the path her hands will soon follow. Your long painted fingers find the hem of your dress and you lift it to expose a blue satin slip underneath. You turn your back on them and, slowly, ever-so-slowly, lift the hem of your dress. Pulling the lace over your head, you turn, and toss the dress into her lap. An invitation, do you want more? They whistle, tell you how gorgeous you are, and ask to see more.

Smiling, the nerves have worn off and you feel your power. Still moving to the music, you approach her and take her small hands in yours. She stands and you pull her into you and dance with her while he watches proudly. Turning, you press your back against her warm body, reach behind, and wrap her arms around you. Together you move but this time both of your eyes are on him. Placing your hands over hers, you lead her hands down your back, over your hips, down your thighs, until her fingers find the lacy hem of your slip. She pulls it over your head, turns you to face her, and studies the black corset and stockings.

“You’re an angel,” she says, and kisses you lightly, as if asking permission. Suddenly, your roles have changed: she is no longer the aggressor, you are.

From behind, you feel him press into you and his arms surround both of you. Pulling her closer, the three of you become one: for an afternoon.

Over too soon and yet there are too many perfect images to remember. At the door, you notice the back of her hair is mussy and sticking up. You try to smooth it and she laughs and says, “Only a shower will fix that, but thank you, darling.” You wonder if your doorman will notice. She looks at him and says sincerely, “Thank you both. Until the next time.” She opens the door to go, but then, turns and shuts it just as fast. “I don’t want to leave,” she admits and melts back into both of you.

Closing the door behind her, you embrace your man, kissing his eyes, his nose, and his cheeks. He lifts you into the air and carries you back to bed.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORIES BY BLISS WARRIOR
a little erotic fiction to help you sleep soundly….
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NEW YORK BI-GIRLS ARE MEETING…

Written by Miss Bliss on November 1, 2007 – 2:38 pm -

A Bliss Girl is organizing a dinner in New York City, and you are invited!
Here is her Craig’s List ad, reposted with permission:

Bi Women of All Colors - French Restaurant Dinner
Sunday November 18th at 6:30 PM

Location: We’ll be going to Le Monde, a casual French restaurant up in the Columbia University area at 2885 Broadway between 112-113 St. The food is good but prices are reasonable. Join a group of diverse bi women for a fabulous meal and great conversation. Make new friends.

Admission: Free, just buy your own meal.
Subway: You can take the 1 train to either 110 St or 116 St.
Join us for a great time! Join our email list for more events!

Bi Women of All Colors (a yahoo group) holds monthly brunches and dinners in New York City. We are a social & discussion group for bi, bisexual, bi-curious or questioning women (including transgender bi women) also welcoming bi-friendly women who identify as lesbian, SGL (same-gender-loving) or straight. We welcome women from all cultures and diversities. We provide a non-judgmental safe space for women to exchange, share, eat and discuss interesting, exciting, as well as thought-provoking topics. that will keep you in the know, on the go, and just so intrigued. So with that, come join us, and have yourself a good time. “You’ll be glad that you did”

CLICK HERE TO RESPOND TO THE CL POSTING

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO
BW

BRUCHES ARE HAPPENING IN SAN DIEGO AND DETROIT…
IF YOU ARE IN THE AREA AND WANT MORE INFORMATION,
LET ME KNOW!
xoxoxoxoxoxo

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BI-GIRLS ARE FINDING EACH OTHER

Written by Miss Bliss on October 12, 2007 – 2:35 pm -

Wonderful Readers and Bliss Girls Everywhere,

Thank you so much for all the kind letters and comments about our dear kitty, Mags. Your sweet words have made a very difficult week bearable.

Speaking of emails, many of you have written to me about my blog, BE THE BI-GIRL YOU WANT TO MEET. Bliss girls are changing their lives and finding the other bi-girls in their area, and I am including some emails to inspire you to GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND.

XOXOOXXOXO
Bliss

Dear Miss Bliss,

I love your myspace page and your advice to all of us bi-girls out there. I took some of your advice and am using myspace and craigslist to organize a get together of several bi-girls in the area. I just invited girls to come out, get some drinks and meet other bi-girls. I can’t believe the responses I’ve received! I am really encouraged and hope it works out. I’ve planned it for Nov. 3rd to have plenty of time to make sure everything goes through. Thanks again for your encouragement. It’s hard when you don’t know many people in the area to begin with, so I figured I would take the initiative myself. I will let you know how it goes.

-Jennifer in Houston

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Dear Miss Bliss,

I switched to “bi” on my profile a few days ago and got a response from the friend of a gal who thinks I’m “hot”. lol. She doesn’t have a myspace account yet, so I told the friend to have her message me when she gets one. She lives here in Hawaii, so who knows?

I haven’t had a chance to post an ad for bi-girls on craigslist but am still planning to.

Hugs and kisses,
H.

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Bliss,

Always, you are the best. Last night I went out –and not even to a gay/lesbian club– and danced all night! The thing was, I was putting out [the vibe] to so many cute girls that I never noticed before! So many were smiling at me and sharing eye contact for quite awhile. It was so fun to see so many girls out there checking me out. I just never noticed before. I even got on a mini stage and danced with a gorgeous girl. She turned around and looked at me and asked if I was a lesbian, and I said no. We danced for a little more, and she turned again and asked if I was bi-curious, and I looked at her and said, yes, I was. She laughed and commented on my incredible dancing. Then, I just ran. She turned around again and I jumped from the stage and left..I wanted to pursue it..but whatever, next time!

Kisses, girl,
J. in Chicago

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READERS HAVE ALSO ASKED ME THESE QUESTIONS:
IF YOU HAVE THE ANSWER, POST A COMMENT OR EMAIL ME!

WHERE DO BI-GIRLS HANG OUT IN PORTLAND?
ARE YOU BI AND IN ANN ARBOR, MI?

ALSO, NEXT WEEK I AM ANSWERING QUESTIONS ABOUT ORGASMS.
DID YOU MAKE A GIRL COME FOR THE FIRST TIME? TELL ME ABOUT IT.
WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST ORGASM LIKE?

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR MAKING A DIFFICULT WEEK NOT FEEL SO SAD.
XOXOXOXXO
BLISS

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