DATING DAPHNE – MY FIRST DATE WITH A GIRL SADO-MASOCIST
Written by Miss Bliss on July 23, 2008 – 8:02 am -Dearest Readers,
Many of you are familiar with Bliss Warrior’s fabulously naughty guest blogger, Daphne. I am pleased to present her new serialized blog series, Dating Daphne. Daphne will cover the crazy exploits of the NYC Internet Dating scene and share her adventures as she dates girls and boys, searching for that perfect connection. Enjoy, and Hotel Bliss members make sure to visit Daphne in her hotel room by CLICKING HERE.
XOXOXOXOOX
BLISS WARRIOR
DATING DAPHNE - post one
I had always wanted to date a girl but didn’t attempt to do so until my early thirties. The Internet seemed an easy and safe way to meet someone. So, I changed my search and began searching for women on the site where I previously searched for men.
The first woman I met was a beautiful half-Asian from Vegas named Xandra. She had a way with words, was smart as a whip, and we had chemistry on the Internet which seemed a good start. We exchanged a few e-mails and decided to meet at a coffee shop.
When she walked into the coffee shop, I thought she was attractive though I wasn’t blown away. It’s lucky I recognized her at all because I wouldn’t have recognized her from the one picture posted on her page. She was pretty, had a nice body and good face, but wasn’t calling attention to herself, as she had been in her pictures online. In the picture from the Internet, she had a wig on, and a lot of makeup. When we met, she had short hair and very little makeup on.
She was lovely and charming, making me feel at ease immediately. We ordered coffee and some food, and settled in for talking. We talked about everything. She had a boyfriend with whom she had an open relationship. She described her life as The Story of O. I got the feeling she thought she was better than anyone who didn’t live life as she did; meaning in a sexual state full of sado masochistic highs. She was heavily into bondage, as well. I got the distinct feeling that she felt that those who didn’t live life in a 24/7 servitude type relationship, were at a disadvantage on the path to enlightenment.
Nevertheless, I was attracted to her. She told me she grew up in the city of sin. Her job sounded boring while her life was full of intrigue.
“I like your biceps, they are very sexy,” she told me. I was melting already.
She told me that she had been seeing a married woman for sometime. “Her husband is fine with it though.” I had a hard time imagining that but I was new to all this. Xandra said that she dated women alone and sometimes she and her boyfriend dated people together. He also dated couples by himself. I was fascinated.
“What’s your experience with women, Daphne?” she asked.
“I’ve never been out with a woman,” I replied.
“Never?”
“No, I wanted to. It just never happened.” I said.
“I was with one when I was a teenager,” Xandra told me.
“I fantasized about them since before I can remember,” I told her. “It’s just that the situation never presented itself.”
We talked about her experiences for a long time. She had been with her boyfriend for a good while, and though they were in a committed relationship, she dated women, and he saw couples. Sometimes they played together. It sounded strange to me, but I didn’t care. I was smitten.
We finished our talk, she walked with me for a few minutes, and she mentioned a women’s party on Sunday nights that she thought I should go to. I thought things were going great, after all, we had just spent three hours talking. I assumed we would soon be scheduling our next date.
But she said, “Daphne, you’re just not bi enough. You’re not into women enough.”
“What?”
“You’ve never been with one. Maybe be with a couple first. See if you can handle that. But certainly you can’t handle a woman alone.” And off she walked.
When she left, I was shocked. I was sure that we would go out again. It wasn’t so much a feeling of rejection, though certainly that played into it, but more like, what the hell? I could not believe that she would play with me like that! Why did she spend three hours flirting with me, if she had no intention of seeing me again? Was I a toy? A lab experiment? I knew that the next time I went out with a woman, I would be much more assertive, and if I was attracted to her, let her know right from the start, that I was not afraid of being with her, even though I was new to dating girls.
I found out sometime later that good friends of mine that date couples went out with Xandra and her boyfriend. It was easy to figure out because when Jenya described the date and the girl, I knew immediately. “Was her name Xandra? I asked. “Yes, how did you know!” Jenya replied. “I just did.” I said. Jenya said that Xandra was into being branded and that though she was incredibly smart and beautiful, something was off. Her boyfriend seemed to be forcing her to do things she wasn’t into. Such as kissing Jenya’s boyfriend. And just as I had, Jenya got the feeling that Xandra thought she was better than others.
The other day I decided to look on the dating site and see if Xandra was still there. Indeed, she is. Beautiful as ever. She’s changed her screen name but besides that, everything else in her profile is the same. Some things never change.
XOXOXO
DAPHNE
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ENJOY DAPHNE’S DATING TALES? CHECK OUT SOME OF HER OTHER BLOGS:
PLAYING WITH GENDER: DAPHNE STRAPS IT ON FOR HER MAN
TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN: A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
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FROM GUEST BLOGGER V.:
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SHE DANCED INTO MY FAIRYTALE - A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST TIME - PART ONE, PART TWO
CRUSHING ON THE TAKEN GIRL: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A GIRL’S FIRST VIBRATOR: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
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PLAYING WITH GENDER: DAPHNE STRAPS IT ON FOR HER MAN
Written by Miss Bliss on April 23, 2008 – 8:57 am -Dearest Readers,
This week our marvelous guest blogger, Daphne, returns to share her true experience using a strap-on in sexual play with her boyfriend. I hope you enjoy and I look forward to hearing your comments.
XOXOXOXOX
BLISS WARRIOR
PLAYING WITH GENDER
The first time I used a strap-on was on my ex-boyfriend Jacob. He was, as he liked to say, heteroflexible. During our relationship, we played with gender quite a bit. I am a small cute girl, while he is a tall handsome man; yet we played opposite roles in the bedroom.
MY FIRST STRAP-ON
I was familiar with strap-ons in so far as girls had used them on me before. Jacob was the first person – male or female - I strapped it on for. I went to my favorite store, Toys in Babeland, and bought several dildos, as well as a harness. It’s good to do research because one can easily become overwhelmed with the variety of sex toys out there; silicone, glass, anal, vaginal, dishwasher safe, etc. I had no idea what to buy my first time out.
After studying many options, Jacob and I purchased five silicone and glass dildos. I decided on silicone because it was dishwasher safe and Jacob liked it the best. I also bought glass ones because when girls used toys on me in the past, I liked glass the most. Glass sex toys are dishwasher-safe but are not good for strap-on play. They are great, however, for anal play and warming your lover up for penetration.
We also bought a butt-plug because the sales girls suggested it as a way to ease into play, although I soon found out fingers, ice and glass toys are the best way to ready your lover.
TRY VARIOUS TOYS UNTIL YOU FIND THE RIGHT ONE
Jacob was into big and hard dildos, while I liked softer and smaller toys. One night, we tried using a double dildo with the harness. I found it to be very uncomfortable because the dildo was made of extremely hard material. It was too hard for my liking and just sat inside me with no clit stimulation. Obviously, it did not do anything for me physically, except the idea of it excited my brain.
Once, Jacob and I used a blow-up dildo. This was a big mistake! After inserting it, I inflated it until it got too big inside him. I had to slowly deflate it. I thought I had ruined him for life and felt horrible. I would not recommend this toy.
Another favorite were anal beads. Ah, they are so much fun! They are not big and the pleasure of using them is delightful.
TAKE CONTROL AND LOVE IT
I loved the power that penetrating him gave me. I’m five feet tall, weigh barely one hundred pounds to his six foot four, one hundred eighty five foot frame. Having him on his knees, begging me to take him and sticking the dildo down his throat… Ah, that’s a great feeling. He said it was the best sex he ever had.
USE LUBE AND SMALL TOYS FIRST
When we played, I would tie his hands together, then blindfold him, and use a finger, then two, to massage him and open him up. (Eros is the best lubricant I’ve found for fingering a lover or lubricating latex, by the way, though it should not be used with silicone toys because it is not a water based lubricant and will break down toys over time.) When he was ready, I ‘d insert a dildo, then a larger one, working my way up to the strap-on. Sometimes he would be on his back, sometimes his stomach, but he was always quiet.
TEASE HIM WITH ICE
If I were really in a cruel mood, I would use ice cubes before inserting the dildos. I would first run them over his body, gently and slowly–then I would stick one inside of him. His hands were tied most of the time so he could not stop me. He would beg me to stop but he loved the feeling. Sometimes I would use two or three ice cubes at the same time. I don’t know how he could take the pain, but he always did. When I finally took him, the dildo came as a huge relief.
RELAXATION IS KEY
The most important thing was that Jacob was relaxed. That’s why I used different sized dildos and my fingers first. He would usually take a bath too. It’s important to be prepared and open as well as clean. It makes the experience much more fun for both of us.
CONTROL HIS CLIMAX
I would pretend I was a man, and it felt amazing. The raw power of knowing I was in control of his orgasm and pleasure was the greatest feeling. I would not let him touch himself when his hands were free. I wanted him to be ready for me. Once in a great while, I let him come, but not often. He would beg me, whimper, and I would say, “Shut up, it’s not time. Be still. Don’t touch yourself.” He would squirm but lie there obediently with his ass in the air.
STRAP-ON TOYS ARE GREAT STRAP-LESS, TOO
I also found that I liked using the toys without the strap-on because I could achieve a level of control that was not possible with the harness. I could go very hard and deep with just my hand and a toy. Jacob preferred the strap-on, though.
PLANNING TO USE AND BUY NEW TOYS CAN BRING YOU TOGETHER
Talking about the experience, preparing for it, and actually having it also brought us closer together. It’s something that not everyone does. We read books, watched DVDs, and went shopping. We talked about having a threesome but broke up before that happened. It would have been a great experience under the right circumstances. Using toys, being with another person, working as one, I am excited even as I write about it!
EXPLORE AND GROW CLOSER AS A COUPLE
Strap-on play is certainly not for everyone but can be quite fun. I love both giving and receiving. It’s something to discuss with your lover. Whether in a relationship with a man or a woman, anal play is amazing. It’s all about trust and understanding. Exploration, there’s a whole new world out there!
XOXOXOXO
DAPHNE
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING OTHER GUEST BLOGS…
BY DAPHNE:
TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN: A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
BY JUNGLE JANE:
A GIRL’S FIRST VIBRATOR: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
GETTING HER NUMBER: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
BY V.:
AND THEN THERE WERE TWO – CHAPTER ONE
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TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN – A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
Written by Miss Bliss on March 20, 2008 – 7:01 am -Dearest Readers, Daphne is a New York bi-girl who recently started exploring light BDSM play. We are delighted to have her share the story of the first time her lover tied her up and deliciously tormented her. XOXOXOXO BLISS WARRIOR
As a bi-girl I have always had an active fantasy life. I remember as a little girl when we played Cops and Robbers, I always wanted to get handcuffed. As a teenager, I was the ‘naughty’ schoolgirl, always wanting to be punished. I can’t remember a time I didn’t have the desire of being tied up but was too shy to say anything.
A few years ago, a lover who was quite dominant knew right away what I needed. Before our date, he called me with the following instructions: leave the door ajar, dress in my sexiest black lingerie and leave my high heels on. “When you finish dressing, kneel on the bed and wear a blindfold,” he said.
When he got to my apartment, I was so excited, I could barely stand it. I could hear his every move. I wanted to rip the blindfold off. I could hear the rustle of his jeans, the music as he put it on, the equipment as he laid it out. He seemed to take forever.
“Put your arms up,” he said. Finally, I thought. He tied me up with expertise in two minutes flat. I was almost unable to breathe. He turned me over. Kissed me gently all everywhere. I imagined that he was my female roommate from college because his mouth was so gentle, and so like a woman’s. I was almost at the verge of coming by his touch alone. That’s what being tied up did to me.
I tried to squirm free but couldn’t move. He had secured my ankles as well, which was maddening. I kept rubbing up against him to no avail. He undid the ankle clasp, and, slowly, began to tease me. I thought I was going explode. I screamed, I came. He didn’t let up. I couldn’t stop him because I didn’t have the use of my hands. I tried to headlock him with my knees, but he was stronger than I was.
And, I was glad I couldn’t stop him. It really felt quite good.
He then proceeded to use a dildo on me: one of my very own and one of my favorites. It reminded me of an ex-girlfriend.
I was about to come again, and then he stopped, and slapped me rather hard. I wasn’t expecting this, but I liked it.
“Open your mouth and stick out your tongue,” he demanded. I did as I was told, though I was a bit frightened. He put a substance that was familiar yet I could not place it, on my tongue. “Swallow.” I did. “Did you like it?” he asked. “Yes.” I said. “Good.” He put some more in my mouth and kissed me. I would find out later it was whipped cream he had whipped himself.
He then took a feather and tickled me until I almost fainted. “Stop!” He wouldn’t listen. The more I begged, the worse things got. One thinks of S&M as just pain, but there’s torture in far less painful things than slapping and things of that nature.
He finally quit tickling me and whispered into my skin, “What do you want me to do?”
“Use the whip,” I pleaded. I have a very cute, very lightweight, leather flogger that when used properly leaves no marks. He used it for a few minutes so very lightly that it tickled me. Then he did it a little harder.
By this time a few hours had passed and we still hadn’t had sex. Ladies, this is a great reason to be into BDSM. You get to have many orgasms, then have sex, and have more orgasms. Men are about your pleasure. And, by the time you do get to sex, you’re very open.
INTERESTED IN ADDING A LITTLE S&M INTO YOUR SEXUAL PLAY?
1. BABELAND IS A GREAT STORE TO PURCHASE S&M TOYS
Babeland is a great place to find S&M toys here in New York (click here to see their website). They also have shops in Los Angeles and Seattle, if you’re on the West Coast. The women are all super friendly, bi or lesbian themselves often times. I’ve never felt uncomfortable there buying anything from a strap-on to lube. I can ask them ton of questions and they answer them all matter-of-factly. They have a section on bondage play for the novice to the pro.
2. NEED SOME S&M TRAINING? VISIT A DOMINATRIX WITH A FRIEND
Another really fun adventure for the daring, is to take a girlfriend and visit a dominatrix together. I did this once with my friend, Melissa, and we had a great time. The dominatrix gave us a lesson in bondage and slapping. In fact, she told me I slapped too hard! I didn’t know there was such a thing. She said to mix it up with light kissing and blowing. It was better than a day at the spa! Both of us thought we knew a thing or two about sex, but we left feeling like neophytes and were excited to learn the ‘ropes’.
3. S&M TOYS YOU CAN FIND IN YOUR OWN HOME
Even if you live in a place where getting toys seems difficult, there is always the Internet. But it’s really fun to see what you have at home to use in S&M play. I’ve discovered all sorts of fun things to use with my lover: clothespins, duct tape, yoga straps, candles, etc. You never know what you might have in your closet. And you would be surprised by what a turn-on they can be for your man, as well. He might just be waiting for you to ask…
XOXOXOXO
DAPHNE
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ENJOYED DAPHNE’S FIRST BLOG AND WOULD LIKE TO READ MORE?
CHECK OUT HER BLOGS PUBLISHED ON MRBELLERSNEIGHBORHOOD.COM:
NAUGHTY AND NOT NICE ON CRAIGSLIST
HETEROFLEXIBILITY
MANHATTAN SEX CLUBS: THEY HAVE THEIR UPS AND DOWNS
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