TOO YOUNG FOR MONOGAMY - Tales From the Seattle Brunch
Written by Miss Bliss on August 11, 2008 – 6:58 am -“I’m in an open relationship,” says Geneva.
Eight bisexual women have come together for brunch, community and friendship on a rare sunny day in Seattle. This is my first trip to the great state of Washington, and in the last twenty-four hours I have fallen in love with Seattle’s mountains, hills, trees, and clean sparkling air. During brunch, the city woos me even more by introducing me to seven beautiful, bright and beguiling bi-women.
“You are,” asks Sadie, the blonde with perfectly painted dark eyes. “I’m jealous.”
“How is that working out for you,” asks the tall brunette, Nicole, sitting across from me.
“Well, we were monogamous the first year we dated. I think it’s important to establish a relationship first before opening it up. But we’re both in our early twenties and we knew when we first met that we were way too young to be strictly monogamous.”
“I don’t like to share,” says Sadie. “Being with a couple is one thing, but being in a couple and bringing in another? I couldn’t do it.”
“So you both date other people separately,” I ask. “Other girls I know who are in open relationships often say the funny thing about it, is the more you date other people, the more you appreciate your relationship and the less you want to date others.”
“It’s funny you mention that,” says Geneva, looking at me with her clear, bright eyes and pretty freckled skin. “My man will meet one of the guys I am dating and he’ll tell me later, ‘That guy’s not up to your level.’ He does it in a really sweet way, too. It isn’t like he’s trying to put down the guy out of jealousy, he truly wants me to be with men who respect and appreciate me.”
“I’m jealous,” says Sadie. “I want that!”
“Well, darling, anyone as cute as you are, anytime,” Geneva says with a flirtatious smile, completely in her power.
“Me, too,” says Nicole with a fetching smile.
“It isn’t easy. You have to communicate a lot for it to work. I mean, sure, I have buttons that can be pushed and I can get jealous. Like if he dates a petite blonde - everything I am not - it’s hard not to feel a little jealous. But you talk about it, work through it, and grow. So far, it’s worked for us.”
This is why I enjoy bringing bisexual women together for conversation, friendship and support. Some of the girls who came to the brunch are monogamous, others are in open relationships, and some are looking for a combination of both. Simply meeting other women who are creating successful new kinds of committed relationships helps girls to realize there are many options for love. Although some bi-women are content with traditional monogamous relationships, others are searching for something more. By taking a risk and inviting strangers to brunch, bi-women are finding each other and discovering supportive friends.
As always, after the brunch I received over 30 e-mails from Seattle girls who want to attend the next event in Seattle. If you are in Seattle, and curious about meeting other bi-girls, I encourage you to join the private, free community site the Bliss Warrior team built this year, Hotel Bliss. Seattle girls are checking in and would like to meet you. (CLICK HERE to apply for membership.)
XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING ABOUT OTHER BLISS BRUNCHES:
NOT SEEKING BARBIE - Tales From the San Diego Brunch
WHY INVITING BI-GIRLS TO BRUNCH IS THE BEST
FROM TOMBOYS TO FAB FEMME GIRLS - TALES FROM TORONTO, PART 1
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
AN ODD PLACE TO MEET A BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN AND SHE’S PACKIN’
I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE
MY MOM OUTED ME OVER THANKSGIVING DINNER
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TOMORROW ON BLISS WARRIOR: OUR GUEST BLOGGER, V., RETURNS WITH PART FOUR OF HER SERIALIZED BLOG, AND THEN THERE WERE TWO. THE TRUE STORY OF HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER MAN AND THE WOMEN HE INTRODUCED HER TO.
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A SPECIAL THANK YOU TO THE MARVELOUS LACIVIOUS FOR HOSTING YET ANOTHER SUCCESSFUL BRUNCH FOR BI-GIRLS IN ALBUQUERQUE, NEW MEXICO. WE LOVE YOU, DARLING, FOR BRINGING BEAUTIFUL BI-WOMEN TOGETHER FOR FRIENDSHIP, COMMUNITY AND FLIRTATIOUS FUN!
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DATING DAPHNE – MY FIRST DATE WITH A GIRL SADO-MASOCIST
Written by Miss Bliss on July 23, 2008 – 8:02 am -Dearest Readers,
Many of you are familiar with Bliss Warrior’s fabulously naughty guest blogger, Daphne. I am pleased to present her new serialized blog series, Dating Daphne. Daphne will cover the crazy exploits of the NYC Internet Dating scene and share her adventures as she dates girls and boys, searching for that perfect connection. Enjoy, and Hotel Bliss members make sure to visit Daphne in her hotel room by CLICKING HERE.
XOXOXOXOOX
BLISS WARRIOR
DATING DAPHNE - post one
I had always wanted to date a girl but didn’t attempt to do so until my early thirties. The Internet seemed an easy and safe way to meet someone. So, I changed my search and began searching for women on the site where I previously searched for men.
The first woman I met was a beautiful half-Asian from Vegas named Xandra. She had a way with words, was smart as a whip, and we had chemistry on the Internet which seemed a good start. We exchanged a few e-mails and decided to meet at a coffee shop.
When she walked into the coffee shop, I thought she was attractive though I wasn’t blown away. It’s lucky I recognized her at all because I wouldn’t have recognized her from the one picture posted on her page. She was pretty, had a nice body and good face, but wasn’t calling attention to herself, as she had been in her pictures online. In the picture from the Internet, she had a wig on, and a lot of makeup. When we met, she had short hair and very little makeup on.
She was lovely and charming, making me feel at ease immediately. We ordered coffee and some food, and settled in for talking. We talked about everything. She had a boyfriend with whom she had an open relationship. She described her life as The Story of O. I got the feeling she thought she was better than anyone who didn’t live life as she did; meaning in a sexual state full of sado masochistic highs. She was heavily into bondage, as well. I got the distinct feeling that she felt that those who didn’t live life in a 24/7 servitude type relationship, were at a disadvantage on the path to enlightenment.
Nevertheless, I was attracted to her. She told me she grew up in the city of sin. Her job sounded boring while her life was full of intrigue.
“I like your biceps, they are very sexy,” she told me. I was melting already.
She told me that she had been seeing a married woman for sometime. “Her husband is fine with it though.” I had a hard time imagining that but I was new to all this. Xandra said that she dated women alone and sometimes she and her boyfriend dated people together. He also dated couples by himself. I was fascinated.
“What’s your experience with women, Daphne?” she asked.
“I’ve never been out with a woman,” I replied.
“Never?”
“No, I wanted to. It just never happened.” I said.
“I was with one when I was a teenager,” Xandra told me.
“I fantasized about them since before I can remember,” I told her. “It’s just that the situation never presented itself.”
We talked about her experiences for a long time. She had been with her boyfriend for a good while, and though they were in a committed relationship, she dated women, and he saw couples. Sometimes they played together. It sounded strange to me, but I didn’t care. I was smitten.
We finished our talk, she walked with me for a few minutes, and she mentioned a women’s party on Sunday nights that she thought I should go to. I thought things were going great, after all, we had just spent three hours talking. I assumed we would soon be scheduling our next date.
But she said, “Daphne, you’re just not bi enough. You’re not into women enough.”
“What?”
“You’ve never been with one. Maybe be with a couple first. See if you can handle that. But certainly you can’t handle a woman alone.” And off she walked.
When she left, I was shocked. I was sure that we would go out again. It wasn’t so much a feeling of rejection, though certainly that played into it, but more like, what the hell? I could not believe that she would play with me like that! Why did she spend three hours flirting with me, if she had no intention of seeing me again? Was I a toy? A lab experiment? I knew that the next time I went out with a woman, I would be much more assertive, and if I was attracted to her, let her know right from the start, that I was not afraid of being with her, even though I was new to dating girls.
I found out sometime later that good friends of mine that date couples went out with Xandra and her boyfriend. It was easy to figure out because when Jenya described the date and the girl, I knew immediately. “Was her name Xandra? I asked. “Yes, how did you know!” Jenya replied. “I just did.” I said. Jenya said that Xandra was into being branded and that though she was incredibly smart and beautiful, something was off. Her boyfriend seemed to be forcing her to do things she wasn’t into. Such as kissing Jenya’s boyfriend. And just as I had, Jenya got the feeling that Xandra thought she was better than others.
The other day I decided to look on the dating site and see if Xandra was still there. Indeed, she is. Beautiful as ever. She’s changed her screen name but besides that, everything else in her profile is the same. Some things never change.
XOXOXO
DAPHNE
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ENJOY DAPHNE’S DATING TALES? CHECK OUT SOME OF HER OTHER BLOGS:
PLAYING WITH GENDER: DAPHNE STRAPS IT ON FOR HER MAN
TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN: A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
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CURIOUS ABOUT BLISS WARRIOR’S OTHER GUEST BLOGGERS?
FROM GUEST BLOGGER V.:
AND THEN THERE WERE TWO - A SERIALIZED TRUE STORY OF A GIRL, HER MAN, AND THE LOVER HE INTRODUCED HER TO: CHAPTER ONE, CHAPTER TWO, and CHAPTER THREE - “A LITTLE PATIENCE FOR SPANKING THE INTELLECT”
FROM GUEST BLOGGER JUNGLE JANE:
SHE DANCED INTO MY FAIRYTALE - A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST TIME - PART ONE, PART TWO
CRUSHING ON THE TAKEN GIRL: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A GIRL’S FIRST VIBRATOR: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
GETTING HER NUMBER: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
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ASK MISS BLISS - SHE LEAVES ME TONGUE-TIED
Written by Miss Bliss on July 21, 2008 – 3:53 pm -Dear Miss Bliss,
I thought I would ask you a question about the girl I am seeing. Michelle and I have been together since February and I still am very quiet with her. Naturally, I am a pretty laid back gal that isn’t the most talkative person in the bunch but I have NEVER been so quiet with someone…ever.
I think part of the problem is because Michelle is the first girl I have ever dated and is sooo beautiful. Every time I see her, my mouth drops and I get nervous and start stumbling over my words. I want to tell Michelle everything that’s on my mind but I don’t know how to get myself to do it. When I am with her, all I can think about is that my life is boring and I have nothing exciting to say. Or, if I do have something to say, I figure she will think that I’m weird and random for bringing it up.
I feel if I continue to be quiet Michelle will lose interest or she’ll think that I have my guard up. Thanks for listening!
XOXOXOXO
Tongue-Tied Girl
Dear Tongue-Tied Girl,
Congratulations on finding a beautiful girl who you adore. To be together for seven months is quite an accomplishment and you should feel very proud of your connection.
FIRST LOVE CAN TURN A MOTOR MOUTH MUTE
The good news is your situation is not uncommon. Your whole self has been shaken to the core because the unbelievable has happened: the beautiful girl likes you. Shocked that someone so pretty and charming wants to spend time with you (even though I am certain in her eyes, you are the gorgeous and witty one) you suddenly find yourself unable to say a word in her presence. Nervous, unusually quiet, and conversationally clumsy, you wonder why your mind has abandoned you. Well, darling, you are enjoying the complex side effects of first love that everyone must experience eventually. Luckily, I have a few tips that will help loosen up your conversation skills.
#1 KEEP EYE CONTACT WITH HER WHILE SHE IS TALKING
When you are self-conscious during a date, you are listening to that small, critical voice in your head and ignoring the sexy voice of the pretty girl across from you. To get out of your head and focus on her, take a moment to make sure you are looking her in the eyes when she is talking. Eye contact gets you out of your head and makes her feel “heard” as she talks. Words can only express so much; eyes express feeling. If you cannot say to her how beautiful she is with words, say it with your eyes.
#2 ASK HER QUESTIONS ABOUT HER
Studies have shown that the best conversationalists are the best listeners. Humans love to talk about themselves. Haven’t you been out with a friend and been shocked that over an hour and a half lunch she only talked about herself? If you ask your girl questions about her life, her past, her week and her thoughts, she will think you both had a great “conversation” and will feel closer to you even if you did not really talk about yourself. If she is the right girl for you, she will learn from you and begin asking you questions about your life.
#3 INVITE HER OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS
If you feel like you cannot be yourself around her, invite her out with your best friends (if they do not know you are bi, ask her if she’d like to come out as your “friend” – sometimes, it’s a real riot to be around your friends with your lover. You get to enjoy your secret flirtation.) When you are with your friends, you can be your truest, most confident self and see how much that delights your girlfriend. After a fun night out with the “real” and relaxed version of you, it will be easier to be the same girl with her on dates.
#4 BE PATIENT AND LOVING TO YOURSELF
Remember that your intense feelings are causing you to feel tongue-tied. Be kind to yourself and remember that everyone feels awkward when they first fall in love. The more you love yourself and remind yourself that this girl already adores you, the more you can enjoy being the magical girl you are.
XOXOXOOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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ASK MISS BLISS – SHE’S MAD BECAUSE HER BOYFRIEND AND I WENT ALL THE WAY
Written by Miss Bliss on July 16, 2008 – 11:50 am -
Dear Miss Bliss,
I know you’re extremely busy, but I would be very interested to get some advice from you. I have been with my girlfriend for about five months now and things were going great until a couple days ago when she emailed me an angry letter:
“You sleeping with my boyfriend was NOT part of the deal. Obviously, the two of us didn’t talk about this before I had you come over. He said if I found a girl I liked enough to be my girlfriend that he didn’t mind. He said he’d enjoy watching, which I didn’t mind. I also wouldn’t have minded if he just played with you only using his hands and tongue. No weiner allowed! After you left the other night, I told him I felt horrible that he would actually have ‘sex’ with someone else. He told me to deal with it or you aren’t allowed over.”
She has a boyfriend and yes, all three of us had sex with one another. I preferred only to be with her, but I thought that it was just the agreement they had with each other, so I dealt with it. Well, now, after five months, she comes back and says she never wanted that to happen and the only way I can come over there is if he can have me, as well. So I don’t know what to do. I love her but I don’t want her to be upset because he wants to have sex with me, too.
Thanks for listening,
Caught in the Middle
Dear Caught in the Middle,
1. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG
First, you did everything right. To be with her, you had to be with her boyfriend, too. Even though you preferred to have her all to yourself, you understood she was in a relationship and tried to respect their rules.
2. COUPLES NEED TO DIRECTLY COMMUNICATE THEIR “RULES” TO THEIR LOVER BEFORE PROBLEMS ARISE
As your lover wrote, she and her boyfriend did not clearly discuss what was “part of the deal” before you came over. She did not tell him or you that she was uncomfortable with penetration. If she had, I am certain you would not have gone anywhere near his “weiner.” But she didn’t, and seems to blame you for not reading her mind and stopping the intercourse from happening. This is her fault and if she is angry, she should be angry at herself for not communicating her needs better.
3. CAN YOU BE WITH THEM AND NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE WITH HIM?
According to her letter, the two of them want something different. She wants to continue having threesomes, just without you and the boyfriend having intercourse. It seems he wants the sex to continue as it is. Obviously, dear reader, you have a problem. If being with her is important to you, it seems you cannot aggravate the situation by having intercourse with him. However, before you are with them again, you need to clearly tell them both that you do not want to continue having sexual intercourse with him because you do not want to cause tension or jealousy in their relationship.
4. WHAT IF HE STILL WANTS INTERCOURSE DURING THE NEXT THREESOME?
If you clearly communicated to them that you cannot have sexual intercourse during your encounters and he tries to have sex with you again, you may have to end the relationship with both of them. If he can’t respect her wishes or yours, you do not want to be involved with this couple. Sadly, if he acts badly she may just blame you. Some girls will always blame the “other” girl before focusing her anger on her man – even if he deserves it! If this is the case, it may be time to find a new, drama-free girlfriend.
5. NEVER, EVER HAVE SEX WITH A MAN JUST TO BE WITH HIS GIRL
I know that it can be very hard to find a female lover who you adore. When that girl is attached to a man, it is incredibly important to remember that you never have to be with her man if you do not want to be. I have heard some bi-girls say that they will “take one for the team” to be with a girl (meaning they will sleep with the boyfriend even when she does not want to.) Sexual intercourse is a sacred, loving ritual and should only be shared with partners you truly adore. Do not have sex with him just to be with her. It will only bring you drama.
OXXOXOXOXOOX
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING OTHER ASK MISS BLISS COLUMNS:
ASK MISS BLISS - A GIRL’S FIRST THREESOME
ASK MISS BLISS - A TOMBOY HANDLES JEALOUSY
ASK MISS BLISS - MARRIED TO A MAN AND IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN
ASK MISS BLISS - WHAT TO DO WITH UNEXPRESSED DESIRES
ASK MISS BLISS - TORN BETWEEN LOVERS
ASK MISS BLISS - MY BOYFRIEND’S PUSHING HARD FOR A THREESOME
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ASK MISS BLISS - HE DOESN’T BELIEVE I’M COMMITTED
Written by Miss Bliss on April 28, 2008 – 3:01 pm -Dear Miss Bliss,
I am writing to you about a recent development concerning dating men as a bi-girl. I am dating a man and I was up front from the beginning about being bi. Later, we discussed how he actually felt about being intimate with me knowing that I am a bi-girl. He responds with the following statement: “I like you. I really like how we spend our time together: watching tv, smoking bowls, laughing, playing online poker, etc. I am, however, concerned that your being bi will be harder for me to actually come to grips with if we were really considering a relationship beyond what this two week encounter allows. I mean, what if you decide one morning all you want is women?”
“What?!” I explained to him, “I am bi, and I use this term because I like being with both men and women. BUT that doesn’t mean I like them both at the same time. I definitely am not straight one day and randomly lesbian the next. I like both men and women equally everyday. I handle each relationship/encounter/person one at a time. I only like women, one woman at a time, just like I only like to date one man at a time. Unless my cheater-armor becomes penetrated and flawed, you don’t have to worry.”
I am writing to you because I was curious to see what you thought.
Ciao,
Hopelessly Devoted Bi-Girl
Dearest Devoted Girl,
One of the stereotypes bi-women are struggling to overcome is the myth that they are unable to have committed relationships with one partner. According to Lisa Diamond, an associate professor of psychology and gender studies at the University of Utah, bisexual women are not only capable of having long-term committed relationships with one partner, but they are more likely to have longer-lasting relationships than their straight and lesbian sisters. (To read more about Ms. Diamond’s study, click here to read “Bisexuals Are No Longer Confused”.)
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
Being bisexual is confusing to many straight and gay people. Negative stereotypes about bisexuals have been reinforced by the porn industry and the media through films like, “Basic Instinct”. According to them, female bisexuals are sex-crazed sluts who will “sleep with anything that moves” and, therefore, cannot be trusted to be committed partners (plus, in the case of film, they may just be insane killers on top of everything else). The truth, however, is there are many different ways to be bi. Some girls, like you, are interested in monogamous relationships with either a man or a woman. Some are in relationships but enjoy bringing long-term lovers into their connection. Others enjoy casual encounters with friends or acquaintances, while others are in open relationships where play remains outside of the primary relationship. There are even bi-girls who enjoy a combination of the above. The point is, as a bisexual community it is up to us to fight these negative stereotypes.
BEING BI IS CHOOSING LOVE BEFORE GENDER
Being bisexual is not about whom you are having sex with, it is about how you approach love. Bi women are open to love before gender. A bisexual girl will choose her partner based not on the sex organs they were born with, but on the spiritual, physical and emotional connection they share.
CONFRONT NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES ONE PERSON AT A TIME
Be gentle with your new love interest. Many people do not how wonderful, committed, communicative, loving, and thoughtful bi-girls are. They assume that all bisexuals are confused, dishonest, malicious, sex and drug-addicted swingers because that has been the primary way they have been portrayed by porn-makers and the media. The only way we can change negative stereotypes is by confronting them one at a time. I applaud you for choosing honesty in your relationships and for helping to teach one other person the truth about the bisexual community.
XOXOXOXOOX
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
BISEXUALS ARE NO LONGER CONFUSED
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
BOYFRIENDS WHO CAN’T HANDLE BI-GIRLS
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TUESDAY: OUR GUEST BLOGGER, V., RETURNS WITH CHAPTER TWO OF “AND THEN THERE WERE TWO”. IF YOU MISSED THE FIRST CHAPTER, CLICK HERE TO CATCH UP.
THURSDAY: THE BEST OF THE HOTEL BLISS GUEST BLOG. HOTEL BLISS IS OPEN FOR TESTING AND ALREADY BI-GIRLS ARE SHARING THEIR EXPERIENCES, FEELINGS, AND TRUE STORIES. WE WILL HIGHLIGHT THE BEST BLOGS EACH WEEK HERE AT BLISS WARRIOR. I KNOW YOU WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED.
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FOLLOW MY RULES - PART I
Written by Miss Bliss on April 25, 2008 – 9:57 am - ANOTHER FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY TO HELP YOU SLEEP A LITTLE SOUNDER…
You study them both with curious eyes. She is adorable, a little older than you, but with a youthful glow and energy that makes you like her. He is harder to read. You aren’t sure if he is nervous, angry, or just doesn’t know how to act. Deciding he must just be uncomfortable, you lose a little respect for him and even more desire. Turning back to her, she looks at you, smiles broadly and lets out a giggle. With each minute, she is becoming giddy and more beautiful.
You lean back in the maroon leather chair and let your hand finger the stem of your martini glass. “This is what I’d like to do tonight,” you state with an authority that surprises you. “I’m ready to go home with you both, if you follow my rules.”
“Tonight?” Her voice is full of eagerness. “I thought you said you just wanted to meet us tonight. I didn’t know you’d want to…” Her voice trails off and she looks at her husband.
“What are your rules,” he asks with a gruff voice. Obviously, he is not used to someone else leading the game. Or, maybe, he has never been challenged by a women. She seems like the type who lets him make decisions and his unease makes you feel even more in control.
Speaking slowly, with a voice no mortal could resist, you say, “I’ll come home with you both, but this is the scenario I envision.” You look right into his eyes, “I want the two of us to destroy her together.”
“Destroy me?” She lets out an involuntary gasp and blushes.
“Yes. I want to him and I to take turns making you come over and over again.”
“That sounds wonderful!” A lock of black curly hair falls into her eyes and she is more desirable than in the pictures she sent online.
“What are your rules,” he asks again, sensing a threat.
You don’t like him which makes this easy for you. Sure, he is probably a great guy for her - she seems to love him or at least likes to say she does – and he is attractive in a tough guy kind of way, but being his lover is utterly unappealing. “You are not allowed to touch me and I am not allowed to touch you. She can touch both of us and we both can touch her. Those are my rules.”
There is a silence while she looks at him wondering if he is hurt. But you know men a little better than she does, or you think you do. You have thrown down a glove and are asking him if he is man enough to accept your challenge. Will he duel to see who can please this dark-haired beauty more?
A wry smile crosses his face and for a second, you see the handsomeness she must see. “If my wife agrees to the rules, I will agree.”
She is surprised to be the final vote in this proposition. “Are you sure,” she asks him quietly, “because we do not have to…”
You love seeing how awkward you have made them and it emboldens you. “This deal is only good tonight. I can’t predict how I’ll feel tomorrow.”
A look of anger mixed with curiosity flashes across his face but you are not scared. Feeling like you are able to predict every one of his emotional reactions, you smile. They are both yours and for a night, you will own them. You know it even before he nods and says to his wife, “It’s up to you.”
“It could be fun, right?”
“It will be fun for you,” he says, but there is no jealousy or malice in his voice. He understands that this encounter will not be the threesome they imagined or hoped for, but the rules are creating a newer dynamic that might be hotter than any fantasy. He smiles that almost-handsome smile once more and looks right into your eyes. “Don’t think you can please her better than I can, because if you do, it will be a disappointing night for you.”
“I am not worried about being disappointed at all.” You pick up her hands across the café table and take her index finger into your mouth, your eyes on his the entire time. In the middle of the darkened, crowded room, you begin sucking her finger in and out, saying to him with your eyes, “You won’t get to feel these lips on you tonight.” She lets out a muffled moan and he takes her other hand. Placing his hand in her lap under the table, you soon realize he is under her skirt and touching her as you toy with her finger. No one else in the restaurant seems to notice.
Her eyes show panic; being out in a public establishment and being sexually overtaken, frightens her. “This is so nice, but can we pay and go?” Her voice is breathy and nervous.
“Not until you come,” he commands with a lifted eyebrow. He wants to make her come first, even if it means bringing her to a climax in a public place.
This annoys you and you remove her finger from your mouth. “Let me watch,” you say. “I’ll play lookout.”
You are in the back corner of the café and even though the tables are filled with people, your back does conceal them from the other patrons. His arm moves faster, and shakes the table at times. You aren’t particularly interested in what he is doing to her, but her face is fascinating to you. Trying to resist, wanting to succumb, embarrassed and scared she’ll be discovered, overwhelmed with desire and a passion to break all the rules – she is the most beautifully conflicted creature you have seen.
Soon the shaking moves up her body and her shoulders begin to rock, her breaths are quicker, less controlled and her eyes close. Lost in the vibration of his hands, she is in another world, until a large shudder shakes her whole body and the table and you have to catch your drink.
Soon she is quiet and her body is still, again. He withdraws his hand and smiles at you, silently asking, “Can you make her come that fast?”
He thinks he has control again, and you don’t like this. “Put your fingers in her mouth,” you command. “I want her to taste herself.”
Looking at you with a competitive eye, he places two fingers in her mouth and she sucks at them hungrily. His eyes stay on you.
“Shall we get the check,” you say, pleased to be in a powerful place once again. “I think it’s time to take this girl home.”
With his left hand he signals for the check, while his right two fingers remain buried in her lips. By challenging him, he has lost all sense of where he is. If you pushed him a little more, he may just fuck her right on the table.
Smiling, you cannot wait to see what this night will bring.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING OTHER EROTICA BY BLISS WARRIOR:
CAPTIVATING THE COLLEGE GIRL PART ONE, PART TWO, AND PART THREE
TOUCHING UNDER THE TABLE
WAKE ME UP WITH YOUR TONGUE
YOU MADE MY BRAIN COME
LEARNING TO LOVE STRAP-ONS
ONE FRENCH AFTERNOON
WALKING HOME IN HER PANTIES
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ASK MISS BLISS - MY CUTE COWORKER IS FLIRTING AND LYING
Written by Miss Bliss on March 17, 2008 – 6:36 am -
Hi Bliss,
I need some advice. There is a girl that’s been very flirtatious with me at my job. I see her all the time and I finally got the nerve to really talk to her. She is definitely someone that I would want to include in my sexual life, but I think she got weirded-out when I told her I was married.
However, we talked for a good while and she told me that she was 22. I am 21. So I looked at her myspace profile and it says that she is 20 years old. I’m wondering, why would she lie?
And even though I already spoke to her, I still get really nervous around her. How do I get over that? She’s very friendly still but I just don’t know how to invite her to go out… Does this make sense?
Thank you so much! Take care and have a peaceful day!
Love,
M.
Dearest M,
Darling, when I lived in Brazil in another life, the Brazilian women were shocked that I didn’t lie about my age. “I’m only 18. Why would I lie about my age now to appear younger,” I asked. “In America, when you are under 21, you pretend to be older so you can get into clubs and bars.”
“Sure,” a Brazilian friend of mine said. “But if you start telling people you are 15 now, when you turn 30, everyone will think you are 27!”
WHY DO GIRLS LIE ABOUT THEIR AGE?
Our culture encourages women to lie about their age for two reasons: (1) to appear younger to seem more attractive or (2) to appear older to have access to adult life (i.e., cigarettes, alcohol, bars and clubs). In the case of your attractive coworker, my guess is that she is lying to you to seem “cooler” and “more mature”. She may not want you to know that she cannot legally go to bars. Whatever the reason, saying she is two years older than her real age is not a big deal. If she were a minor and was lying about her age, that would be a problem. It is never a good idea to get yourself caught up in a potential statutory rape situation.
IS IT A GOOD IDEA TO DATE A COWORKER?
If she is still friendly and flirtatious after you have shared your marital status, you should go ahead and ask her out. But before you do, make sure you think about the consequences of dating a coworker. Certainly your other coworkers know that you are married, and may be shocked if anything were to get out about an office love affair with a female colleague. Plus, if it ends badly, you may experience a lot of tension in the office, especially if you work directly with her.
However, sometimes work is the only place we have to meet someone special. If this is the case, and you think she is worth potential unhappiness in the work environment, I say go for it. Just be discreet and careful.
HOW DO YOU GET BEYOND YOUR NERVES AND ASK A GIRL OUT?
Many girls get nervous before they ask a girl out. Sometimes, it is because they are not sure if the girl is bisexual and they don’t want to freak her out if she isn’t. So, a good way to find out if she is indeed bi or bi-curious, is to let her know you are bisexual.
If you are too shy to tell her you are bi, you may want to drop some hints that you are into girls. For example, if you are a fan of the L-Word (or you love hating it), you might want to ask if she watches, too. If she does, she may just be open to dating girls. Does she listen to Ani DiFranco? Maybe she’s a fan of the Suicide Girls or the television show, Big Love? Drop some sapphic favorites and see if she really is a bi-girl like you.
Some of my myspace friends use the Bliss Warrior blog to see if a girl is bi-friendly. One bliss girl in Texas was working in a sandwich shop when two cute girls came in. They flirted and talked, and when the girls were about to leave, she handed them both a piece of paper with myspace.com/theblisswarrior written on it and her e-mail address. Later, one of the girls e-mailed her back, delighted to let her know that she was bi, too.
AN AFTER WORK DRINK ISN’T A DATE & CAN BE LOTS OF FUN
Another easy way to ask her out is to start small and ask her if she’d like to get an after work drink. (If she is only 20, you may want to suggest going out for tea.) Lots of coworkers go for a drink after work and it will give you a chance to see what your dynamic is like outside of the office. And, let’s face it, it’s much easier to flirt with a girl when you have a drink or two!
But no matter what, trust your instincts. If you feel like she is flirting with you, don’t worry about it - enjoy the attention. Make sure to give her plenty of warmth and kindness in return. Be yourself and know that she already enjoys who you are.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ALSO ENJOY:
ASK MISS BLISS - THE ART OF FLIRTATION
ASK MISS BLISS - HOW DO I KNOW IF I’M BI?
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ASK MISS BLISS - WHY WON’T SHE MEET ME FOR A DATE?
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CAPTIVATING THE COLLEGE GIRL - Part One
Written by Miss Bliss on March 14, 2008 – 7:00 am -ANOTHER FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY BY BLISS WARRIOR.
a little erotic fiction to help you sleep more soundly….
Deciding to dive right in, you ask her if she’s ever kissed a girl.
She is almost as surprised by the question as you are for asking it. You aren’t drunk but perfectly sober and oddly relaxed. “No,” she says, “Have you?”
“Yes.” This is the first time you have felt confident around a girl. Having only fooled around with a few women - and only going all the way with one - you are surprised by how easy it all feels.
“Are you a lesbian,” she asks with an innocence that makes you like her even more.
“No. I like who I like.”
There is a question she wants to ask but she hesitates. Instead, she blurts out, “I’m straight.”
“I know.” Everyone knew this. “But you’re also pretty.”
“Thanks,” she says, and her hand shakes a little as she stirs her tea.
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After the Astronomy lecture this morning, you casually asked her to tea. She said yes, which initially surprised you. Maybe you should just ask girls out more often. Maybe girls say yes more than no.
She had no idea that between watching slides of stars and taking the occasional note, you watched her in class. She’s not your type, but she caught your eye when she wore a baby blue beaded vintage cardigan and a black pencil skirt. Her hair was in a tight shiny bun like a librarian, yet she had a ring on every finger. This incongruence made you curious about her. An uptight girl with the hands of a gypsy. You wondered if she expressed her passion only in the bedroom and only in the dark.
It made you want to kiss her just to see if you could.
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The cafe is dark even though the sky is still bright outside. There is a gap in the conversation but it doesn’t bother you. You drink your tea and study her with a slight smile. Her nervousness is making the whole afternoon fun for you. The more she doesn’t know what to say, the more you do.
“Can I be direct with you,” you ask and she nods. “I am attracted to you.”
“You are,” she says with her eyes on her teacup. “You don’t even know me.”
“I know that you are beautiful, smart and kind. You have excellent taste and a great sense of style. That blue cardigan you wore last week was the prettiest thing I’d ever seen.”
“Well, I stole that from my roommate. She’s the one with taste.”
Another stunning girl who is insecure and puts herself down without even realizing it. “Sweet girl, every time I’ve seen you, I’ve thought to myself, ‘No way. She’s prettier than the last time. But the last time I saw her she was the prettiest girl I’d ever seen. How did she manage to outdo herself again?”
She is laughing and looks up at you for the first time. “You make me feel pretty. But I’m not….” She lets the words trail off.
“Like me,” you ask.
“I’m not a lesbian,” she says, her words barely audible as if lesbian were a bad word.
“I’m not either,” you say with a wink. “Let’s get out of here. I want to show you something.”
You see her weighing the options in her mind: the librarian side of her and the gypsy duking out the pros and the cons of spontaneous fun. “Sure, why not? But only if we get a drink first,” she says. “I’m way too sober.”
“To the bar then,” and you signal for the check.
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After sharing a few drinks and many stories, the two of you walk out of the bar and onto Hudson Street in the West Village. She has her armed looped through yours now. If you were both straight this would be just another gesture of friendship. But the tingling of her touch against your skin tells you she is more than just a friend, and she is beginning to realize it.
“Have you ever had a one night stand,” you ask her.
She gives you a look.
“Two years ago, I had my first one night stand,” you say. “I was nineteen and I traveled with some friends to Spain. One afternoon, my friends were at a museum and I wasn’t feeling it, so I decided to just go explore Barcelona on my own. I met a really sexy Spanish man in a cafe. I liked him instantly. The connection was there. We talked over cafe con leche for hours, then we went to dinner. Over wine and paella, he asked me - with the hottest accent and this deep, sexy voice - ‘Have you ever met someone for the first time, had coffee, then had dinner, then went home and made love all night long?’ My stomach flip-flopped. Nothing seemed more romantic.”
“And then you went home with him?”
“Something like that. And I never saw him after.”
She shakes her head and a dark strand of hair falls loose and into her eyes. “For a second, there, I thought you were making a pass at me.”
The sun is setting and her skin glows with the shifting light. “For a second, I was.”
“And you aren’t anymore,” she asks with a flirtatious tone. You knew she was the right girl.
“No.” You smile and pick up her hand and kiss it, lingering on each long finger. “I don’t flirt with straight girls - well, not for long.”
“You are trouble,” she says.
“Am I?” You kiss her wrist and she pulls her hand away. Suddenly she is aware of the street and of people seeing you together. The librarian has returned.
“You told me you wanted to show me something.”
“I do.”
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On top of your building, you can see all of downtown New York. You made it home right before the sun set and the buildings came alive with lights. The city unfolds before the two of you as day becomes night and she turns to you with radiant eyes. “A picture could never capture this.”
The light illuminates the pink fullness of her lips and there is a pause. She is quiet for a beat too long and you know by saying nothing, she has said yes. As the breeze picks up twelve floors above Manhattan, you lean into her and kiss her gently, softly, ever-so-slowly and she immediately kisses you back. Your arms encircle her, as she presses into you, opening her mouth just slightly, ready to go deeper.
Your tongue lightly darts into her mouth and her mouth widens. Hesitantly, her tongue begins to explore your teeth and your lips. Your hands move down her back, massaging her spine and bringing her even closer into you. Breaking away from the kiss, you lick her neck from the shoulder to her ear and gently nibble on her earlobe.
“You smell so yummy,” you say.
“You are so soft.”
“You’re pretty soft for a straight girl,” you tease her. “The funny thing is, you don’t kiss like a straight girl.”
“I don’t,” she asks with a laugh.
“No. You really don’t. You just kissed me like a bi-girl.”
“Oh, really,” she asks, now into the game. “And how does a bi-girl kiss?”
“Like this,” you say, and you kiss her again. Her arms are all over you now, as if she’s been finally given permission to explore and be free. Both hands find your breasts through your clothes and she touches them with the fascination of something new and foreign. As you kiss, your hands find her small breasts and you both massage and touch each other as the throbbing between your legs grows with intensity. Her breathing is uneven and quick and you know she is yours.
“Let’s go downstairs,” you say. Holding her hand, you lead her back inside.
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This is part one of a three-part story. Want to read Captivating the College Girl - Part Two? CLICK HERE. XOXOXOXO BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ALSO ENJOY OTHER EROTICA BY BW:
TOUCHING UNDER THE TABLE
WAKE ME UP WITH YOUR TONGUE
YOU MADE MY BRAIN COME
LEARNING TO LOVE STRAP-ONS
ONE FRENCH AFTERNOON
WALKING HOME IN HER PANTIES
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ASK MISS BLISS - WHY WON’T SHE MEET ME FOR A DATE?
Written by Miss Bliss on February 28, 2008 – 4:30 pm -Dear Miss Bliss,
I met this girl on Craigslist. She responded to my ad and said she was a lot of fun. I picked her out of a bunch of replies, not only because she was attractive but seemed the most sane! I’ve never done this before, and had no idea how it worked.
We started e-mailing back and forth, and eventually were messaging each other. She lives with her boyfriend, and I have a boyfriend too, and we were both looking for the same thing.
Everything seemed to be great, and I was really excited to meet her, but a month went by and she still hadn’t made a date. I made vague comments like, “Let’s meet sometime soon,” to encourage dialogue but she made it really awkward.
Now, I’m in a weird space — should I try to meet her, or is she over it? I asked her if she had changed her mind, and she replied, “No, have you?”
I finally texted her after not talking to her for a few weeks to try and meet for drinks,
and didn’t get a response. What should I do now? Just leave her alone?
Thanks for the advice.
Love,
Confused.
Dear Confused,
First of all, congratulations for posting an ad on Craigslist and meeting another cool, fun, attractive bi-girl. I am always delighted to hear that bi-girls are finding each other through the Internet.
There are many reasons why she has not yet met you in person. Girls are generally chased by male attention. When two girls try to date, the girls are not always sure how to chase the other one without seeming “creepy” or “too much”. I personally believe, the LESS you go after the girl, the more likely she will find you interesting and come to you. Now, many friends hate when I say this and often replay, “I don’t want to play games! I want to be honest. If I like a girl, I’m going to tell her and hope she’ll like me, too.” Darling Confused Reader, the following tips are not “game playing” they are simply - in my humble opinion - the rules of the girl dating game.
Everyone wants to feel like they found a partner or a lover that is a little bit “out of their league”. A girl wants to feel like she had to work a little to get this person to notice and like her. So, dear girl, let this attractive girl work a little bit to get your attention, since you’ve already worked hard enough to get hers.
1. GIRLS WITH BOYFRIENDS HAVE BUSY LIVES
Bi-girls with primary partners are very busy and are already juggling work, family, friendships, and their love life. So if she does not write you back or text you back right away, she may just be busy. Wait. Be Patient. Let her know that you have a busy, full, exciting life, too. When she writes you back eventually you can wait a little to reply or write her back immediately. I suggest waiting and see how fast she writes you back the next time.
2. THE LESS YOU PUSH HER TO MEET, THE MORE SHE’LL WANT TO
It isn’t rocket science, but it is human behavior. The less you push for a meeting, the more she will. Often, when my bi-girl friends are flirting with a girl online and don’t push to meet, the other girl begins pushing for a date. They say, “Wait, I’m enjoying getting to know you,” and the friendship and trust grow, while the other girl’s desire increases, as well.
3. IF YOU ARE TOO EAGER, SHE MAY THINK YOU’RE NEEDY
All girls are worried that their female lover will be “crazy” or “needy” or “too codependent”. Because they have not had experience with sane, cool, fun bi-girls, they will be nervously searching for signs of needy behavior. Be relaxed and chill and enjoy flirting with the girl without pushing to meet. She will find you sexy, and her fears of your “innate female craziness” will lessen.
4. FOCUS ON THE FRIENDSHIP FIRST, AND SHE’LL WANT TO MEET YOU
I always stress to my bi-curious friends, develop the friendship first. The best relationships are built on trust, so build trust through e-mailing first. Once a friendship is built, no girl will want to go without meeting her new, wonderful friend in person.
5. KEEP FLIRTING WITH GIRLS UNTIL THE RIGHT ONE WANTS YOU
Until you go on a date with that perfect lover, keep posting on Craigslist and develop many flirtations. You never know, while you wait to meet your ideal girl lover you just might make a great group of bi-girl friends in the process.
6. DEVELOP THE ONLINE FRIENDSHIP AND HOLD OFF MEETING IN PERSON
Since she didn’t return your last text, I would not contact her until she contacts you or until a month or so has gone by. You do not want to seem needy or psycho, so relax, go back to your Craigslist posting, and start meeting other girls. You have found one potential, but their may be a better fit for you out there. In a month, send your girl an e-mail just checking in with her. I bet she will be happy to hear from you!
XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN & SHE’S PACKIN’
Written by Miss Bliss on January 29, 2008 – 3:07 pm -
“I dated the cutest butch girl,” Melissa says with a smile. “I’m a girly-girl and usually into feminine women, but this girl was so hot.”
It is a cool winter morning in Albuquerque, New Mexico, and five beautiful bisexual women have gathered for brunch, community, and conversation. This brunch is notable because this is the first brunch where all the attendees are experienced bi-girls with many stories to share.
“She really is the cutest lesbian I’ve ever seen,” says Melissa’s friend, Kairrie, a joyful and sparkling blonde. “When this girl goes out with us to a bar or a club, she wears a full tuxedo with a bow-tie and everything. But, what kills us, is she has the whole boy look from the hair, the clothes, the shoes… but, she wears full make-up. She’s the cutest boy and the cutest girl at the same time.”
Jackie has long blonde hair that pours down her back and cleavage artfully accentuated in a black plunging neckline. “God, what is up with the girls who wrap up their boobs and squash them down? I’m like, ‘You’re such a beautiful woman! Don’t hide your gorgeous breasts!’”
Kairrie looks down at Jackie’s bountiful chest, and says with a flirtatious giggle, “Goodness, speaking of gorgeous breasts…”
“Why thank you,” Jackie says.
“But it wasn’t just the tuxedo that made this girl so hot,” Melissa steers the conversation back to her original story. “Whenever we went out, she was the perfect gentleman. She opened every door, pulled out every chair, and wouldn’t let me pay for a thing. Not even a drink at the bar.”
“You haven’t told the best part,” Kairrie says. “When this girl went out, she was always packin’.”
“What does ‘packin’ mean,” asks Geneva, another fiercely intelligent, long-haired beauty.
“It means she goes out with a dildo in her underwear, right,” I ask. “They sell flaccid dildos now at sex stores for girls who want to go out with a special secret.”
“Oh, but this wasn’t flaccid,” says Melissa. “She didn’t just drop a dildo into her panties and go. She wore her strap-on and was ready to take me whenever she wanted.”
“It was erect,” I ask. “How’d she wear that thing around without poking into people?”
“She wore it down her left pant leg, so when we danced together, I could feel how hard she was for me.”
“Really,” I asked shocked. “She could dance with a strap-on?”
“She’s an amazing girl,” says Melissa.
“Speaking of butch lesbians,” says Jackie. “My Mom is uptight. She knows I’m a bi-swinger, and that’s fine with her, she just doesn’t want to know anything about it. That’s fine, but sometimes, what you don’t know can get you into trouble. My mom is really active as a referee for softball, basketball, and soccer and she’s straight.”
“Wait,” I say, “you said she’s a softball referee and isn’t lesbian?”
“Nope. The rest of them are, but she is not. She’s cool with lesbians and everything, but doesn’t know a thing about lesbian culture. That’s fine, except her ignorance almost got her into trouble. One night after the game, the lesbians ask my mom to join them for a drink. They go out drinking and when they are about to leave the bar, they ask my mom if she’d like to come home with them and make a Daisy Chain.”
The table erupts in laughter. “Does your mom know what a Daisy Chain is?”
“Nooooo,” Jackie says emphatically. “She has no idea it’s an invitation to a sex party.”
“Did she go,” I ask.
“Oh my God,” says Kairrie, “can you imagine?”
“Oh, no. She had to get up early for work the next morning, so she excused herself. But the next day she calls me and asks me what a Daisy Chain is. My jaw drops to the floor. I ask her why she wants to know, and she tells me the whole story. I cannot stop laughing. ‘What does it mean,’ she asks, and I say, ‘Are you certain you want to know?’ Because I am honest and I will tell her the truth but only if she really wants to hear it. She says, ‘Tell me,’ so I say, ‘Well, Mom, all the girls get around in a circle and each girl pleasures the next girl and no one is left out.’”
“What did your mom say,” I ask.
“‘She said, ‘Oh, I thought they were going to make baskets or garden or something…’”
We laugh and the conversation continues as Kairrie goes to the counter to get us another round of chai lattes.
XOXOXOOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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Dearest Bliss Warriors,
So sorry I was unable to post yesterday. I am in New Mexico and altitude sickness knocked me out yesterday. Now, I’m drinking water and feeling much better. xoxoxoxo BW
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THIS SATURDAY NIGHT WE ARE GOING DANCING IN LOS ANGELES.
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