WHAT SHE FORGOT - ANOTHER FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY
Written by Miss Bliss on September 14, 2008 – 12:36 pm -A little erotica to help you sleep more soundly…
“Hey, girl, sit at the bar and I’ll be right over,” she says as she carries a tray of drinks to a booth in the back. You watch her hips switch back and forth as she walks away and am once again overwhelmed by her casual beauty.
At the bar, you pull up a stool and wonder if you overdressed. Maybe you should have worn jeans; it seems a little silly to be hanging with a girl in her workplace in a tight black dress and platform heels. But you wouldn’t feel pretty in jeans and, to be honest, it’s already a fight to feel secure next to her perfect dancer’s body. Plus, you haven’t seen her since that night you first kissed and then went home together.
You worried hooking up with a girl had flipped her out, but just when you were going to ask her, she called and invited you here. To be in her company again thrilled you, so you ignored the quiet voice in your head that said, “If she liked you, she’d have seen you right away. She wouldn’t wait a month to call if she was as into it as you are. Inviting you to see her at work is a way to create distance…”
You shake your head and order a vodka and soda and wait for her return.
The bartender asks how you know Sabine. You say, through mutual friends in New York. “I love New York,” he says, and you nod with a smile, hoping he doesn’t ask anymore questions. Luckily, he likes talking more than listening, and fills up the time describing his favorite New York restaurants.
When Sabine finally finishes with her table and joins you, the first thing you say is, “I was just telling him about how we met in New York.”
For a second she lifts an eyebrow and then smiles. “Those were great times,” which almost sounds true. It would be too awkward to say we met in a gay bar. The friendship would certainly be suspect, then.
She sits on the stool next to you and says, “How have you been?”
Aware of the bartender, you say, “Great. How about you?”
“Well, I met a boy…”
Your heart stops but you try to appear happy for her. “That’s great. Where?”
“I went to a club with some friends and this guy asked me to dance, and he is a fierce dancer. We danced all night and the crowd stopped just to watch us.” She smiles and says, “And the sex… Oh my God! He is unreal. Sometimes, he’s almost too much for me.”
Hearing about her fucking some dancer makes your jaw tighten. Doesn’t she know who she’s talking to? Doesn’t she have some inclination that you may not want to hear about her current guy? “When did you meet him,” you ask, trying to sound casual.
“I don’t know… A month or so ago?” Right around the time the two of you hooked up.
Feeling bitter, you want to ask if it was before or after the night she soaked your bed with her juices, but you don’t. Instead, you ask, “So is he your boyfriend?”
She laughs. “Oh, goodness, no! He’s just my summer distraction.” Looking up, she sees a new table and says she’ll be back in a sec.
You order a second drink and your stomach aches. Did she forget how intense the sex had been between you? Because you remember, and one night dancing with some guy wouldn’t make you forget.
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Closing your eyes, you go back in time and see see her approach you at the bar in West Hollywood. You couldn’t believe a hot girl was coming onto you in your favorite gay bar. Surrounded by men, she discovered you and bought you a drink.
“Come here often,” she said jokingly.
“No. But now that I know gorgeous girls come here every once in awhile, I might just come out more often.”
“Cute shoes,” she squealed, and the two of you spent the next ten minutes complementing one another. “Oh, look, a booth is opening up. Let’s sit.” She grabbed your hand and led you through the dancing male bodies until you reached a darkly lit booth.
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Sabine comes back to the bar and places an order for her newest customers. Leaning into your ear, she whispers, “He just texted me to say he might be stopping by. You’ll get to meet him!”
You are beginning to wonder if her sharp features and sparkling emerald eyes have distracted you from the fact that she is totally insane. “When is he coming?” This time your voice is hard and you don’t try to hide it.
“Right now. He says you’re welcome to go out dancing with us when I get off.”
“That’s generous of him,” you say sarcastically.
She looks at you with concern. “He’s a really nice guy. You’re going to love him.”
“I didn’t come her tonight to meet your boyfriend,” you say, hoping the bartender doens’t overhear.
“What,” she asks.
“Never mind,” you say.
The bartender brings her table’s drinks and she places them on a tray and is off again.
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In the back corner of the gay bar, she picked up your hand and exclaimed, “Oh, your hands are so pretty and tiny!” Her fingers traced yours, turned your rings to face out properly, and then finally lifted your hand to her lips. Slowly, she kissed the back of your hand, then turned it over and placed a long kiss on the palm. You felt her touch all the way down to your toes.
With your other hand, you touched her lips and then leaned in and kissed her. Tasting like candy and fresh water, you breathe her in and let your tongue dance with hers.
“I think we should get out of here,” she said.
“Want to have a drink at my place,” you asked, amazed that this sensuous creature appeared out of nowhere to love you. She picks up her bag and the two of you walk out to the parking lot hand-in-hand.
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“I think I should go,” you say when she returns.
“Why? Don’t go! You just got here.”
She doesn’t seem to understand why you don’t want to meet this guy. Was she drunk the night you hooked up? On drugs? It would be impossible to know. After all, you were strangers when you met. You really know nothing about her.
Finishing the second drink quickly, you feel the alcohol burning through you. Since you are petite and didn’t eat dinner, the alcohol is unusually strong. “You know why I don’t want to meet him,” you say with a force that surprises you.
Her smile leaves her lips for a moment and you see her debating with herself. She sits next to you once more and grabs one of your hands. “I don’t think there has to be any drama.”
You don’t know what that means and tell her so.
“I want to be your friend,” she says.
“I want to be your friend, too,” and you do.
“So I want you to meet the people in my life.”
“Why,” you ask, finally drunk enough to have no filter.
“Because you’re amazing,” she says lamely. But you have figured out the truth between the words she is saying. Instead of facing the intensity of your love, she wants to bury the memory of that night. She needs you to meet her boy “distraction” in order to reconfirm her heterosexuality. If you are friends, she doesn’t have to question why that night happened or what it means.
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She was the one who asked you to get the strap-on out. She demanded you fuck her until she came and you did. She put it on and fucked you directly after. She was the aggressor. She knew exactly what she wanted and made it happen. She chose to sit on your face until your tongue, lips, chin and nose hit all of her secret spots and made her gush sweetness all over your face, neck and chest. She was the one who held you so close while you slept that you couldn’t excise yourself to go to the bathroom. And, she was the one who woke you with the light flicker of her tongue on your inner thigh.
When she left, you believed she was a lesbian.
When she left, she pushed the delete button and hid behind a straight identity.
When she left, you thought she’d come back.
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You stand up and leave a twenty on the bar for the drinks. “I’ll meet him next time.”
“If he’s still around,” she says with a laugh.
You look directly into her eyes and smile goodbye, then walk out the doors into the night.
XOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY OTHER EROTICA BY BLISS WARRIOR:
SPIN THE BOTTLE PART ONE, PART TWO, AND PART THREE
FOLLOW MY RULES PART ONE AND PART TWO
CAPTIVATING THE COLLEGE GIRL PART ONE, PART TWO, AND PART THREE
TOUCHING UNDER THE TABLE
WAKE ME UP WITH YOUR TONGUE
YOU MADE MY BRAIN COME
LEARNING TO LOVE STRAP-ONS
ONE FRENCH AFTERNOON
WALKING HOME IN HER PANTIES
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UPCOMING EVENTS FOR BI-GIRLS THIS WEEKEND:
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DENVER - HAPPY HOUR FOR BI/BI-CURIOUS LADIES ONLY
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HOLLYWOOD - BURLESQUE SHOW THAT SUPPORTS PETA
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SAN FRANCISCO - FRINGE FESTIVAL PRESENTS FLUID: A PERSONAL EXPLORATION OF “BI” SEXUALITY
VIEW EVENT - Sunday, 14 September 2008
NYC BACKYARD GARDEN BRUNCH
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PLAYING WITH GENDER: DAPHNE STRAPS IT ON FOR HER MAN
Written by Miss Bliss on April 23, 2008 – 8:57 am -Dearest Readers,
This week our marvelous guest blogger, Daphne, returns to share her true experience using a strap-on in sexual play with her boyfriend. I hope you enjoy and I look forward to hearing your comments.
XOXOXOXOX
BLISS WARRIOR
PLAYING WITH GENDER
The first time I used a strap-on was on my ex-boyfriend Jacob. He was, as he liked to say, heteroflexible. During our relationship, we played with gender quite a bit. I am a small cute girl, while he is a tall handsome man; yet we played opposite roles in the bedroom.
MY FIRST STRAP-ON
I was familiar with strap-ons in so far as girls had used them on me before. Jacob was the first person – male or female - I strapped it on for. I went to my favorite store, Toys in Babeland, and bought several dildos, as well as a harness. It’s good to do research because one can easily become overwhelmed with the variety of sex toys out there; silicone, glass, anal, vaginal, dishwasher safe, etc. I had no idea what to buy my first time out.
After studying many options, Jacob and I purchased five silicone and glass dildos. I decided on silicone because it was dishwasher safe and Jacob liked it the best. I also bought glass ones because when girls used toys on me in the past, I liked glass the most. Glass sex toys are dishwasher-safe but are not good for strap-on play. They are great, however, for anal play and warming your lover up for penetration.
We also bought a butt-plug because the sales girls suggested it as a way to ease into play, although I soon found out fingers, ice and glass toys are the best way to ready your lover.
TRY VARIOUS TOYS UNTIL YOU FIND THE RIGHT ONE
Jacob was into big and hard dildos, while I liked softer and smaller toys. One night, we tried using a double dildo with the harness. I found it to be very uncomfortable because the dildo was made of extremely hard material. It was too hard for my liking and just sat inside me with no clit stimulation. Obviously, it did not do anything for me physically, except the idea of it excited my brain.
Once, Jacob and I used a blow-up dildo. This was a big mistake! After inserting it, I inflated it until it got too big inside him. I had to slowly deflate it. I thought I had ruined him for life and felt horrible. I would not recommend this toy.
Another favorite were anal beads. Ah, they are so much fun! They are not big and the pleasure of using them is delightful.
TAKE CONTROL AND LOVE IT
I loved the power that penetrating him gave me. I’m five feet tall, weigh barely one hundred pounds to his six foot four, one hundred eighty five foot frame. Having him on his knees, begging me to take him and sticking the dildo down his throat… Ah, that’s a great feeling. He said it was the best sex he ever had.
USE LUBE AND SMALL TOYS FIRST
When we played, I would tie his hands together, then blindfold him, and use a finger, then two, to massage him and open him up. (Eros is the best lubricant I’ve found for fingering a lover or lubricating latex, by the way, though it should not be used with silicone toys because it is not a water based lubricant and will break down toys over time.) When he was ready, I ‘d insert a dildo, then a larger one, working my way up to the strap-on. Sometimes he would be on his back, sometimes his stomach, but he was always quiet.
TEASE HIM WITH ICE
If I were really in a cruel mood, I would use ice cubes before inserting the dildos. I would first run them over his body, gently and slowly–then I would stick one inside of him. His hands were tied most of the time so he could not stop me. He would beg me to stop but he loved the feeling. Sometimes I would use two or three ice cubes at the same time. I don’t know how he could take the pain, but he always did. When I finally took him, the dildo came as a huge relief.
RELAXATION IS KEY
The most important thing was that Jacob was relaxed. That’s why I used different sized dildos and my fingers first. He would usually take a bath too. It’s important to be prepared and open as well as clean. It makes the experience much more fun for both of us.
CONTROL HIS CLIMAX
I would pretend I was a man, and it felt amazing. The raw power of knowing I was in control of his orgasm and pleasure was the greatest feeling. I would not let him touch himself when his hands were free. I wanted him to be ready for me. Once in a great while, I let him come, but not often. He would beg me, whimper, and I would say, “Shut up, it’s not time. Be still. Don’t touch yourself.” He would squirm but lie there obediently with his ass in the air.
STRAP-ON TOYS ARE GREAT STRAP-LESS, TOO
I also found that I liked using the toys without the strap-on because I could achieve a level of control that was not possible with the harness. I could go very hard and deep with just my hand and a toy. Jacob preferred the strap-on, though.
PLANNING TO USE AND BUY NEW TOYS CAN BRING YOU TOGETHER
Talking about the experience, preparing for it, and actually having it also brought us closer together. It’s something that not everyone does. We read books, watched DVDs, and went shopping. We talked about having a threesome but broke up before that happened. It would have been a great experience under the right circumstances. Using toys, being with another person, working as one, I am excited even as I write about it!
EXPLORE AND GROW CLOSER AS A COUPLE
Strap-on play is certainly not for everyone but can be quite fun. I love both giving and receiving. It’s something to discuss with your lover. Whether in a relationship with a man or a woman, anal play is amazing. It’s all about trust and understanding. Exploration, there’s a whole new world out there!
XOXOXOXO
DAPHNE
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IF YOU ENJOYED READING THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING OTHER GUEST BLOGS…
BY DAPHNE:
TIE ME UP, TIE ME DOWN: A BI-GIRL SHARES HER FIRST S&M EXPERIENCE
BY JUNGLE JANE:
A GIRL’S FIRST VIBRATOR: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
GETTING HER NUMBER: A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
BY V.:
AND THEN THERE WERE TWO – CHAPTER ONE
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SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN & SHE’S PACKIN’
Written by Miss Bliss on January 29, 2008 – 3:07 pm -
“I dated the cutest butch girl,” Melissa says with a smile. “I’m a girly-girl and usually into feminine women, but this girl was so hot.”
It is a cool winter morning in Albuquerque, New Mexico, and five beautiful bisexual women have gathered for brunch, community, and conversation. This brunch is notable because this is the first brunch where all the attendees are experienced bi-girls with many stories to share.
“She really is the cutest lesbian I’ve ever seen,” says Melissa’s friend, Kairrie, a joyful and sparkling blonde. “When this girl goes out with us to a bar or a club, she wears a full tuxedo with a bow-tie and everything. But, what kills us, is she has the whole boy look from the hair, the clothes, the shoes… but, she wears full make-up. She’s the cutest boy and the cutest girl at the same time.”
Jackie has long blonde hair that pours down her back and cleavage artfully accentuated in a black plunging neckline. “God, what is up with the girls who wrap up their boobs and squash them down? I’m like, ‘You’re such a beautiful woman! Don’t hide your gorgeous breasts!’”
Kairrie looks down at Jackie’s bountiful chest, and says with a flirtatious giggle, “Goodness, speaking of gorgeous breasts…”
“Why thank you,” Jackie says.
“But it wasn’t just the tuxedo that made this girl so hot,” Melissa steers the conversation back to her original story. “Whenever we went out, she was the perfect gentleman. She opened every door, pulled out every chair, and wouldn’t let me pay for a thing. Not even a drink at the bar.”
“You haven’t told the best part,” Kairrie says. “When this girl went out, she was always packin’.”
“What does ‘packin’ mean,” asks Geneva, another fiercely intelligent, long-haired beauty.
“It means she goes out with a dildo in her underwear, right,” I ask. “They sell flaccid dildos now at sex stores for girls who want to go out with a special secret.”
“Oh, but this wasn’t flaccid,” says Melissa. “She didn’t just drop a dildo into her panties and go. She wore her strap-on and was ready to take me whenever she wanted.”
“It was erect,” I ask. “How’d she wear that thing around without poking into people?”
“She wore it down her left pant leg, so when we danced together, I could feel how hard she was for me.”
“Really,” I asked shocked. “She could dance with a strap-on?”
“She’s an amazing girl,” says Melissa.
“Speaking of butch lesbians,” says Jackie. “My Mom is uptight. She knows I’m a bi-swinger, and that’s fine with her, she just doesn’t want to know anything about it. That’s fine, but sometimes, what you don’t know can get you into trouble. My mom is really active as a referee for softball, basketball, and soccer and she’s straight.”
“Wait,” I say, “you said she’s a softball referee and isn’t lesbian?”
“Nope. The rest of them are, but she is not. She’s cool with lesbians and everything, but doesn’t know a thing about lesbian culture. That’s fine, except her ignorance almost got her into trouble. One night after the game, the lesbians ask my mom to join them for a drink. They go out drinking and when they are about to leave the bar, they ask my mom if she’d like to come home with them and make a Daisy Chain.”
The table erupts in laughter. “Does your mom know what a Daisy Chain is?”
“Nooooo,” Jackie says emphatically. “She has no idea it’s an invitation to a sex party.”
“Did she go,” I ask.
“Oh my God,” says Kairrie, “can you imagine?”
“Oh, no. She had to get up early for work the next morning, so she excused herself. But the next day she calls me and asks me what a Daisy Chain is. My jaw drops to the floor. I ask her why she wants to know, and she tells me the whole story. I cannot stop laughing. ‘What does it mean,’ she asks, and I say, ‘Are you certain you want to know?’ Because I am honest and I will tell her the truth but only if she really wants to hear it. She says, ‘Tell me,’ so I say, ‘Well, Mom, all the girls get around in a circle and each girl pleasures the next girl and no one is left out.’”
“What did your mom say,” I ask.
“‘She said, ‘Oh, I thought they were going to make baskets or garden or something…’”
We laugh and the conversation continues as Kairrie goes to the counter to get us another round of chai lattes.
XOXOXOOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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Dearest Bliss Warriors,
So sorry I was unable to post yesterday. I am in New Mexico and altitude sickness knocked me out yesterday. Now, I’m drinking water and feeling much better. xoxoxoxo BW
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THIS SATURDAY NIGHT WE ARE GOING DANCING IN LOS ANGELES.
WANT TO JOIN US? EMAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM.
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LEARNING TO LOVE STRAP-ONS: A FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY
Written by Miss Bliss on January 25, 2008 – 6:00 am -
You’ve never used a strap-on and liked it.
The first time a girl tightened those leather straps around your hips, fastening her cock to your body, you felt nothing.
On your back, beneath her, behind her, she loved everything you did to her, but still, nothing.
And, when the three of you physically connected, you and your man taking her together, you watched their faces, touched her hair with one hand, stroked his back with the other, and wanted to be there with them. But you weren’t.
Tonight is different. New advances in sex toy technology have created a strap-on that has two attachments: one for her and one for you.
It’s a little complicated to get on. You don’t know if you should insert your dildo before you adjust the straps or the other way around. Either option is awkward.
She watches you from the bed and you smile, a little embarrassed. You ask for help, and she leisurely climbs off the bed and walks towards you. You study the tiny waist, the full breasts, and desire her.
You expect her to come in front of you and help, but she surprises you by coming from behind. Her lips graze the back of your neck as her arms reach around and find the dildo. “May I,” she asks in a whisper. You smile, step your legs a little further apart, and allow her to fill you. She tightens the straps and this time already feels different than the others.
As she leads you back to the bed, you are conscious of the hardness inside of you, connected to the hardness out in front of you.
Now, you are both on your knees. You kiss and run fingers through shampooed hair, while your cock bounces in front of you. Assisting you coyly, she pours lube from her left hand into her right. Slowly, as if you were a man, she strokes the dildo that is facing her thigh. She makes it wet, makes it warm, makes it ready. With each stroke, each gentle pull outward, the cock within you moves, just a bit.
This movement stimulates fierce lust. Suddenly, you want her. You ask her to get on her hands and knees and place a pillow under her belly for soft support. “Touch yourself,” you whisper into her ear, and her right hand shifts underneath her until her body vibrates slowly.
Play began hours ago, and she is ready for you. The head of your new cock is a little bigger than the others you’ve used, so you enter her slowly, just getting the head in first. The tip is in and she moans, and you push further. “Is this alright,” you ask, but she just says, “More.”
You push all the way into her, and something is different. The dildo inside of you pushes back. You pull out of her, and the one inside you pulls out, too. It’s a part of you. Push and pull. Sliding in and out. You are both connected.
Now, it gets fun. You get to fuck her like a man. You have a cock, and you begin to explore her insides with it. You move your hips from side to side, moving your cock to the left and right. Then you switch and make small circles, then wider ones. With each new move, her breath changes: she moans, she sighs, she begs for more. And you feel it all.
“Faster,” she breathes, and your hips move faster.
“Deeper,” she sighs, and you go deeper.
“Yes, just like that,” she moans, “Just like that. Don’t stop. Please don’t stop.”
She is close, and for the first time, you’re going to feel it when you make her come. Lost in the moment, you have never felt so connected to the male part of yourself. This must be what it feels like for a man, you think, or at least it’s close to what a man feels. Your thighs hurt and your abs feel the workout but you keep going. She is going to come all over you and you cannot wait.
“I’m so close,” she says once more.
But right then, out of nowhere, comes the deepest vaginal orgasm you’ve ever felt. Your climax is hard, more powerful than you’ve had a very long time, and you realize - in bliss and horror- you can’t finish her.
You have to stop and catch your breath. Mumbling an odd apology, you roll off her in an orgasmic daze.
“Oh my God,” you say between breaths, “I came too early. I can’t believe it.”
“It’s okay, honey,” she says, but you hear her disappointment.
“No,” you say. “I’m not letting you go without the orgasm you deserve.” You turn to your man who is beaming with pride, so happy the toy he surprised you with works so very well. “Darling,” you say to him, “I think I need your help.”
He smiles and she’s delighted. You place a condom on his warm, hard perfection, then turn, and hold her in your arms. As you kiss her lips, he takes over where you left off.
XOXOXOXOXXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
ONE FRENCH AFTERNOON: A FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY
WALKING HOME IN HER PANTIES: A FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY
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BLISS WARRIOR IS BRUNCHING IN SANTA FE, NEW MEXICO
THIS SUNDAY AT 11 AM
WE ALREADY HAVE 5 GORGEOUS GIRLS COMING
FOR FRIENDSHIP AND CONVERSATION.
EMAIL ME AT BLISS@BLISSWARRIOR.COM TO JOIN US!
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NEED A LITTLE LUBRICATION?
Written by Miss Bliss on January 8, 2008 – 6:00 am -For the first seven years of my relationship with Mr. Bliss, we never used “store-bought” lubrication. Our sex was passionate, deep, and amazing with only our bodies’ natural lubricants. One day, we decided to add Wet’s Light Lubricant to our play and discovered that personal lubricants can add a whole new dimension of pleasure to lovemaking.
ADD A LITTLE LUBRICATION TO YOUR LOVEMAKING
1. INCREASE VAGINAL PLEASURE WITH LUBE There is nothing worse than being touched by a dry hand when you are not quite wet yet. Sometimes, a girl can take awhile to relax, get turned-on, and start getting wet. Place a quarter sized amount of lube in your hands and rub them together to warm it up. When your hands have warmed the lube, start touching her slowly inside and out, and soon, you will have a girl moaning and quivering with pleasure.
2. INCREASE ANAL PLEASURE For some, being penetrated anally is relatively easy; for others, it takes more time and technique to relax and open. Lube up your hands and mentally make a note that one will hand will play with the clit, while the other plays with the anus. (Never touch the anus and the vagina with the same hand! This can cause bacterial and yeast infections. After any anal play, make sure to wash hands immediately.) As you play with her two pleasure zones, pay attention to keep adding lube to her anally if she is still tight there. Listen and make sure to ask her if your massaging her is making her feel good. Ask her if she needs more lube. When she desires penetration, make sure to add extra lube to her and to your strap-on before entering her. With anal, there is never too much lube!
3. GOING ALL NIGHT? LUBE CAN PREVENT SORENESS Sometimes sex without enough lubrication can quickly lead to clitoral and vaginal soreness. Thus, even though a girl is multi-orgasmic, she may want to stop sexual play early because she does not want to become even more sore. So make sure your fingers are dripping wet and she will want to have you make her come all night long.
4. USING CONDOMS? USE LUBE! The only birth control that protects against 99.9% of all STDs is condoms. Many girls do not enjoy condoms because they can “stick” to the vaginal walls, making sex feel drier and less comfortable. Using lube with condoms will increase pleasure and decrease your awareness of the rubber latex. Also, if your man does not like the feel of condoms, advise him to place a small drop of lube in the inside tip of the condom. A little interior lubrication will make your man forget he is wearing a rubber.
5. ADD LUBE TO YOUR HAND JOBS Sometimes it takes a girl awhile to realize that men will enjoy her handjobs much more if they are lubricated. As with girls, warm up a quarter-sized amount of lube in your hands by rubbing them together, than place your slick hands on him and see him shake with desire.
6. IF YOU USE TOYS, YOU NEED LUBE Girls love to use dildos and strap-ons with their partners, but it will feel a lot better if properly lubricated. While wearing a strap-on, stand in front of your partner and stroke your “cock” with lube. Show your partner how hard she has made you as you stroke and lube yourself up for her. Believe me, she will enjoy the show!
7. LUBE IS THE ANSWER TO DRY MOUTH Sometimes when we are being decadent creatures, we partake in substances that leave a girl with dry mouth. Without saliva, it is very hard to lubricate your partner naturally. At these times, make sure to drink lots of bottled water and pull out your bottle of Wet Light to help make your partner glide.
8. REMEMBER, ORAL FIRST, LUBE SECOND It is not fun or the least bit yummy to taste lubricants, and some of the flavored lubes are the worst-tasting of all! So, remember to enjoy your partner orally before she is covered in a not-so-tasty taste.
9. TRY DIFFERENT TYPES OF LUBE UNTIL YOU FIND YOUR FAVORITE There are many kinds of lubricants on the market today and it may take you awhile to find the right lube for you. Some are too sticky, some taste too sugary-sweet, and some taste too chemically. (Not that one should be ingesting lubricant… but if you are into deep, sensuous play, chances are you will taste lube at some point.) After much experimentation, I have grown most fond of Wet Light Personal lubricant. It is not sticky and does not taste noticeably bad. When you go to a sex shop, ask a salesperson for recommendations. Some lubes interfere with condoms, so be careful while making your selection. A great resource is the online store, Babeland, which reminded me to let you know lubricants with the spermicide Nonoxynol-9 can cause allergic reactions.
WHICH LUBRICANT DO YOU USE?
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS
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MY FIVE FAVORITE SEX TOYS
Written by Miss Bliss on November 5, 2007 – 3:28 pm -As a young girl coming of age in a small town in northern California, I learned about sex and sexuality by reading books. At age 12, I read Kurt Vonnegut’s Breakfast of Champions and was fascinated by a scene where Kilgore Trout masturbates with a fake silicon vagina he bought through a mail-order catalogue. It was the first time I ever heard of a sex toy and the idea that one could purchase fake genitalia to practice making love with turned me on incredibly.
Since I have been of age to purchase my own toys, I have amassed quite a collection of toys, but no matter how many I try, there are five classics that I always return to.
Some of you may be shocked that there are no clitoral vibrators listed here, but my clit is very sensitive and I have always thought, “I’ll get into vibrators when I’m in my sixties.” Until then, fingers, lips and tongues are plenty for my personal pleasure.
1. GLASS DILDOS WITH HANDLES
If you have not had the opportunity to play with a glass dildo, I highly recommend that you go out and get yourself one today. Glass dildos are marvelous for play because at room temperature they feel cool and glide easily in and out. If your insides “stick” or “catch” a bit on traditional silicone dildos, glass is a change you want to make. Glass can also be heated in the microwave or cooled even more in the fridge, to delight and stimulate your lover in all sorts of ways.
A couple of years ago, my petite friend Emily gave me a glass dildo with a handle for my birthday. At first I thought, “Oh, no, this is much too intense for me,” thinking the handle might make it possible to hurt a girl accidentally. When we used it that night, we discovered that the handle added a lot of control. It allowed me to move the dildo around in slow, deep circles, or in and out quickly, depending on what my lover’s body desired. It can also move the dildo side to side rapidly, which is deeply pleasurable.
The best part? Glass is completely cleaned and disinfected by just putting it on the top rack of your dishwasher.
2. ANAL BEADS
For some girls, anal sex is easy; for others, it takes a bit more time to open up down there. Anal beads are a great way for you and your partner to begin exploring anal play. The beads start small and become larger so your partner can place the smallest in first, and when you are ready, add more and more beads, until the entire chain is inside of you. This is especially nice with clitoral stimulation. Some sex stores carry vibrating anal beads, which is even better if you can find them, because they shake and shimmer until you are much more open.
When you are about to come, tell your partner and have him or her pull all the beads out as you climax. You will come even harder.
3. THE CURVED STRAP-ON DILDO
Over the years, I have used many types of strap-on harnesses and many kinds of dildos. My favorite to use on girls is the curved, glittery dildo in a leather harness. Curved dildos are particularly good at hitting a girl’s special spots, both from behind and in more traditional positions. As my friend Claire says, “Fucking a girl can burn a lot of calories and force you to use muscles you haven’t used in years,” so make the workout a little less intense by making sure the dildo is doing as much of the work as you are!
4. ANAL PLUGS IN VARIOUS SIZES
Fun to use on both girls and boys, it is important to start with small butt plugs and work your way up slowly. You may want to start with anal beads, then work up to a small butt plug after. During intercourse, leave a plug in you or in both of you, and see how much pleasure you both experience. If you want to have anal sex but have not been able to due to pain, have your lover take a long time using beads, then plugs, then larger plugs on you until you open up. By the time the third plug is removed, you will be very ready for anal penetration. In fact, you will be surprised at how easy and good it feels.
5. SILK RESTRAINTS
Long, 2-inch wide, silk ribbons make for wonderful and sensual restraints. Tying up your partner should be a delicious act, and silk satin feels amazingly sexy against the skin. Handcuffs are fine sometimes, but I prefer the soft feel of fabric to the hardness of metal restraining devices. There is something so gorgeous about the simplicity of tying up your lover and then pleasuring him or her over and over again. Have your man tie you and your lover up together, so all you can do is kiss one another while he pleases you both. I promise, you will not want to be released anytime too soon.
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STRAP-ON SOME ETIQUETTE
Written by Miss Bliss on September 13, 2007 – 8:48 pm -Simply because a girl sleeps with both boys and girls does not necessarily mean she will want to strap-on a dildo and penetrate another girl at the drop of a hat. There is an etiquette to introducing a female lover to strap-on intercourse, and a variety of reasons why an open ethical bigirl may want to wait a bit before bringing her purple-glittered leather-harnessed cock into the mix.
REASON 1
MAKE HER WAIT AND MAKE HER WANT
When a bi-girlfriend of mine calls me to say she has finally met THE girl, but this is not just any bigirl, this is the totally bi-from-birth girl who is beautiful and smart and really into her and really into her guy and she cannot believe their luck and they met up last night and are going to meet tomorrow night and she cannot wait to fuck her with a strap-on….
I say, “Whoa, hold on there, doll. You have finally met that special creature; another bigirl just like you who is equally entranced with you. This is a gift. Slow down. Enjoy the love affair and let it build slowly.”
Usually, I get a pout from the other end of the line. Bisexuals are not generally the patient type. “But what if she loses interest?”
“Oh, sweetie,” I say, “don’t you see? Let each date be a little taste and a lot of restraint.
Let the girl imagine you fucking her…Whisper to her how much you want to use a strap-on on her, right after you and your man have made her orgasm with both of your mouths. When she first asks you to fuck her, say no, I won’t penetrate you until you beg me to.Because nothing is better than having a girl say to you, ‘I will die if you don’t fuck me with that purple-glittered cock of yours right now! I can’t wait a second longer.’”
REASON 2
STRAP-ON NOVICES LIKE TO WAIT
Another reason to save the strap-on for a few trysts down the road, is some bigirls are very self-conscious about fucking their female partners or being fucked by a strap-on because they have never done it before. Because bisexuals pride themselves on being excellent and equitable lovers, a strap-on novice may say she does not want to use a strap-on, or have one used on her, because she is afraid she will not be able to return the favor and fuck her partner well.
There is nothing a bigirl fears more than fucking a girl poorly!
This is where good communication is key, and if you are a strap-on expert, I strongly encourage you to share any tips you have learned with your novice-lover. In my adventures, I have learned that moving your hips in slow, lingering circles while the dildo is inside of your partner can be much more effective and much more of a clitoris stimulant than the traditional in-and-out.
I look forward to hearing strap-on techniques from you bliss readers.
REASON 3
USE CONDOMS WITH ALL TOYS
(and lube, of course)
This is not a reason to wait to use a strap-on, just an etiquette point.
No matter if the girl says she ran it through the dishwasher, boiled it, sprayed it with defectant or whatever, it is not rude and absolutely fundamental to use condoms with other people’s toys, and smart to use with your own so you know your toys are always disease-free.
Treat the fake cocks like the real ones and always use condoms.
Besides, if you practice this regularly, when you find yourself in a fabulous group girl orgy, you will be safe, sexy, and ready to be the gang-bang superstar of your pornographic dreams with your clean silicon cock.
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XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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