LOVING GIRLS OF MANY SHAPES AND SIZES
Written by Miss Bliss on May 12, 2008 – 9:39 am -“It’s so strange that we have no idea of our own size or the space we actually fill. It’s so hard for us to see what others see.”
I am having lunch with a gorgeous baby bi-girl friend of mine in Hollywood. It is unusually cold - the June gloom came in May - and we are trying to warm up by sipping large bowls of soup. “Well, it’s especially easy to think you’re fat in L.A.”
“I know. When I’m in New York, I feel normal, and if I’m in South Dakota, it’s easy to feel thin…” She laughs and her blue eyes brighten the foggy afternoon. “But here in L.A., everyone is so determined to look like a stick on TV, it makes you feel crazy and huge.”
“You know,” she says with a tilt of her red hair, “when I lived in Seattle, I felt pretty darn good about my body. I never had issues with feeling fat. I liked who I was, but here…” Her words drift off and I nod.
“I’ve been trying to write a blog on why women should explore dating girls of all different body types, but I’ve had a hard time getting the right words out. When we feel fat, it’s because we are comparing ourselves to some stick-figure girl who has no breasts or butt but can fit into a size zero. As my man says, ‘Boy bodies can be fun once in awhile, but most men don’t want to spend their lives with just that.’ When he first said that to me, I thought he was crazy. I guess we are so used to seeing that body type in fashion and the media, we women get brainwashed and think that is what men want, when, in reality, men often prefer a soft, curvy, femme girl.”
“Is that true,” she asks with a raised eyebrow.
“Well, it wasn’t until we started having love affairs that I realized why men truly do appreciate the unique look of each woman’s body. Over many years, we have had the amazing honor of finding lovers that are taller, shorter, larger, curvier, thinner… And, with some of them, I felt like the ‘big’ girl, with others I felt like the ‘tiny’ girl, and sometimes, I would be surprised and delighted that the ‘tiny’ girl was actually my same size, even though I felt ‘bigger’.”
“It’s true that it’s really hard for us to see what others see.”
“There was something about being with a girl who would say, ‘Look at how fat my thighs are,’ and I would look at her and see beautiful legs. She wasn’t fat at all! Or the girl who’d complain about how flat chested she was when all I ever wanted was to be able to wear a tank-top without a bra. Moments like these helped me to question myself when my brain would go to those same dark places. By seeing the beauty in all types of women, I learned to see my own.”
She ponders this as she sips her soup, and I take a moment to feel gratitude for each and every woman whose unique beauty makes a dreary day sparkle.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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CAPTIVATING THE COLLEGE GIRL - PART TWO
Written by Miss Bliss on March 28, 2008 – 1:56 pm - A FRIDAY NIGHT BEDTIME STORY
A LITTLE EROTIC FICTION TO HELP YOU SLEEP MORE SOUNDLY
MISSED CAPTIVATING THE COLLEGE GIRL - PART ONE? CLICK HERE TO READ IT.
“Do you want to sit down?” She is standing nervously near the door, silently debating whether or not she should leave. Something about the small space of your studio apartment makes her anxious. Occasionally you catch her eyes looking at your full-size bed and you know she is weighing her options. You distract her thoughts by saying, “Let’s have another glass of wine, shall we?”
“It’s getting late…” The librarian wants to go home and stay safe inside her straight world, but the gypsy has not forgotten the passion on the roof experienced just a few moments before. She is obviously torn and the stress of her internal battle creates creases in her forehead.
“It’s not too late for one more drink.” Before she can say no, you go into the closet that is your kitchen and pour two glasses of red wine. Opening the refrigerator, you take out a box of strawberries, wash them and quickly arrange them in a bowl. Carefully balancing the two glasses and the bowl, you join her on the couch. She gingerly takes a glass and you place the strawberries on the foot locker that serves as a coffee table. “To friendship,” and you lift your glass for a toast.
She is quiet as she sips her wine. You let the silence grow as you eat strawberries. Casually, you move your leg close to hers, and let your leg brush against hers. She moves closer to you and you realize she wants to be seduced. She may be divided, unsure of what she wants, but she is still here. “May I kiss you again,” you ask.
She nods, unable to say a word. Taking the wine glass out of her hand and setting it next to yours on the table, you turn to her and kiss gently, slowly, savoring the taste of alcohol and fruit that lingers on her tongue.
Suddenly, as if a switch in her brain was turned, she pushes you back down on the couch and straddles your body. She doesn’t speak but aggressively kisses you, with such an ardent passion you cannot believe this is the same girl who only hours before told you she was “straight”. Her hands run up and down your arms, through your hair, as she begins pressing her hips into yours. She is drowning and you are oxygen and she cannot get enough of you.
She comes up onto her knees and begins unbuttoning her white shirt. As each button is undone, she stares into your eyes, enjoying you watching her. You wonder if she ever plays this role with her male lovers. Her bra is boring and functional - a t-shirt nude-colored bra designed to be invisible under clothing - but her breasts are so full and perky, she somehow makes the bra look inviting and sexy. Her stomach is flat with a shimmering jewel filling her belly button.
“You have a belly ring,” you ask as you touch it. More evidence of the passionate gypsy.
“Do you like,” she asks.
“I do.” Your fingers touch her soft belly, then move up her chest and until both of her breasts are in your hands. “Do you have any sense of how perfect your body is?” She shakes her head shyly and her hair moves around her shoulders. “You should be a lingerie model, that’s how stunning you are.”
Although she can’t look at you, she is smiling. Her hands find your shirt and she starts to pull it off. She wants to see you, too. “Oh, your bra is so pretty,” she exclaims as she sees the black embroidery. Like on the roof, she touches your breasts with utter fascination. She had no idea how amazing it is to feel the soft fullness of another woman’s breasts. Her hands go under the bra cups and she finds your nipples, already hard, already throbbing with desire and she pinches them. You moan and she says with delight, “You like that?”
“Darling, if you keep this up, I’m not going to be able to control myself.”
She pinches your nipples harder. Separating your legs, she moves her knee between them, and starts pressing her leg into you, making your clit vibrate with anticipation. She is daring you to take her, pushing to make it impossible to stop, and you are surprised that she - the girl virgin - the straight one - the novice - this girl is seducing you. Did she lie to you when she said she was straight? Has she been with other girls but can’t admit it? She must have played with girls before to be this assertive… or maybe, she’s just drunk. Will she pretend none of this happened when the sun rises?
But you let these questions go because she is distracting your body with desire. “Let’s move,” you say and you gesture to the bed. She gets up and gives you her hand to help you up. In bras and skirts, you hold each others’ hands as you walk to the bed.
“Lie on your back,” you command.
“I want you to lie on your back,” she says, deciding to stay the dominant lover.
“You have been with girls before. You must have.”
She shakes a finger no.
“But you are acting so…” You want to say, experienced, but before you do, she puts a finger to your lips to silence you, and gently pushes you back on the bed. She undoes your zipper and slides your skirt off. Standing, she turns her back to you and unzips her skirt. It falls to the floor elegantly and she steps out of it. Turning around, she is only in underwear, but she is more beautiful than you ever imagined. Tiny waisted, great legs, perfect breasts and a flat, shimmering belly, she is a goddess come alive and she is ready to devour you.
Crawling on top of you, she kisses you deeply. She slides down your body, letting her hair tickle your neck, your breasts, your tummy until her face pauses over your sex. Her fingers find the sides of your lace underwear and she begins to pull them off. “Wait,” you say and take her face in your hands. She looks up at you and smiles. When you were taking the lead, you felt confident and all-powerful; her sudden passion for you makes you feel shy and awkward. “Is this what you want,” you ask. “Are you sure you want to do this?” You are giving her an out and you don’t know why.
She answers you by pulling off your underwear. She tells you she wants you by licking your right inner thigh, then licking the left. She kisses your bellybutton, then kisses an inch below it, than another kiss, and another… each kiss bringing her closer and closer to your impatient, throbbing sex. Her tongue starts at the base of your pussy, and in one long lick, she tastes you from the base all the way to the tip of your clit. Licking you so lightly, with such delicacy, you are driven insane with desire for her. Your hips begin to lift off the bed, asking her for more tongue, more pressure, more, more, more. Her hands spread your legs wider and her tongue finds your slick interior. Her lips find your swollen clit and she begins sucking on it - in and out - and you moan.
You cannot believe she is going down on you. The first two girls you played with you didn’t go down on at all. Although you like girls, something about smelling and tasting pussy turned you off a little. Touching another girl with your fingers was fun and easy. Just like masturbating, you knew exactly how much pressure to put on her clit with the right hand and how to use the left hand to penetrate her at the same time. But oral sex was a whole other level of intimacy. This girl had to have been with girls before; what girl goes down on another girl right away? Especially if she has not been touched or brought to orgasm yet?
With her tongue still on your clit, she inserts a finger into your tight warm self and begins moving it in and out. She is not an expert with her hand and mimicks the actions of a guy by simply pushing her finger in and out. Maybe she is a girl virgin, after all…. but you soon forget the novice quality of her hand movement because her tongue distracts you with its expert skill. Nibbling on your clit lightly, sometimes pulling it into her month, sometimes stroking it with quick licks, she brings you close to orgasm. Although coming has never been difficult for you, she is bringing you to orgasm fast.
“Put another finger in me,” you instruct, and she inserts two fingers. Two fingers fill you better and she begins moving her hand with more force. Experimenting with her hand, she starts to move her fingers in circles, touching your walls in new and delicious ways. Between her lips, tongue and hands, you are dripping wet, throbbing and close. So close. “You are going to make me come,” you whisper.
This makes her movements more excited, faster, harder. Your hips press your sex deeper into her face, and you begin to rock against her fingers. The explosion is building within you and you whisper, “Keep doing that. Yes, just like that. I am so close…”
In that moment, she does something so surprising, it pushes you over the edge into the deepest orgasm a girl ever gave you. With the two fingers of her right hand penetrating you, her tongue stroking your clit, she takes her left hand and inserts a finger into your ass. Her finger is dry and the shock of the insertion - not quite pleasant and a little painful without lubrication - jump starts your body and surprises your mind. Penetrating you with both hands, you explode into orgasm. The pleasure and slight pain throw you over the edge and you scream. “Coming,” you say, and your body is filled with waves of pleasure. Over and over the waves wash over you and you whisper, “I’m still coming….” Longer than any orgasm, you cannot believe this girl did this to you.
Finally, you push at her shoulders to gently stop her. Again, you pull her up to you, her face slick with your juices. You kiss her and taste yourself on her tongue. You taste yummy mixed up in her saliva.
She turns and lies next to you as you both catch your breath. “You are no straight girl, honey.”
“No,” she asks with a purr.
“I hate to break it to you, but no. You certainly don’t make love to a girl like a hetero.”
“How do I make love to a girl?”
“Like this,” you say. Mimicking her movements, you show her what an incredible lover of women she already is.
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This is part two of a three-part story, Captivating the College Girl. Tune in next week to find out what happens in the morning. . XOXOXOXO BLISS WARRIOR
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PLEASURE HER WITH PEARLS
Written by Miss Bliss on March 6, 2008 – 11:11 am -Pearls. Layers and layers of pearls. Wrapped around your neck, draped down your body, and dangling from your wrists - pearls can accent any lingerie look. Classic, sexy, and timeless, a girl can never wear enough pearls. What you may not know, however, is that pearls can also double as a tool to pleasure, tease and torment your lover.
1. TEASE HER BACK WITH YOUR PEARLS
The next time you are planning a romantic evening with your man, your girl or both, drape yourself in long, multiple strands of pearls. After you have slowly, delicately, romantically removed your lover’s clothes, have her lie on her stomach on your bed. Massage her shoulders lightly, helping her to relax. Let the bottom of your pearls touch the top of her spine, and as you go down her body, massaging her with your hands, let the pearls dance up and down her spine. If you have long hair, let your hair also drape down onto her back. The sensation of pearls and hair dancing on her skin will wake up her senses while gently teasing her. Soon, she will begin to move, arch, moan and demand a deeper touch.
2. PEARLS CAN BE A MARVELOUSLY STIMULATING BETWEEN HER LEGS
After you’ve teased her back and she’s asked between breaths for more, let the pearls drop down the crevice of her marvelous backside. With your left hand, reach under her and hook your thumb in the loop of your pearls. Now the pearls are looped around your neck, draped between her legs, and neatly secured at the front of her most delicious places with your left thumb. Start slowly moving the pearls between her legs - up and down, and side to side. Soon, she will start moving against the pearls herself and you will need to make sure the tension remains right. Use your right hand to secure the top of the pearls (and to avoid choking yourself) while using the left to move them faster or slower, until your lover cries for a deeper touch.
3. TIE HER UP IN PEARLS
Obviously, pearls are not as strong as rope, and can easily break. So go out to your local cheap jewelry junk shop and buy lots of cheap pearl necklaces. If your lover is up for some make believe play, and promises not to struggle too much, you can wrap up her hands in pearls and “pretend” she cannot move. Any girl looks amazing tied up in pearls - so if she is a role player - this might make for some amazing imaginative teasing and sexual play.
4. PENETRATE HER WITH PEARLS
After you’ve teased and tormented her, you can insert pearls vaginally or anally. Pushing them in slowly one or two beads at a time will drive her mad. But the real thrill is when almost the entire strand of beads is inside her. Get her close to coming by playing with her clit and when she is right about to come, pull the beads out of her. Watch her delight as she comes with pearls pouring out of her. (Make sure to use a good, strong antibacterial cleaner on the pearls before she comes over, just to be safe.)
Don’t forget to plan ahead and buy a few extra strands for your lover. After you have made her shake and shimmy, let her have the delight of teasing and tormenting you with her jewels.
XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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FIVE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES ABOUT BISEXUALS
Written by Miss Bliss on February 18, 2008 – 11:26 am -Dear Miss Bliss,
I don’t know if I would classify myself as bi. I don’t really know what my sexuality is. I am only 22 years old and have been in a serious relationship for the past three years. I knew I was attracted to girls before I met my current boyfriend. I’ve been lucky in the sense that I can talk to my man openly about my bisexual feelings and he understands. His only rule is that he be allowed to participate.
The only problem is I don’t want him to be there when I have my first experience with a girl. A lot of it is my own insecurity and the other part is I want to experience my first time without an audience.
A year ago, I set out to find a girl to explore my curiosity with and - unbelievably - met someone through Craigslist and we really hit it off. When we finally met in person, I couldn’t believe my luck! Not only was she beautiful, we had so much in common, and there was never an awkward silence between the two of us. We knew right away that we could be great friends.
Towards the end of the date, things got very physical. Needless to say, there was a lot of alcohol involved and we weren’t very careful about what we were doing. We were hooking up in her car outside of my apartment and my boyfriend caught us in the act - naked and everything.
Before I continue, you should know that my boyfriend is a very stereotypical Latin man who is jealous, possessive, immature, but also loving and passionate, and he worships the ground I walk on. He was very hurt that I went out with a girl behind his back and it took a long time and a lot of apologizing to get him to forgive me. In the end, he told me that I could no longer see this girl or even talk to her. He even went as far as calling her and telling her to stay away from me. Of course, she got freaked out and we decided to cool it.
It’s been a year and I have not been able to forget her. The whole incident was devastating to me. Ever since then it’s been hard for me go out without my boyfriend without being grilled about the night extensively when I get home.
A lot of time has passed and my desire to be with a woman is overwhelming. I am constantly asking myself if I even want to be with a man at all. When we’re having sex I find myself fantasizing about being with a woman and that’s how I get off! I’ve tried to convince him to let me have a special “friend” on the side but he’s afraid I will leave him for her, so the same first rule applies: only if he’s involved. And I’m still not comfortable with that.
In a few weeks, I will be moving out of our apartment and I am hoping to use that new freedom to explore what it’s like to really be with a woman. I don’t know that it’s fair to stay in a relationship with him knowing that what I really want is a woman’s touch. However - and I know this sounds selfish - I am afraid to break up with him only to realize I can’t find a decent girl.
Can you give me some advice? Also, do you think what I’m doing is wrong?
xoxox
CAUGHT CHEATING IN THE CAR
Darling Caught Cheating,
It’s not often that I feel sorry for the jealous possessive boyfriend, but your letter has made it happen. It is also very rare that an Ask Miss Bliss letter makes me wonder if all of those negative stereotypes about bisexuals may just be true and accurate. Sweet girl, I know you are young, and I am so glad you wrote to me because you may never be a happy bisexual girl unless you make some changes in your behavior.
FIVE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES ABOUT BISEXUALS THAT YOUR LETTER IS REINFORCING:
1. BISEXUALS ARE CONFUSED
It is fine to be unsure if the labels bi, straight or gay are right for you. However, if you are calling yourself “curious” (and therefore, implying you are bisexual) when you are behaving badly (i.e., lying and cheating on your man) you are teaching him and your lover that bisexuals are liars and cheaters. Stop reinforcing the negative stereotypes we are trying to dismantle and get honest and open in your sexual behavior. There is no need to lie or cheat but you have to be strong to be ethical and honest. Know that the enemy is not your partner wanting to be involved - it is you for not being able to stick to the terms of your relationship!
2. BISEXUALS CANNOT COMMIT
Even though you know that your man is jealous and the two of you have agreed that you will not do anything with a girl “unless he is involved”, you still lie to him. You are not brave enough to break off the relationship to explore your “curiosity” on your own. Instead, you go behind his back on the Internet searching for girls, and even go on a date with a girl and get naked right in front of the apartment you share, and are still mad at him when he can no longer trust you. Do you see how you are reinforcing the negative stereotype that bisexuals cannot be trusted?
3. BISEXUALS THINK BEING WITH A GIRL BEHIND THEIR MAN’S BACK IS NOT CHEATING
Lesbians have a right to be angry and/or suspicious when bisexual woman come on to them in bars because of “curious” girls like you, darling reader. Bi-women who are in serious relationships with men often believe that their man has no right to be jealous when they are with girls because “they wouldn’t leave him for a girl.” Many sincere, kind, sexy lesbians have been toyed around with lying curious-and-not-sure-if-they-are-bi girls who are cheating on men. I am sure your perfect girlfriend was “freaked out” when you’re man called her to tell her to stay away from you - but she was not just freaked out by him. She learned that you were lying to him and to her, and what girl would want to date someone like that? No wonder some lesbians want nothing to do with bi-girls; they have been burned by behavior similar to yours.
4. BI-GIRLS SHOULDN’T HAVE TO INCLUDE THEIR PRIMARY PARTNER
Darling girl, many bi-curious girls say that they want their first time with a girl NOT to involve their partner for two reasons: (1) it is much easier to hook up with a girl when no man is involved, and (2) they do not trust their man enough to share the experience with him. But here, again, is why this type of behavior reinforces negative stereotypes about bisexuals. First, it demonstrates that you do not want to enjoy a lover to DEEPEN your connection with your primary relationship. Second, if your man does not approve of you being alone with a girl for the first time, then anything behind his back is cheating. Just because she is a girl and you think you will not fall in love with her does not make it fair to lie and cheat. What you need to be working on is your relationship with your man. If he will not let you have lovers on the side and you will not include him, then you need to get a therapist and start couples therapy immediately. Or, it may be time to end the relationship because it is obvious you do not respect his needs or his feelings. Don’t reinforce the stereotype that bisexuals cannot have healthy long-term relationships; just get honest.
5. BISEXUALS WANT THEIR CAKE AND TO EAT IT, TOO
According to your letter, you have already had a “first time” with a girl in a car but you now want a second “first time” without your man’s involvement even though you KNOW it will hurt him terribly. In order to do this, you are going to move out of the apartment you share so you will have “easier access” to girls. Well, this is fine except for the fact that you are STILL planning on lying to him because you do not want to end the relationship out of fear of being alone. Darling, this reinforces the stereotype that bisexuals are selfish and only care about their own sexual desires and pleasures. By lying to your man, you are also setting up relationships with women that are based on lies. You WON’T find a healthy relationship with a woman until you are ready to date in an honest and respectful manner.
Darling Reader, there are so many amazing bisexual woman who are honest with themselves, their partners and their lovers. Their lives become happy and drama-free just by being ethical and responsible to the people they love. Be the Bi-Girl You Want to Meet and get honest. It just makes life better and easier.
OXOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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A BABY BI-GIRL SHARES HER STORY
Written by Jungle Jane on February 13, 2008 – 3:57 pm -DEAREST READERS,
I AM PROUD TO PUBLISH THE FIRST BLOG BY A GUEST BLOGGER, JUNGLE JANE. SHE IS A BABY BI-GIRL AND READY TO SHARE HER JOURNEY WITH YOU. I HOPE YOU ENJOY.
XOXOXOOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
I’m writing this blog for those bisexual readers that have yet to make love to a woman, but dream of the day. I’ve noticed there are quite a few of us baby bi-girls reading Bliss Warrior that are new in figuring out our complex sexualities. If you are anything like me, you are thoroughly enjoying the learning curve. Especially those sharp turns like becoming the bi-girl you want to meet. Meet being the key word.
Maybe, like myself, you are in love with a man that supports your courageous decision to live life openly. I am enjoying this new freeness and openness with my man. It has brought our relationship to a new level of intensity and desire. I fully enjoy admiring women with him and sharing our fantasies. Honesty is extremely sexy. It turns me on like crazy.
Maybe you’re single and looking for that lover wherever the universe is leading you to finding her or him or both. There is no one type of bi-girl. Wherever you’re at in life, your bisexuality should be exciting and empowering and radiate off of your soft glowing skin at home and in public. I am radiating myself and feel compelled to share this journey with all you dynamic bliss warriors.
I have the BW blog to thank for my coming out. I do not mind a bit telling my friends the truth anymore. It’s like my new magic power. I say things that make both sexes blush and come out of their shells. I was never a big fan of small talk!
I will use this blog to give you a little background in growing up loving girls, because that’s always fun and insightful. Talking and hearing about our childhood girlfriends is sweet and reminds us all of how innocent and pure love really is.
I believe if I ever were such a thing as bi-curious it started at a very young age and I grew into bisexuality. I think adding the word curious to the title is unnecessary. We are all inherently curious. I believe even the straight girls are bi “curious”. That’s just me, feel free to disagree. I may not have ever “been” with a girl sexually, but I know that I’m attracted to women and always will be. When I speak about my bi virginity, I am speaking about it from the adult perspective. I had plenty of action as a young girl, but none as an adult.
I will write about the now: the flirting, the fantasies, and the realities (which can sometimes be irritating). I’ll let you in on all the details of my pursuit of losing my bisexual virginity! I’ll be blogging about my search for a lover that fits like a puzzle piece. A lover that will be as comfortable with me and my man as he and I are together. A girl that wants me to write to her, about her. So that she can have it to read over and over whenever she needs to hear it. A girl that gives back and doesn’t shy away from the truth no matter what it may be.
I want sexy in whatever form it takes! Sexiness comes when you OWN IT! I look for girls who don’t really give care about what you may or may not be thinking about them. They’re simply hot and they know it. I love clever, charming, funny women that laugh loud and often. I love women who love women. That’s why I want to share in the BW community because you all know what I’m talking about. Can I get an amen?
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It must have all started when I was five. Sounds about right. Her last name was Ham. She used to chase me around the sitter’s house trying to “teach me how to french kiss”. I let her a few times. Gave her some freebies, but she wasn’t my type. She pissed me off mostly. She may have been my first kiss, but I can’t really remember. I do know that I got a lot of action when I was five.
My best friend was Emily. I never kissed her. She was my innocent, fragile friend that I handled with care. She was very churchy. Even more so than I was at that age which was tough to be. Jesus was my boy! Emily was my girl, but I played too rough for her. We had some fun times, but third grade came along and changed it all. We started at the elementary school across town: new playground, new places to hide and seek, new teachers, and new best friends.
That was when Leah came into my life.
Leah had a best friend, too, named Deedee. Deedee and Leah kicked it like Emily and I. They had a bond, an agreement and were “best friends”. Being “best friends” at that age meant something — something sacred.
Shortly after meeting, Leah and I started passing notes, telling secrets, talking on the phone, walking to each other’s house after school, and walking to school together. And, we knew what it meant. It meant that Leah and I had become best friends. In order to carry on properly, it was only fair for us to tell Emily and Deedee what was going on. We talked about it, planned it out, wrote our notes, and handed them off to our soon to be ex-best friends.
It was on! She lived a couple blocks from me. We were crazy bike riders and spent days and nights together. Doing homework, fighting with her brother and his friends, playing nintendo, and feeling up our bodies and all the changes they were going through as the years went by. We called our new pubic hair, peach fuzz. We called our new boobies, mosquito bites. Those mosquito bites seem to grow overnight in the puberty years. We would give each other massages as a way to touch each other’s new breasts. I’ll never forget it and it still turns me on.
Once upon a time, on Leah’s mother’s bed, Leah and I exchanged massages. Leah got the first massage. I put lotion all over her back and started rubbing out two circles over her shoulder blades while my thumbs slipped up her spine. Admiring her body and melting in my panties, my face was red and she was smiling. I started moving my hand under her arms. Inching my way towards her little breasts, not believing that I was actually going for it — and, unexpectedly, she cut me off.
“Your turn!” she said. I wasn’t really done, but I knew she wasn’t ending it so I smiled big and flopped down in front of her. On my stomach still, because we were “giving massages”, she squirted the lotion all over my back and began to rub me down. She glided her lotion soaked hands right under my arms. She got me nice and slippery and then slipped her hands further down and over my nipples as I rose up off the bed to give her room. She massaged my breasts and squeezed my nipples. She brought her hands back up to my back and asked me how it felt. I said, “It tickled,” and she reached down immediately to grab them again. I lifted up again and my ass pushed into her lap and I could feel her warmth from behind. Mmmmm… Leah was in control, making my shy self incredibly comfortable.
Our relationship was rocky though because she had another friend that she spent a lot of time with. I was so jealous of that girl. The last time she and I hooked up came in 7th grade at the movie theater. Leah and I had joked about having a real date. Going to the movies…together…as a couple. I think we even told our mothers that was what we were doing, but they just thought we were being silly like usual. But no. We sat in the back, held hands, rubbed each others arms, until we couldn’t hold it anymore and we turned to each other and kissed. Stopped, looked at each other, then french kissed like mad. Grabbing each other’s hair, breasts, face. We were both a little advanced in our kissing and making out. Then she startled me. She got out of her seat and crouched down in front of me and spread my legs apart and unzipped my jeans and ran her hands down my chest and into my unzipped jeans and then……….I freaked a little. I think it was the reality of being in a theater that did it for me. I wanted her so bad, but I chickened out. I made her stop. She said she understood and we finished out the movie holding hands both unsatisfied. I think it pissed her off a little. We were never the same. That was my last experience with a girl sadly enough. I’ve had plenty of crushes, but never any action.
I think these type of experiences mean something. A LOT of little girls have these type of experiences.
Have you had similar experiences?
Do you feel those experiences were your first bisexual ones?
I remember it all as the beginning. I feel that sex with a woman does not make you bisexual, the desire to be with a woman does.
Until the next time, I will still be searching for the girl who is the one.
xoxoxox
JUNGLE JANE
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BLISS WARRIOR’S ELEVEN INSANELY HOT SAPPHIC SCENES
Written by Miss Bliss on January 16, 2008 – 6:00 am -Bliss Warrior prides herself on exquisite taste in film – and women. So I thought I’d share my favorite sensuous girl scenes and seek the opinions of all you Angels, Goddesses and Vixens.
Top Eleven Absolutely Gorgeous Scenes Of Women Making Love
There’s no porn here – everything’s available on NetFlix. And I’m not saying these are all great films, either. These are just scenes that drive me wild every time I see them, and remind me that girls who don’t love girls are just a little bit insane.
1-Unbearable Lightness of Being.
It’s 1988. Juliete Binoche photographs Lena Olin. Lena photographs Juliette. Bliss Warrior’s life changes forever.
2- Show Me Love.
Lukas Moodyson’s sublime coming-out story that’s really a luminous coming-of-age story. Lost and lonely Swedish teens Agnes and Ellin share their first kiss while an unlikely 80s power ballad plays on the car stereo. Trust me on this.
3- The Hunger. Catherine Deneuve and Susan Sarandon’s love scene is as shocking and hypnotic now as it was in 1983. It’s great fun to revisit this film and remember the moment Goth peaked.
4 - Exterminating Angels. Halfway through this
unholy French exploitation flick you realize you’re watching a self-indulgent male-menopausal misogynist cry for help masquerading as feminism. “Silly” is a kind word for this one. But the love scenes are some of the most gorgeous ever filmed. The restaurant scene is worth the rental, and the all-girl threesome will change your life.
5 - Aimee and Jaguar.
Required viewing. A Nazi’s wife falls in love with a Jewish girl who’s helping the resistance. It’s devastating, gorgeous, sexy as hell, and a true story. Great book, too.
6 - Bound. You knew this would make the list. If you still haven’t seen Gina Gershon & Jennifer Tilly share the most tantalizing first kiss ever, catch up. Quick!
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7 - Gia. This film’s influence on bi-girls is like the Big Bang – it’s still expanding. Trashy, exploitative, made-for-cable, and I own it proudly. The best performance Angelina J. ever gave – until “A Mighty Heart” (which is also required viewing, just for different reasons). Insanely hot. Damn.
8 - Desert Hearts. Helen Shaver & Patricia Charbonneau redefine chemistry with one of the all-time classic lesbian love scenes. It’s charming, it’s campy, and who doesn’t love a film about the 1950s made in the 1980s. The new 2 Disc DVD has extra footage you really should see.
9 - Bitter Moon. Not exactly a bi-girl film, but Polanski got creepy again in the early ‘90s. Hugh Grant spends half the film wondering how he can cheat on Kristin Scott-Thomas with Emmanuelle Seigner. Then Kristin gets her instead. Their moment is brief, but it balances out the brilliant psychological creepiness of the story. This film makes very uptight men even more uptight. I mentioned it was creepy, right?
10 - High Art.
I don’t think I can say anything about Radha Mithcell and Ally Sheedy’s scene that hasn’t been said by those more eloquent than me. This show is everything “The L Word” wishes it was. Before there was Shane, there was Ally Sheedy.
11 - Mulholland Drive.
Because, well, you know.
And if you don’t, rent it right now!
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IN CASE YOU WERE WONDERING…
Sorry frat boys, there’s no “Wild Things” on this list. Nothing against Neve Campbell or the former Mrs. Sheen, but that little piece of swimming pool infamy was two women PRETENDING to be into each other to sucker a man. It’s also a prime example of female bisexuality being used as a marketing tool to suck-in males. Not hot. (Neve more than redeems herself with Jolie Carter behind a gauzy curtain in the intriguing-and-yet-silly “When Will I Be Loved”)
There’s no “Chasing Amy” here either. Many love this film, but I could never get too hot for a story of a woman who thought she was lesbian until she was straightened out by Ben Affleck’s Goatee.
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Okay, ladies! Tell me what scenes and films you love. I’m waiting.
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WALKING HOME IN HER PANTIES
Written by Miss Bliss on January 11, 2008 – 12:20 am -It is Friday night, and for some of you, tonight will be a night of delight.
She will meet you for a cocktail at the lounge twenty or so minutes late. This doesn’t bother you; it gives you time to relax. You wait for her nervous, excited, and aware of the slight throb between your legs. Patterned stockings and knee-high pointed boots, you wonder what she will do when she sees you.
“Can I bring you a drink,” the waitress asks. She is in a short black dress and you notice her long legs. For a moment, you feel like a man must feel; always aware of the desire for women.
From across the room she approaches. In a short floral dress, belted, femme and glowing, she appears. You never expected her to get so decked out for you. Obviously, she spent time picking out the most adorable outfit she could find in her closet. She took so much time look her best and you are overwhelmed with gratitude and anticipation. She is having as much fun being on the date as you are.
After a few hours of drinks and conversation; after moments of knees touching, fingers lacing, her hand on your stockinged leg; after deciding who was more sober and would drive home… You arrive in her apartment, she pours you wine and you are both awkward for a moment. She’s talking a lot and you don’t know if you should kiss her or not. It all seems so much more intimate than you expected and you feel like a teenager again; awkward and slightly off.
But she is a bit older than you are, and definitely more experienced. She leads you to her bedroom, puts on music that you have never heard before but feels familiar. Candles scent the room in ginger and lillies and you let her lead you. She pulls you into her, dances with you and lets her hands drip down your back slowly. Her fingers slide under your skirt, feeling the gap of skin between your stocking and your panties. Never has that flesh tingled as much. She strokes you through your green and black lace and you are grateful you went shopping and bought new pretty things for her.
Kissing you slowly, she memorizes the shape of your mouth with her tongue. Licking you lightly, tenderly, you are amazed by the softness of her mouth, the smallness of her tongue, the smoothness of her cheek.
As she undresses you, and then makes love to you, you are surprised only by how normal and perfect it all feels. You knew it would be wonderful with a woman but you had no idea it would feel sweet and innocent. Lost in bliss, you flip her over and are shocked at how much you already knew about pleasuring a woman. You already knew how to make her sigh, gulp, moan, and ask for more, because you knew what you liked so well. Her body is so new and so known; a mystery and a returning home; and you tell her with your mouth, tongue, chin, fingers and nose how very much you adore her.
Unfortunately, tonight you can’t stay over, but you want to. Lifting sheets, pillows, and towels, you search for your lingerie and your left boot. She comes up from behind you, puts her arms around your shoulders and whispers into your ear that she would like to sleep in your panties and have you go home wearing hers. This makes you blush but turns you on in its innocent dirtiness. You turn around and face her and you swap panties and put them on.
They fit you perfectly which shocks you because she seemed so much smaller than you. You silly girl, she says. Look, we’re the same size.
Dressed and back out in the cool January night, you smile, walking home in her panties.
XOXOXOXOOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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ASK MISS BLISS - WHAT TO DO WITH UNEXPRESSED DESIRES
Written by Miss Bliss on November 28, 2007 – 11:46 am -Dear Miss Bliss,
I have recently explored my bisexual side with my husband’s approval. He is my best friend and I believe in honesty and trust. I would never go outside of my wonderful marriage without his approval. The problem is my bisexuality has sent him on an emotional rollercoaster.
With his approval, I have met some nice females and had my very first experience with a woman. Things didn’t turn out well with this female due to conflicting sexual needs. Shortly thereafter, I met another wonderful female who I connected with and she and I decided to meet for a possible encounter. My husband’s reaction was a bit different this time. He began playing the victim role and seemed irritated. I decided it was best to cancel the encounter and possibly drop this issue.
Now, I am feeling angry, but more sad than anything. I have lived with these desires since I was a late teenager. My question is how does a BiGirl satisfy her desires when she is not allowed to express them? The desires get very strong at times and even though my husband and I have a very good and adventurous sex life, I crave touching a female.
Sincerely,
Unexpressed Desires
Dear Unexpressed Desires,
Congratulations on being best friends with your man, and for valuing honesty in your relationship. It is hard for some bisexual women to be frank with their partner about their sexual and romantic desires, but that has not been a challenge for you, so again, I commend you.
I understand why you are feeling angry and sad, but I would like you to take a minute to see things from your man’s perspective. He has been a real gem to you, lovely girl, and has tried to overcome any jealousies so you could have “encounters” with women. Having an open relationship is tricky in the beginning, because it is hard to know when jealousies and insecurities will arise and what will cause them. Even though he loves you and may even find your bisexual play sexually stimulating, he is still your man, and feelings of possessiveness, insecurity, and jealousy may come up. Because this is new in your marriage, he may not know how to express these feelings and therefore acts like a “victim”.
He may also feel left out because you are experiencing romance without him. In a healthy open relationship, your intimacy and pleasure in your primary relationship increases because you and your man are sharing new experiences together. If he is not with you on the date, then he deserves to hear all about it afterwards. Take time after your tryst to honor your man and your marriage. He demonstrated his love and trust for you by letting you see a girl on your own. Now, it is your turn to demonstrate how invested you are in your marriage and how much you love him first and foremost. Make love to him passionately, fully and honestly. Show him how much you belong to him and love sharing a life with him.
If you two are best friends, I recommend taking some time to fantasize with him about women. Bring your desires into your married bed. Talk with him about what you would love to do to a female lover WITH him. Include him in this new aspect of your life. Perhaps, you will find a woman who desires an encounter with both of you, and, yes, this would really spice up your sex life. Playing with a female lover together will ensure no one is left out.
XOOXXOXOOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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ASK MISS BLISS - MARRIED TO A MAN AND IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN
Written by Miss Bliss on October 30, 2007 – 10:50 am -Hi, Bliss Warrior,
I’m Bi myself. I made my fantasy a reality about a year ago. Now, I am in love with a girl and I am also married to a man. I find myself really confused about just how honest I should be with my husband. I know that the only way he would ever be “okay” with it is if he is involved. I don’t think I could do that. I wish I could find an easy answer. My husband is a pilot and he is out of town all the time. I think I would go crazy without my girlfriend. The problem is that I’m not always ready to “jump into bed” with him when he gets home. In fact, I find myself less and less sexually attracted to him. SOOOOO confusing, because I have been married to him for 12 years and I always saw myself growing old with him. My girlfriend is also Bi, but she said she would live a lesbian life with me. I can’t honestly tell you what the hell I want. I envy the fact that your proud of yourself. I wish I could figure all this out. I know there is no easy answer.
–Married & Confused
Dear Married & Confused,
Some bisexual girls believe they are not cheating on their man if they have a secret affair with a girl. I have heard girls justify cheating in many ways. One friend said, “I won’t leave him for a woman, so he has nothing to worry about.” Another rolled her eyes at me and said, “Of course any experimentation with a girl would be behind his back! He’s way too conservative and would freak if he found out I was into girls.” I had one girl friend say, “But he’d want to join in and that would disrupt the goddess energy I am seeking!”
Lonely, searching, wondering bigirls…. I know some of you are seeking new physical, sensational and emotional pleasures with the opposite sex and are currently in relationships with men. But let this letter be a warning to you that love affairs with women can end just as messily as love affairs with men. Our married and confused example believed that having a girlfriend would simplify her life–while her man was out working, she could play with her girlfriend. But then fate intervened and disrupted her simple plan and she fell in love.
To think that being bisexual means that you can have a love relationship with one gender and a “strictly” sexual relationship with the other gender is naive and sexist. An affair with a woman can lead to love, which can ultimately lead to divorce, and even a new life in a bigirl-bigirl relationship. If you have children, it is especially important that you realize that cheating with a woman is just as much of a threat to your family as cheating with a man.
Married bigirls and bigirls in relationships can have girlfriends without their man’s participation, but ONLY if their men know about it and approve of it. Bliss Warrior is dedicated to ethical, healthy, and honest relating, and I will never condone lying or cheating in relationships. If you are too afraid to be honest with your man about your desires, you may need couples’ therapy, individual therapy, or a new relationship. Cheating is a sign of other problems within the primary relationship and will not solve anything in the long term.
1. ASK YOUR PARTNER IF IT’S CHEATING
If you catch yourself justifying lying or doing things behind your partner’s back, take a moment to ask yourself, “Would my partner call this cheating?” If the answer is yes, you are. End of story.
2. IF YOU ARE HAVING SEX BEHIND YOUR PARTNER’S BACK,
THE RELATIONSHIP NEEDS SERIOUS HELP
Be good to yourself and get some therapy. If you are truly bi, treat your primary relationship with respect until you can find a way to be the bigirl you want to be in the relationship. If you cannot, it is time to get professional help or take steps to leave the relationship.
3. TREAT YOUR PARTNER THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED
In the end, the energy we put out into the universe comes back to us. If you are acting in love and truth, your partner will treat you the same. Don’t bring hurt, insecurity and extra drama into your life unnecessarily. Understand your partner and help your partner to grow, so your partner can understand you and help you to be the person you want to be.
4. MARRIED GIRLS CAN HAVE HEALTHY, EQUITABLE, HONEST “AFFAIRS” WITH GIRLS
The difference between men and women is that some men really enjoy “good jealousy”. Some men enjoy their partners having flings with other girls, or even other men, because it makes them feel the need to “reclaim” their woman sexually. A known affair can really turn your man on and make him devour you like never before. But the only way to discover if this can work for your relationship, is to talk to your man about it.
Honesty, even through difficult conversations, will bring you and your partner closer together. And that’s what it’s all about in the end, isn’t it?
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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ASK MISS BLISS - A TOMBOY HANDLES JEALOUSY
Written by Miss Bliss on October 9, 2007 – 12:25 pm -Dear Miss Bliss,
I’m a semi-newly married (almost a year) 23 year old who waited. My husband and I have openly and honestly discussed our past experiences and our future desires. He’s had a threesome before, but I have only kissed a girl. I am highly intrigued by the thought of having a threesome, but I am nervous because I have some scars that become visible when my clothes come off. I live in the San Diego area and am having a lot of trouble finding a girl for threesomes. It doesn’t help that I’m a tomboy who doesn’t normally get along too well with girls. I’m also afraid I might become jealous if I see my man doing anything to another girl, but I also think it would be a great opportunity for me to learn more about what a girl can do during sex. Do you have any advice before I post on your comments? Thanks, and thank you oh-so-very much for being who you are: a strong, free, life-loving, independent, hot, sexy woman who’s not afraid to be exactly what she is. openly and unashamed by society’s opinions. For that, I thank you.
-Inexperienced, but Curious
Lovely Inexperienced Tomboy,
There are really four questions in your letter:
1. How do I meet bi-girls in the San Diego Area?
2. What do I do about my scars?
3. How does a tomboy find a female lover?
4. How do I handle my jealousy in a threesome?
1. HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS IN THE SAN DIEGO AREA?
Since I have already dedicated numerous blogs to question number one (including BE THE BI-GIRL YOU WANT TO MEET), I am going to skip that and move right on to questions 2, 3 and 4.
2. WHAT DO I DO ABOUT MY SCARS?
Naturally it depends on where your scars are and what kind of scars you have, but creative lingerie layering may be the answer for you. With stockings, garters and a lace babydoll, you can be incredibly sexy while covering scars in the process.
You already have a man who is crazy about your gorgeous body. Your scars have not kept you from love, yet, and this should not be different with a girl. If you find a female lover who you connect with, share your fears with her. You may be surprised to learn that she is insecure to show you her body, too. Many girls are afraid to be nude around one another because they expect girls to be harsh critics of their physique. From birth, we girls have been taught to judge one another by who’s the prettiest, the thinnest, the fittest, etc, but bi-girls are changing this trend by ADORING the women around them and LOVING their bodies.
3. HOW DOES A TOMBOY FIND A FEMALE LOVER?
Many bi-girls, including myself, say that when they were younger they often got along better with boys than girls and considered themselves to be tomboys. If you are interested in finding a super femme lover, I recommend that you begin experimenting with your femme side. Lingerie is a great way to maintain the tomboy on the outside and the super femme secret on the inside. How does it feel to go to work knowing there’s lace under your cargo pants? How fun is it to strip out of your jeans for some fishnets for around the house? Find your femme side but love your strong, independent, fun tomboy side.
On the other hand, tomboys are sexy to many girls. Perhaps you need to know that some girls adore women in men’s briefs and a wife beater. The point I am getting at here, is the more you love who you are right now in this very moment, the more attractive you will be to everyone. Love attracts love, so don’t worry about being a tomboy and enjoy being you! Your man certainly loves you and girls will, too.
4. HOW TO HANDLE JEALOUSY IN A THREESOME
THE 2 ON 1 RULE - The easiest way to avoid jealousy in a threesome is the 2 on 1 rule. What this means is two lovers focus on the other’s pleasure. For example, if you are inviting a new friend into your bed, you and your husband would please the girl first together. This brings you and your man close together because you are both concentrating your energy on pleasing your lover. If this goes well, she and he can then focus on you. And if this goes well, the two girls can please the man. Jealousy is often caused when one person feels left out. This rule helps keep everyone engaged, touching, and together in bliss.
THE SECRET SIGNAL - Develop a secret signal that will let your partner know something feels wrong to you. This could be a series of taps on your man’s hand, or a certain finger being pulled, anything that you two have agreed upon. This also allows your man to be able to notify you if something does not feel right to him. Remember you have a guest over and it is your duty to make your lover feel safe and comfortable. Do not give the secret signal then have a fight in front of her. Be courteous and chill and know that you and your man will discuss what happened after she leaves.
VETO POWER - Both you and your man reserve veto power, meaning if something is wrong, and the “signal” did not fix the problem, the threesome should end. Again, be incredibly thoughtful and kind to your lover. Jealousy is worked out over time. We do not always know what will make us jealous until it happens, so couples in open relationships need to be prepared to feel it, face it, and talk about it. In the early years of my relationship, jealousy would arise once in awhile, but when it did, my husband and I would talk it through and it brought us closer together.
DECIDE WITH YOUR PARTNER WHAT IS OKAY AND WHAT IS NOT OKAY FIRST -
Planning your threesome before it happens is a way to ensure no one becomes jealous. If you are not okay with your man penetrating the girl, work this out ahead of time. If he is not willing to have an encounter that is only kissing and touching, maybe he is not ready. Remember, the threesome is about bringing you two closer together, so focus on what will please both of you. Is it both of you going down on her together, which can be really fun for novice girls, or is it both of you giving a lover a massage? Remember, the more you know and trust your man, and clearly understand the sexual expectations you both have for the night, the better your experience will be.
DEAR READERS,
THIS WAS MEANT TO BE POSTED YESTERDAY, BUT OUR WONDERFUL 17 YEAR OLD CAT WENT INTO INTENSIVE CARE LAST NIGHT, AND WE LOST HER THIS MORNING. WE ARE VERY SAD, BUT YOUR EMAILS AND COMMENTS HELP SO MUCH.
XOXOXOXOXOX
BLISS
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