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]]> Buy Prozac Without Prescription » We Always Have The LOWEST Pharmacy Online-Offers http://blog.blisswarrior.com/i-hate-the-word-bisexual-brunch-tales-from-albuquerque/comment-page-1/#comment-2085 just gigi Tue, 17 Feb 2009 23:02:56 +0000 http://blog.blisswarrior.com/?p=432#comment-2085 Awesome post. I so related to this. Sometimes I am tempted not to use the "B" word for those very reasons but then deep down I feel the same as you, that we should be able to reclaim it as part of our identities w.out it having negative conotations. it is difficult to tell people. I mean I am a pretty out person and I'm sure most of my friends would be surprised to hear me even say that i find it difficult to identify myself that way at times b/c I do. & yet I totally understand why some ppl don't want to. I have a friend who refuses to refer to herself that way although she is attracted to both sexes. & I get it, why ppl would "not want to be labeled" when those labels have neg. conotations to most. But then to me not to label myself as what I am implies that I am ashamed of my sexuality. That's just my own feelings, I am not judging anyone else's reasons for not wanting to label themselves. But I spent a long time struggling w/ it...to be honest at times I still do, b/c I just feel it would be so much easier to be "straight" or "gay". But I am not and I want to accept that. That's why for me I find it imp. to say I am bisexual. When I was single, for many yrs I was really more interested in dating girls and I found it nearly impossible to find anyone to take me seriously if I said I was bi. I would either have girls trying to trick me into a 3some or not be taken seriously by lesbians. I found very few girls who were truly bisexual...and were open to having a monogomous relationship w/ another woman. I had one lesbian flat out refuse to date me w.out knowing a thing about me except I was bi. I went on another date once where the girl spent the entire date trying to talk me out of wanting to have a relationship exclusively w/ a woman lol...yet she was on a dating site which is where I'd met her. I mean I could go on and on. At one point I did call myself a lesbian but then felt it was not right so I started to say that I was bi but preferred women which was the truth really. But I still found it difficult to find like minded women(not saying I didn't at all but it was just difficult). I honestly think that is why a lot of bisexual women end up w. men(the stereotype)...b/c it's just harder to date women when you identify as bi...maybe that has changed in the last few yrs, I don't know. I think maybe it is slowly. Ok I was going to write more about my current situation but I've already written a novel lol. Sorry. I am very glad you brought up this topic and I really hope to make your next NY brunch to discuss things like this in person! You rock, Bliss. Awesome post. I so related to this. Sometimes I am tempted not to use the “B” word for those very reasons but then deep down I feel the same as you, that we should be able to reclaim it as part of our identities w.out it having negative conotations. it is difficult to tell people. I mean I am a pretty out person and I’m sure most of my friends would be surprised to hear me even say that i find it difficult to identify myself that way at times b/c I do. & yet I totally understand why some ppl don’t want to. I have a friend who refuses to refer to herself that way although she is attracted to both sexes. & I get it, why ppl would “not want to be labeled” when those labels have neg. conotations to most. But then to me not to label myself as what I am implies that I am ashamed of my sexuality. That’s just my own feelings, I am not judging anyone else’s reasons for not wanting to label themselves. But I spent a long time struggling w/ it…to be honest at times I still do, b/c I just feel it would be so much easier to be “straight” or “gay”. But I am not and I want to accept that. That’s why for me I find it imp. to say I am bisexual. When I was single, for many yrs I was really more interested in dating girls and I found it nearly impossible to find anyone to take me seriously if I said I was bi. I would either have girls trying to trick me into a 3some or not be taken seriously by lesbians. I found very few girls who were truly bisexual…and were open to having a monogomous relationship w/ another woman. I had one lesbian flat out refuse to date me w.out knowing a thing about me except I was bi. I went on another date once where the girl spent the entire date trying to talk me out of wanting to have a relationship exclusively w/ a woman lol…yet she was on a dating site which is where I’d met her. I mean I could go on and on. At one point I did call myself a lesbian but then felt it was not right so I started to say that I was bi but preferred women which was the truth really. But I still found it difficult to find like minded women(not saying I didn’t at all but it was just difficult). I honestly think that is why a lot of bisexual women end up w. men(the stereotype)…b/c it’s just harder to date women when you identify as bi…maybe that has changed in the last few yrs, I don’t know. I think maybe it is slowly. Ok I was going to write more about my current situation but I’ve already written a novel lol. Sorry. I am very glad you brought up this topic and I really hope to make your next NY brunch to discuss things like this in person! You rock, Bliss.

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“It is the lack of a bisexual community that makes us feel shame. If we just keep floating under a non-labeled identity, we continue to perpetuate the myth that we are either gay when we’re dating girls or straight when dating men,” I say. “I have a dear friend in Seattle who is ’straight’ when she’s with her heterosexual friends and ‘lesbian’ when she is out with her dyke friends. But she has no space to be her real self and few friends who understand who she really is.”

I couldn’t agree more. My response, as written here:

This really resonated with me personally. I am extremely lucky to have a small community of close friends who are queer/bi (or genuine allies) to whom my bi-ness is visible. But I also still have heterosexual friends who I’m not yet out to, and belong to an LGBT student group to whom I’ve never outright declared myself. In contrast, the relief of being among people who really know who I am is palpable, liberating, and it binds me very tightly to those friends.

I’ve seen a couple of queer-identified people who have rejected the word “bisexual” discuss how they enjoy throwing people for a loop by refusing to identify as straight, gay or bi. I feel the opposite: I want people to be as little confused as possible. I want to be very clear about who I am in this regard. And so I very much agree with you that “floating under a non-labeled identity” makes us invisible.

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:) XOXO

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Thank you again for continuing to inspire and move me to keep going.

Much love,
Lacivia

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