BRUNCH WITH BLISS THIS SATURDAY IN NEW YORK

Written by Miss Bliss on November 17, 2008 – 8:45 am -

Dearest Readers,

I am coming home to New York and excited to announce that I will be hosting my first Bliss Brunch in New York City this Saturday, November 22nd.   Already, over fourteen girls have expressed interest in attending, and all of these women are brilliant, witty and beautiful.

As many of you know, I have hosted brunches around the country and in Canada to bring together bi and bi-friendly women for conversation, friendship and flirtatious fun.  Usually the brunches last two to three hours because it is rewarding and empowering to share the stories a bi-girl just cannot tell her straight friends.

If you would like to join me for brunch this Saturday, November 22nd in the West Village at 2pm, email me at bliss@blisswarrior.com and I will send you the location.  Do not miss this opportunity to make a bi friend.  All curious girls are welcome, as always.

XOOXOXXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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WOULD YOU LIKE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT BLISS BRUNCHES?  READ THE STORIES FROM GIRLS IN LA, SAN DIEGO, TORONTO, MIAMI AND ALBUQUERQUE:
WHY INVITING BI-GIRLS TO BRUNCH IS THE BEST
FROM TOMBOYS TO FAB FEMME GIRLS - TALES FROM TORONTO, PART 1
GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND MAKE A BI-GIRL FRIEND
AN ODD PLACE TO MEET A BI-GIRL
THE STRANGE FOLKS ON CRAIGSLIST
THERE IS NO “ONE-TYPE” OF BI-GIRL
SHE’S A PERFECT GENTLEMAN AND SHE’S PACKIN’
I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE
MY MOM OUTED ME OVER THANKSGIVING DINNER

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ASK MISS BLISS: HOW SHOULD A UNICORN APPROACH AN ATTRACTIVE COUPLE?

Written by Miss Bliss on October 14, 2008 – 9:13 am -

Dear Miss Bliss,

I recently became an advocate of the third party, that is, what I’ve heard referred to as being “The Unicorn.”  It began as a casual friendship and as time progressed my soon-to-be lady lover mentioned her and her boyfriend’s desire to have a threesome.  Not quite comfortable with my bisexuality let alone the company of three, I hesitated.  Shortly thereafter I became intimate with her and not him.  I found myself lucky to be involved with a very healthy couple who discussed everything.  She got permission to be alone with me and the rest was history.  After a few months of lady love, the perfect night came along when all participated.

Sadly, I’ll be moving to another state in the near future, parting from my dearly beloveds.  I’m excited for my new frontier and now that the door is open my fantasies are filled with coupled-friends in which I’m attracted to both lovers.  With my first bi-experience and threesome under my belt, I feel confident in exploring other relationships.  However, I’m new to the scene and I’ve yet to explore approaching women independently, let alone couples.

The prominent couple of my fantasies is one in which I’m better friends with her, but unsure if she’s open to the idea.  How do I approach the subject without offending her in order to maintain a friendship if uninterested?  While trying not to get carried away I want to be respectful of where others are at in their relationships and I want to explain that I am in no way trying to devise a plan to attain her man.  I would like to find the right words to describe the healthy dynamic that I am hoping to find.  Any advice on the matter would bring much gratitude.

xo,
1/3

Dear 1/3,

Congratulations, my dearest unicorn, for finding the perfect couple to open you up to the marvelous world of group intimacy.  As I wrote in my post, Can A Threesome Help You Find Your True Love, there are many single bi-girls who enjoy being intimate with couples.  But you bring up an excellent question: How does a unicorn approach an attractive couple without freaking them out or damaging the friendship?

1.  FIND OUT IF THE GIRL IS OPEN TO BI EXPERIENCES
The first thing to do is take your female friend out for a drink and assess how open she is to bisexual experiences.  (If you are closer to the male partner, you might want to have this conversation with him.)  If you are not quite ready to tell her you are bi, you may want to talk about erotic books (like the Anne Rice Vampire Chronicles or if you are more literary, Henry Miller and Anais Nin) to get a sense of her openness.  Maybe she saw Woody Allen’s new film, Vicky Christina Barcelona, where Scarlett Johansson, Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem briefly live in a triad relationship.  It does not take long to know if she is NOT bi, because if she is grossed out by these scenarios, I am sure she will tell you.

2.  SHARE YOUR PREVIOUS EXPERIENCES TO GET A SENSE OF THE COUPLE’S OPENNESS
Some girls may think they are straight until they hear about your previous adventures with another couple. A lot of female fear quickly turns to curiosity and fascination when someone they know, trust and love has experienced group sex.  Think about the assumptions you had about threesomes before you experienced it firsthand.  Share with the new couple that in your previous threesome you never felt used, were in love with the couple’s relationship, and had no idea it could be so loving, fun and drama-free.

3.  NOT ALL GUYS ARE COMFORTABLE WITH GROUP SEX (SERIOUSLY!)
I know this may come as a surprise to some readers but not all men are open to threesomes.  Men, just like women, can be jealous, insecure and possessive.  Don’t assume that it is a done deal if the female partner is into the threesome.  Make sure that her man wants it just as much as she does.

4.  ASK HER/HIM ABOUT THEIR UNEXPLORED FANTASIES
A good way to get a sense of how open a couple is to being approached about a threesome is to ask them about their sexual fantasies.  What naughty things have they done in the past?  What naughty things would they like to do in the future?  What fantasies have they masturbated to?  Nothing turns people on more than talking about sex.  Get them talking and the sexual energy will surge.  Plus, if they say they’ve always wanted a threesome, you may just be on your way to an unforgettable night.

5.  SHARE YOUR STORY AND HELP HER SEE YOU WERE NOT EXPLOITED
Once you know the couple is open to bisexuality, share your positive past experiences.    Pornography has conditioned us to believe that threesomes are male-centered and about the guy’s pleasure.  This makes some women hesitant to participate in group scenarios because they do not want to exploit other women.  However, in a loving threesome, no one is exploited because all three participants share equal love and pleasure.  For the group sex virgin, this is hard to imagine and understand.  By sharing your threesome story, you help them to see how loving a group experience can be.  You also become a leader because you are teaching that most porn does not represent bisexual culture.

6.  DOES SHE KNOW YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO HER?
An important secret about girls is they are always the last to know if another girl likes them.  Because of this, they also fear that you are more attracted to their partner than them.  Make sure she knows you are attracted to her.  Girls want to feel special,  so make sure to let her know how beautiful she is (and, if you’re feeling confident, how much you want to kiss her.)

7.  SHOW THAT SEX DID NOT HARM YOUR FRIENDSHIP WITH YOUR PREVIOUS LOVERS
Another block to having sexual experiences with friends is they worry that the love affair will harm the friendship.  What the group sex virgin does not know is that sex can enhance a friendship.  Again, the best way to convince someone of this truth is to share your story and show that sex only made your friendship with the couple better.

One thing to note here: if bringing up the fact that you are bi and interested in a threesome harms the friendship, you may have outgrown it.  Although this is sad, letting go of some friends gives you space for new relationships with people who love you for who you really are.

8.  OPENLY DISCUSS HOW SURPRISED YOU ARE BY HOW WONDERFUL IT IS TO BE BI
As I have written before, Be The Bi-Girl You Want to Meet.  When you are bisexual and proud, you will attract the right lovers to you.  Trust your intuition.  If it doesn’t feel right to share your desires with certain friends, don’t.  If it feels like certain friends are potentially great lovers, trust it and expect great results.

XXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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ASK MISS BLISS - SHE DISAPPEARED WITHOUT A WORD

Written by Miss Bliss on January 9, 2008 – 6:37 am -

Dear Miss Bliss,

Several months ago, I met a girl from Craigslist. We hit it off and we were both attracted to each other. We were alike in that we’re both bi, femme, artistic, and “closeted” so we understood each other’s need for privacy. Since we never hung out together during the day doing regular daytime activities, I wouldn’t call what we had a “friends with benefits” type of relationship, but we’d call or text each other whenever one of us was in need of soft and sensual female companionship. We saw each other for several months and she was really sweet. Although she had a lot of drama going on in her life, she’d always text message me saying how she wanted to see me, or just to say “how are you” and ask how things were going. We were like secret friends: we’d meet at night, talk, cuddle, kiss… I felt like a little girl again keeping secrets from the rest of the world by meeting her at night to indulge in our fantasies.

It’s been a month since I last heard from her, and for the life of me, I can’t figure out what I might have done or said to make her have a change of heart. We never said if we were seeing other girls, although I assume she must have been in hindsight. Even still, I don’t understand how she could go from frequent messaging to no contact at all. I feel like a fool and am a little hurt.

If I hadn’t met her on Craigslist, I never would’ve guessed she was bi because she looks very straight. Is it possible to look TOO straight or too innocent and wholesome? I think I look really straight, and I know everyone thinks I’m younger than I really am. I don’t have any problems attracting men, but when it comes to girls, I feel like I’m not pretty enough and that I’m not attractive enough for them.

I don’t want this to bother me, but as much as I hate to admit it, it does. Why do you think she disappeared?

xoxoxo
Missing My Secret Friend

Dear Missing,

I am deeply grateful to know that there are still innocent, young and wholesome girls on Craigslist. Even better, there are two wholesome girls on Craigslist who found each other and got to spend months delighting one another with sweet messages and warm curled bodies. Unfortunately, lack of direct communication and a bit of insecurity probably led this delightful sensuous friendship on a path to a bad outcome.

COMMUNICATION IN LOVE AFFAIRS IS ESSENTIAL
I personally do not like the terms “fuck buddies” or “friends with benefits”. Although they do describe a relationship accurately, I would rather find a lover and have a love affair… but that is just me! You were having a “sensual” affair and enjoying the secret that only you knew: you, the straightest-seeming girl in the world, had found a lover! But for some reason, you two were not communicating well.

GIRLS WITH DRAMA ATTRACT DRAMA
Lovely girl, the minute you wrote that your friend had “a lot of drama” going on, I knew what one of the problems may be. Girls with stress, anxiety, insecurity, chaos and craziness in their lives are not the girls to get involved with sexually and emotionally. If she already has drama in her life, she will attract more drama, and that drama, unfortunately, will eventually involve you.

DO NOT CREATE UNNECESSARY DRAMA
I do not know why you assume in hindsight she had other female lovers. Be careful not to create drama that is not there. Just because she disappeared does not necessarily mean she was seeing another girl.

LOOKING YOUNG IS NEVER A BAD THING
Alright. I think you are the first girl to ever worry about looking too young. Take time today to enjoy how fresh and youthful you are, and make sure to be grateful for the amazing genes you have. Know that you will only become more grateful as you enter your 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond!

ALL GIRLS ARE INSECURE

Every girl worries that she will be the girl no other girl will be attracted to. We are taught from an early age to compete with one another; we are trained to size each other up and decide who is prettier, thinner, more popular, and sexier. Because of this toxic behavior, we all have a part of ourselves that is insecure, especially around other women. What helps us is remembering that other girls feel the same way, so we need to communicate actively how beautiful, sexy, fit and wonderful they are. When we make another girl feel valued and adored, we also feel more attractive and secure.

INSECURE GIRLS ACT LIKE CRAZY GIRLS
We all know that when we are feeling insecure, we do not act our best. I think your lovely girl disappeared because she was too insecure to communicate with you directly. Maybe she wanted the relationship to go deeper than you did. Maybe her “drama” got too overwhelming and she got swallowed up in it. Maybe she was getting to attached to you or worried that you were too attached to her.

The point is, it does not really matter why she disappeared. It was wrong of her to hurt you without communicating why she could no longer continue the friendship. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, but move on. There are plenty of other amazing girls out there that are ready to be direct and upfront with you and treat you like a lover should be treated.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
BLISS

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IF YOU ENJOYED THIS BLOG, YOU MAY ENJOY READING:
ADVICE FOR BABY BI-GIRLS PART 1 -FINDING A FEMALE LOVER
ASK MISS BLISS - SHE TIED ME UP, TOOK MY PICTURE & TOOK OFF
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MEET ME IN MIAMI ON SATURDAY JANUARY 19TH FOR BRUNCH!!
please RSVP to bliss@blisswarrior.com
MORE INFORMATION IN TOMORROW’S BLOG

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STRAP-ON SOME ETIQUETTE

Written by Miss Bliss on September 13, 2007 – 8:48 pm -

Simply because a girl sleeps with both boys and girls does not necessarily mean she will want to strap-on a dildo and penetrate another girl at the drop of a hat. There is an etiquette to introducing a female lover to strap-on intercourse, and a variety of reasons why an open ethical bigirl may want to wait a bit before bringing her purple-glittered leather-harnessed cock into the mix.

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REASON 1
MAKE HER WAIT AND MAKE HER WANT

When a bi-girlfriend of mine calls me to say she has finally met THE girl, but this is not just any bigirl, this is the totally bi-from-birth girl who is beautiful and smart and really into her and really into her guy and she cannot believe their luck and they met up last night and are going to meet tomorrow night and she cannot wait to fuck her with a strap-on….

I say, “Whoa, hold on there, doll. You have finally met that special creature; another bigirl just like you who is equally entranced with you. This is a gift. Slow down. Enjoy the love affair and let it build slowly.”

Usually, I get a pout from the other end of the line. Bisexuals are not generally the patient type. “But what if she loses interest?”

“Oh, sweetie,” I say, “don’t you see? Let each date be a little taste and a lot of restraint.
Let the girl imagine you fucking her…Whisper to her how much you want to use a strap-on on her, right after you and your man have made her orgasm with both of your mouths. When she first asks you to fuck her, say no, I won’t penetrate you until you beg me to.Because nothing is better than having a girl say to you, ‘I will die if you don’t fuck me with that purple-glittered cock of yours right now! I can’t wait a second longer.’”

REASON 2
STRAP-ON NOVICES LIKE TO WAIT

Another reason to save the strap-on for a few trysts down the road, is some bigirls are very self-conscious about fucking their female partners or being fucked by a strap-on because they have never done it before. Because bisexuals pride themselves on being excellent and equitable lovers, a strap-on novice may say she does not want to use a strap-on, or have one used on her, because she is afraid she will not be able to return the favor and fuck her partner well.

There is nothing a bigirl fears more than fucking a girl poorly!

This is where good communication is key, and if you are a strap-on expert, I strongly encourage you to share any tips you have learned with your novice-lover. In my adventures, I have learned that moving your hips in slow, lingering circles while the dildo is inside of your partner can be much more effective and much more of a clitoris stimulant than the traditional in-and-out.

I look forward to hearing strap-on techniques from you bliss readers.

REASON 3
USE CONDOMS WITH ALL TOYS

(and lube, of course)
This is not a reason to wait to use a strap-on, just an etiquette point.

No matter if the girl says she ran it through the dishwasher, boiled it, sprayed it with defectant or whatever, it is not rude and absolutely fundamental to use condoms with other people’s toys, and smart to use with your own so you know your toys are always disease-free.

Treat the fake cocks like the real ones and always use condoms.

Besides, if you practice this regularly, when you find yourself in a fabulous group girl orgy, you will be safe, sexy, and ready to be the gang-bang superstar of your pornographic dreams with your clean silicon cock.

THANKS FOR READING!!!!
XOXOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR


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BI FROM BIRTH? OR, MY BARBIE’S SEXUALLY DEVIANT

Written by Miss Bliss on March 12, 2007 – 6:12 pm -

Scientists claim there’s a gene that determines if you are gay or straight. Does that mean bigirls got two genes for the price of one?

Years ago, over vodka and soda, Sara said to me, “I was never with a girl until I met Matt. When we first met, he was shocked I hadn’t been with a girl. He said the minute he saw me, he said to himself, she’s bi.”

Drunk and in my twenties, I was so thrilled to finally have another open, pretty, sane, smart, in a seemingly-healthy-good-relationship, bigirl to talk to. Talking with my straight friends just ended up with them hitting on me, or worse, asking why I’ve never hit on them. Talking with my gay friends ended up with a talk about how soon I’d realize I’m done with the bi stage and can join them in the “purely” gay stage. But here we were. Two bigirls, both in relationships, so we could be just friends. How magical and new!

I turned to her, “When I was growing up, being bisexual wasn’t really an option. You were just beginning to be able to be gay… And I knew I loved men, and I knew I loved being a really feminine woman, so being with girls sexually didn’t really cross my mind.”

“I went down on my best friend in second grade,” Sara says with a luscious glazed smile.

“I thought you said you didn’t do anything until Matt…”

“I forgot about it until I was going down on this blonde. Right when she was about to come, this memory flashed through my head, and I remembered everything. My dad caught us.” She shakes her head. “Opps.” She is utterly charming.

“I was madly in love with my best friends.” I tell her, aware of her toned arms. “I took baths with one, we slept in the same bed, took naps. You should have seen what went on when we played with our Barbies.”

“What?”

“I didn’t have any Ken dolls. I couldn’t be bothered with a toy with no hair and nothing in his pants. Why buy that? So I only had girl dolls, which were prettier and had hair to brush….”

“Or cut! I cut all my Barbie’s hair!”

“But she’d come over to play and we would make our Barbie’s rape each other, tie each other up, force them into strange sex rituals. My Barbie’s were into some really messed-up role-plays.”

Sara moves her hair behind her ear. “My Barbie’s were total sluts. They did the dirtiest stuff and, you know what else is a weird coincidence, I never had a Ken doll! My mom even bought one for me and I brought it back to the store and exchanged it for that Barbie in the wheelchair.”

So, darling Bliss Warriors out there, I pose this question:
Were your Barbie’s sexually deviant?

Write back and let me know.   Maybe it’s a sign you were BI FROM BIRTH.

xoxoxoxox
BW


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