ASK MISS BLISS - MAKE MY BRAIN COME

Written by Miss Bliss on October 17, 2007 – 8:51 pm -

Dear Miss Bliss,

I know that you aren’t a doctor or professional in sexual matters, but I read your blog, HOW MANY WAYS CAN YOU CLIMAX? and it sort of hit home for me. I am definitely one of those girls who finds it hard to masturbate. Not because it’s too messy or anything, but because I can honestly say that I’m not too in touch with my Lucy. (Lucy is the name for my vagina. Crazy, I know, but I hate how pussy, or cunt, sounds.) It’s a difficult thing to admit out loud, and so far, only my boyfriend knows.

This is why I’m curious to be with a women, because I’m hoping to climax in a new way. Please don’t think me an odd person, but I’ve never had an orgasm with my boyfriend. I have with my vibrator, but with him, an orgasm won’t come. My boyfriend has noticed this and tried to break down my walls of inhibition to get me there. I feel pleasure, I love it, but too much pleasure gets me less hot down there. It has discouraged me tremendously from desire and made me feel hopeless.

I just don’t like how it feels to touch myself inside, so what do I do?

–Lady M.

Darling Lady M.,

Since seventh grade, I have enjoyed touching myself and making myself orgasm, and I strongly believe the better a girl knows how to pleasure herself, the better and more frequent her orgasms with her lover will be. Women’s bodies are unique; there is no one way to make a girl come. Loving women is marvelous because discovering what makes her feel pleasure is always as individual as her personality. So, darling, be gentle with yourself and remember that sex is a sensual act for women, and an orgasm is not the only goal.

THE P-WORD
I agree with you that cunt is an ugly word, although it can be charming when a Brit man screams it at a footballer. But I have to disagree with you on the P-word. I happen to like the word pussy. Imagine you are with a girl and she is kissing your neck while you smell her perfume and feel the softness of her hair against your breast. She whispers in a sweet purr, “You have a beautiful pussy,” and for the first time, you are overwhelmed by the complement. I bet you will be able to enjoy talking about your pretty pussy after that!

BRING YOUR VIBRATOR TO BED
If the vibrator makes you shake and shimmer, bring your vibrator into bed. Give you man a show and let him watch you make yourself come. Give him a live erotic show and teach him what you like, so he can learn from you. Some couples enjoy having a vibrator between both of them during intercourse so they can enjoy the vibrations together. Use the vibrator on him, and he will not be nervous to use it on you.

AGE AND CLIMAXING
Research demonstrates that women tend to have more orgasms as they get older. If you are in your twenties and having difficulty climaxing, do not worry. This is very natural and normal, and when you turn thirty and forty, you will delight in your new sexual power. For now, focus on enjoying the pleasures you are already experience because worrying about coming makes it harder to orgasm.

STOP AND GO AND COME
Most women need at least twenty minutes of foreplay to achieve orgasm. But sometimes too much pressure on the clit can make a girl sore before she can come. To avoid wearing yourself out before you achieved bliss, try to stop and go and come. Let your partner pleasure you and get you close to where you feel energy building between your legs. Then make him/her stop. Take a break, focus on his pleasure for awhile, then repeat. Eventually, the sexual energy will demand to be released. Sometimes trying NOT to come, is exactly what will help you climax.

KEGELS AREN’T JUST FOR PREGNANT CHICKS
Your kegel muscles should be exercised daily to make sex better and orgasms easier. When you are peeing and you stop the flow, you are exercising your kegel muscles. Experts recommend squeezing these muscles 100 times a day to help tone the muscles that bring you bliss. (A fun thing to do while at the office!) During intercourse, tighten your kegels and see how happy your new muscles make your man.

TEACH YOURSELF HOW TO MAKE A GIRL COME  (BY PRACTICING ON YOU)
Lovely girl, I know you think a girl might be able to give you the orgasm your man has not given you, but this is unlikely. Not impossible, but not something I would bet on. Girls who know what gives them pleasure and who masturbate a lot are the same ones who have varied and multiple orgasms. If you do not like the way you feel inside, do you think you will enjoy feeling another girl? Learn on your own body. Treat your gorgeous self in the same way you would please a girl. And, if you still do not want to put your fingers inside of yourself, start experimenting with glass dildos and new sex toys. The more playful you are with yourself, the more your body will respond.

MAKE YOUR BRAIN COME
Women are not like men. An orgasm is not simply a physical response to stimulation. For a woman to climax, her brain needs to come first. For some women, reading romance novels, Anne Rice books, or Penthouse Letters can stimulate the sexual response in the brain. Perhaps you need to describe a vivid sexual fantasy during sex with your partner. Maybe watching erotica with your partner can turn on your mind and get you into your body. Whatever it is, if you are thinking about how you cannot come, you will not be able to come. What turns your brain on, dear reader? Find this and you may find the key that unlocks multiple pleasures.

XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR

THANK YOU FOR READING!
LOVE YOURSELF!
LOVE WOMEN!
GIVE LOVE!
XOXOXOXOXO


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