THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION, HOW DO I MEET BI-GIRLS?
Written by Miss Bliss on February 12, 2008 – 12:55 pm -Darling Bliss Warriors,
As many of you know, this week marks the one-year anniversary of Bliss Warrior and what an amazing year it has been! When I first began Bliss Warrior, I wondered if anyone would be interested in my blog. You can imagine my surprise as each month it has grown in readership. As of today, I’ve had over 50,000 hits and each day the number of readers grows. So, I thank you all. Thank you for reading, thank you for your letters, and thank you for referring your sexy friends.
Since I began the Ask Miss Bliss column, the most common letter I receive is, “How do I meet a Bi-girl?” There is no bar for bisexual women to meet, so how do bi-girls find one another? Some try posting on Craigslist; others have taken my advice and created bisexual myspace pages; others have been so bold as to host brunches in their hometowns for bi-girls to meet for friendship and community. But still, the letters pour in.
“Miss Bliss, when will you host a brunch in San Francisco?” “When are you coming to Chicago?” “How does a bi-girl in St. Louis meet other bisexuals?” Obviously, I do not yet have the funds or time to host brunches all over the country and even when I do, it seems the week after I leave more emails come in saying, “I missed your brunch. When is the next one?”
Luckily, a few months ago, a talented graphic designer and baby bi-girl in Hawaii contacted me, asking if she could help support the growth of Bliss Warrior. Perhaps some of you noticed that my commercial site became prettier, more professional, and definitely sexier. This is all thanks to my talented Hawaiian designer and the fabulous programmer she brought into our small, grassroots team.
In the last three months, the three of us have been working hard to create an answer to my most frequent question, “How do I meet bi-girls”, and next month, we are proud to announce the opening of the first-ever cyberspace “bar” for bisexual women….
HOTEL BLISS -A PLACE FOR BI-GIRLS AND THEIR FRIENDS
Hotel Bliss will launch in mid-March. It will be for women only and is a completely private site for bi-girls to be themselves and find others in their hometowns.
So many bisexual women have posted on Craigslist only to be harassed by men and to receive ugly pictures of hairy genitalia. On Myspace, many girls have changed their sexual identity from “bi” to “undisclosed” because of unwanted disgusting emails from men who should know better.
Many bi-curious girls write me saying they are too scared their family or coworkers will find out they are bi that they are basically paralyzed into doing nothing. Hotel Bliss will give them a safe, private place to explore their curiosity while meeting like-minded friends.
Hotel Bliss is about community, friendship, and support for bisexual women. It will not be a swinger site or a place for cruising (there are plenty of those sites already out there). It is a place for bi-girls to know that they are not alone and that there are many of us out there who want the same things: healthy, sensuous, ethical, open, honest and fun relationships.
Every year I go to a Pride Parade, and whether it’s in New York or Los Angeles, there is always a moment when I wonder to my man, “Where are all the bi-girls? When do we get our Pride Parade?” Ladies, this is the year for bi-women to stop feeling alone. This is the year we stop being the little “b” in LGBT… This is the year where we become proud of all the expressions of the bisexual identity: monosexual, pansexual, poly, whatever… We are all magical bi creatures and deserve to be as proud as our lesbian, straight, gay and transgender brothers and sisters. The only reason we have not felt this way is because we have felt alone. Hotel Bliss seeks to change this.
I hope you all join me in late March when Hotel Bliss officially launches. This is a grassroots organization and we need your participation and support to help the community grow.
Again, thank you for supporting Bliss Warrior. None of this could happen without you.
XOXOOXXOXOXOXO
BLISS WARRIOR
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By Dimples - Girl Around Town
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Exciting news! Thank you and your friends for this new outlet! You are wonderful and thanks for thinking of all of us!
By Mary
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Yay! I can’t wait!!
By Cristina
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
OMG!! Hotel Bliss sounds like the place to be at!! I kept reading CraigsList, but am way to intimidated to reply, even to the ones that sound perfect! And forget about posting! I’m on another adult site, but… it isn’t just for Bi-women. I do have my MySpace listed as Bi, but haven’t had anyone approach me - male of female. (Maybe that is because I had myself listed as straight for so long…) (Still gathering self-confidence before I go approaching anyone else.)
Thank you so much so ALL your help and columns. It is more wonderful than you know to be aware that I am not alone. That there are many, many, many other women in the same boat I am. (As a matter of fact, after I joined your page, THAT is when I ‘came out’ on my MySpace page from straight to bi.)
Thank you again!
By michelle
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Hotel Bliss! How exciting! I can’t wait to check in. I did notice your sexy banner on your professional page. Your designer in Hawaii did that? She’s good!
Thanks for blogging Miss B! We all love your words and the community you’ve built!
xoxoxox,
M
By shananigans
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
This news made my day in particular when I feel like I am losing faith in making connections. I am thinking about making my sexuality undisclosed because some people delete me because of it and more of the soul bearing blogs I post. Your new site couldn’t come at a better time for us…..Thank you so much sweetie!
By Vela-Marie
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Yay! That is super exciting, dearest. Anything I can do to help, let me know. I like what you wrote about not being the little “b” anymore. Very impassioned. Here, here!!!!!
xoxo
By leah rose
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Thanks Miss Bliss!!!!
Yay, I can not wait, better believe you have my support!
xoxo
By raider nation
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
this is what all us bi girls have been waiting for. thank you… i can’t wait i wish it was march already
By hey jude
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
As for myself, when I put ‘bi’ on my profile , my ex husband saw it and told his entire family and my former friends about it. Now I am afraid I am being whispered about when I take my son to school, and I don’t let any of my female friends know about my secret side. Funny how both men and women can use this against you. You are right–there is definite discrimination going on, and it blows.
By cougar in training
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
I can’t wait for the Hotel. I joined a bi chat group but really am not enjoying it as I don’t do chat rooms… I am glad to hear things are progressing so well for you!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
jj
By jungle jane
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
applause! Well said ma lady! Excellent description! Perfecto!
and damn that banner is sexy!
By baby
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
I’m so happy for you sweetie! I’m so excited to share in your good news and couldn’t be happier to hear that people are responding so well to your website! Thank you for being so wonderful, real, and fearless:) xoxoxo
By Cassandrah Scarpaw
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Sounds good! It’s always wonderful when we can get a community together for love and friendship as well!
By Brianne
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Bliss - just look at you go! You are an inspiration. Truly. You are touching so many lives and helping give an outlet to those who lack one. You are an amazing creature and I am honored to know you!
By tahoe girl
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
What wonderful news!!! Just what the b-girl community needs!!! Yay!
I adore your page & love the insight that you share with all of us bi-girls.
Keep rockin it! and I’ll keep readin it!
Besos>
Lana
By fei fei
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Sweet! You’ll have my support forever
By diana
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
Thank-you so much, Bliss for all you have done this past year for us bi girls! I am really excited about the debut of Hotel Bliss! Like so many women here, I too changed my listing from bi to undisclosed for fear of coworkers finding out–when you’re a musician by profession and some of your income comes from playing church jobs, etc., it is so necessary to be careful. Totally unfair and seemingly shouldn’t be an issue in this day and age and yet the judgement out there remains. To know there are people out there that embrace as I do that love transcends gender–it’s the person 1st and foremost that one falls in love with or is attracted to–this is very comforting. I think we bi women have it hardest of all because most of us seem to appear completely straight to society and as women we are not naturally the aggressors, so it’s hard to approach another woman in the 1st place. So a place like Hotel Bliss will be a wonderful opportunity it sounds like, to just be ourselves and share our desires and hopes, and to also be supportive of each other. We are all in this together!
XOXOXO~~Diana
By Danika
on Feb 12, 2008 | Reply
I am so excited for Hotel Bliss!! I think its a wonderful idea and can’t wait for the launch.
Danika
By snarff snarff
on Feb 13, 2008 | Reply
What a great idea, I’m so there. Your graphic designer is so great
By b is for brawler
on Feb 13, 2008 | Reply
It just KEEPS getting better!!!
By fairie girl
on Feb 13, 2008 | Reply
Just let us all know when the Hotel is launched. It sounds like a great thing you’re doing.
By socks in MA hands
on Feb 14, 2008 | Reply
Wow! Hotel Bliss is exactly what
the world has been missing.
I can’t wait!
By miss girl
on Feb 14, 2008 | Reply
Hooray!
By crisssSsssa
on Feb 15, 2008 | Reply
hat, my dear… is KILLER!!!
xo
By Indie Chic
on Feb 17, 2008 | Reply
How awesome is this? Yeah! I’m so glad there will be a place that we can finally belong. It is so hard to find each other with barriers out there like fear and discrimination. I too, have also tried CL with no success. And I live in the “Triangle” for goodness sake! Hotel Bliss sounds like the perfect safe place for us all to meet. Bravo again, Bliss! Your making Bi history! Keep up the amazing work! xoxo
By Les
on Mar 23, 2008 | Reply
I can’t believe you have been around for a year and I have not found you until now. I think this is a great site and the Hotel Bliss beta test is wonderful.
I agree with what you’ve said on parts 1 & 2 of How to meet bi-girls. I have also had women not show up, cancel at the very last minute, trail off for no particular reason once you’re ready to plan the actual date, and ask constantly, “I missed your [meeting]. When is the next one?” as I am trying to start a club and have had a few successful meetings though still trying to get off the ground. CL doesn’t really offer as much opportunity as one would think. I too have been very disappointed by it at times.
Well, I do find that there are a lot of women who come off as teases, but it’s great that you pointed out that they too are scared. I can completely understand that because one’s sexuality is not always easy to confront, especially if you didn’t know that side of yourself for most of your life, as happened with me. I only accepted this about myself recently and since last year had tried to put something together to gather with other women like me.
I too have always found that there is a great prejudice against us because we are perceived as not being able to “choose sides” or being thought as simply being promiscuous. I am a very open-minded and sexually adventurous woman, but my sexuality is more than about play time. It’s hard enough feeling comfortable with who I am to understand how to always help others feel comfortable with themselves enough to open up to me. It’s like a catch-22. So sad that we do forget that we are not alone, because that in itself is something that once we accept and learn patience for can, can alleviate our fears enough to truly open up so that we may reach out to others like ourselves and finally not be so alone.
Lets work towards understanding each other reaching out to each other and removing fear of judgment to be who we are as we evolve into who we are meant to be…